Coming out as gay/Bi

[Broken-Angel]

Sorry if theres a thread like this!

I just wanted to know how you came out to your parents? and how old you were?

Thanks.
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[Teagan]

I told my parents when I was just 14. I still hadn't had any sexual experience by then but I knew what I was from an even earlier age.

[notanotherusername!]

I don't think i could come out to my parents!

You planning to?

[PreciousAndLoveIt]

[quote=notanotherusername!;2272041]I don't think i could come out to my parents! QUOTE]

Nah sames.
I know their views on things like this so if i was gay or anything i'd never tell them.
Mum not so bad but i think my dad and my brother would disown me. No joke x

[Broken-Angel]

Originally Posted by Teagan

I told my parents when I was just 14. I still hadn't had any sexual experience by then but I knew what I was from an even earlier age.

What did you say?? I really want to tell my mum... but I can't find the words. I was thinking of waiting till I have a serious girlfriend, then saying something like "mum, I want you to meet my girlfriend" but I know my mum will get really annoyed at me... She's always said she'd hate a gay daughter.

But I'm not to fussed about my mum, it's more my friends. A lot of them are homophobic and I really couldn't deal with that. But I want to be honest. Right now I am just not into boys at all, and I don't think I will be for a few years. But I don't want to be single. It's really hard.

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[notanotherusername!]

Well, I thought my friends would cast me out but i was drunk and blurted out that i got off with a girl...and quickly told them it was a dare. I don't know what they think but they are fine with me. So it might not be that bad.

[Broken-Angel]

Originally Posted by notanotherusername!

Well, I thought my friends would cast me out but i was drunk and blurted out that i got off with a girl...and quickly told them it was a dare. I don't know what they think but they are fine with me. So it might not be that bad.

Oh god I hope your right! I'm going to talk to Levi tomorrow and see what he thinks (he is the most gay-est person EVER. But you have to love him!)

I don't know a lot of my friends very well, so if I only told a few do you think it would be okay? Or should I tell all of them? oohh god. I really need to tell them though, I don't like pretending to be straight.
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[Lexi99]

Originally Posted by Broken-Angel

I was thinking of waiting till I have a serious girlfriend, then saying something like "mum, I want you to meet my girlfriend"

I wouldnt do this if i were you. She'd probably feel like you had been going behind her back

[Broken-Angel]

Originally Posted by Lexi99

I wouldnt do this if i were you. She'd probably feel like you had been going behind her back

Yeah, good point actually. Ah! this is hard. I might not tell my mum but tell some friends. I've known for like 2 years I'm bi, and it's getting quite hard to hide. Espaically because people say like "oh, that's so gay." And I just sit there and grit my teeth.
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[notanotherusername!]

Originally Posted by Broken-Angel

I don't know a lot of my friends very well, so if I only told a few do you think it would be okay? Or should I tell all of them? oohh god. I really need to tell them though, I don't like pretending to be straight.
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well...do you have to tell them. I mean if you don't know them that well it might be a bit werid to just come out with it. but its up to you

I've known most my friends since i was like 6 and i only told the girls (as it was a gilrs drunk night) and we are a very close bunch.

[notanotherusername!]

Originally Posted by Broken-Angel

Espaically because people say like "oh, that's so gay." And I just sit there and grit my teeth.
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It doesn't bother me when people say that. I mean they (or most the time) are making no reference to gay people. Its just progression with the meaning of words (not a very good one but still)

[PreciousAndLoveIt]

Yeah it's hard!
NAUN... believe me i don't think any of them care. I don't anyhoo. How could i with my fecking score!? lol
Thing is, i have a very erm... suggestive sense of humour, so i think if anything like that ever did come out about me... ooooh i don't wanna be on the end of that!
It's not like i'm hitting on my friends! I'm just like that. I just worry they won't see it like that... x

[Broken-Angel]

[quote=notanotherusername!;2272076]well...do you have to tell them. I mean if you don't know them that well it might be a bit werid to just come out with it.QUOTE]

Yeah, I know. I don't think I'll tell the year 8's because they wont accept it, I know that. Hmmm there's a lot to think about.

Pros:

They will know who I really am
I will be able to tell who really likes me (because they'll still be my friend)
I'll be able to make new friends
It'll make me feel better

Cons:
They might hate me
I'll get bullied
I might not be able to get a girlfriend because I don't know any other bi girls

Oh. This is hard! If I knew what to say it might be easier, but I don't even know what I'd say.
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[notanotherusername!]

mmm well. It depends do you think they would spread it? I mean it is pritty socialy accepted now. I mean I know quite a few bi/gay people. and no one ever bothers them.

If you do tell them i wouldn't make a big deal of it, just kinda say it casualy.

[PreciousAndLoveIt]

Yeah casually is probs the best way.
Don't worry too much about telling your mum either. If she loves you, like i'm sure she does, she won't care too much. Or hopefully not anyway x