My boyfriend wants a threesome

[dede2010]

my boyfriend wants us 2 have a 3 some, i am unsure as i think i will be jealous and worried he will enjoy the other girl more etc, anybody please help

[Jo7]

Hey dede2010, welcome to TheSite

I've made a new thread from your post as it was on the end of a thread from 2006. You should find you get more replies this way.

You might want to have a look at this article on threesomes too

[SuzyCreamcheese]

i think youve answered your own question. Youd be jealous and it would be a competition more than you properly enjoying it.
In your case id say dont do it

[MoK]

Don't do it because he wants to, if you do it then it should be because you want to.

If he ultimately tires to pressure you then he's not worth your time either...

[squeal]

Originally Posted by MoK

Don't do it because he wants to, if you do it then it should be because you want to.

If he ultimately tires to pressure you then he's not worth your time either...

I agree with this completely.

If you don't want to do it then don't. Forcing yourself to to make him happy will make you despise him and obviously the jealousy as you mentioned will be a huge issue. It will be downhill from there.

Suggest to him a threesome with another man. He'll maybe find that he feels the same way as you do, it might make him understand from your view point.

[dede2010]

he has suggest to have to seperate 3somes 1 with him myself and another female and another with him myself and another male.

Originally Posted by dede2010

he has suggest to have to seperate 3somes 1 with him myself and another female and another with him myself and another male.

It is an interesting form of compromise, but if you feel uncomfortable with it, then dont go ahead with it just because it would make him happy.

[Big Gay]

[this was in response to a message from a spammer, which basically said the OP would have to agree to everything het partner wanted, or he would cheat]

I don't think that's the case - as long as the wants on both sides are generally met then a single issue isn't likely to cause it.

[The Convincer]

Originally Posted by dede2010

he has suggest to have to seperate 3somes 1 with him myself and another female and another with him myself and another male.

I bet you he's thinking of mff & mfm though, so not entirely equal, if you're heterosexual.

[Teagan]

Originally Posted by The Convincer

I bet you he's thinkig of mff & mfm though, so not entirely equal, if you're heterosexual.

And tell him you want a mmf or a mfm first before you have a fmf. That might question his commitment.

[CptCoatHanger]

Originally Posted by Teagan

And tell him you want a mmf or a mfm first before you have a fmf. That might question his commitment.

I don't think I've fully understood the nuances of threesomes!

Do I visualise mmf, mfm fmf like a picture? A sort of grammatical sex train?

[Lexi99]

Originally Posted by CptCoatHanger

I don't think I've fully understood the nuances of threesomes!

Do I visualise mmf, mfm fmf like a picture? A sort of grammatical sex train?

Thats what i thought, surely theres no difference between mmf or mfm, unless it just depends on whether the guys get involved with each other or not?

[CptCoatHanger]

Originally Posted by Lexi99

Thats what i thought, surely theres no difference between mmf or mfm, unless it just depends on whether the guys get involved with each other or not?

mmf I imagine a dude doing a dude while he does a girl.
mfm I imagine a rather full girl.

[queenmab_roo]

Haha, so delicately put CptCoatHanger!

[jamelia]

Originally Posted by CptCoatHanger

I don't think I've fully understood the nuances of threesomes!

Do I visualise mmf, mfm fmf like a picture? A sort of grammatical sex train?

Haha, I'm so glad you asked this - I was thinking I must be terribly naive or vanilla for having no idea how mmf might be different from mfm, when everyone else seemed to know exactly what this might refer to!

So is mfm just basically a spitroast?