How do people deal with inconsiderate housemates?

[Melian]

Originally Posted by Kat_B

You finish at 4pm - go to the library and work for a couple of hours. Yes, it'll be dark when you come out but it's really not that late. And as mentioned, it will also be dark at 4pm, so does it really make much difference?

it makes a lot of difference. It's 4pm now and the sun is starting to set. In 2 hours, it'll be pitch black.

[Kat_B]

Well, I don't think it's THAT much darker at 4 than it is at 6.

And I'm still not sure what your point is - surely you're going to go out somewhere after 4, even if it is dark? You're not going to stay in just because it's dark.

[Melian]

Originally Posted by Big Gay

you're asking them to change their routines.

By asking them to keep their noise down?

[FireyFirenze]

to be honest melian i know that if i was the one living with you i think i'd find you the unreasonable housemate! you are living in halls with young students and you cant expect a silent flat around 8pm at night, in fact if thats the only noise you're getting i think you are lucky. when iv stayed in halls iv had people coming in at 4am, impromptu parties in the kitchen, doors slamming, every night! (which i didnt mind because i was a student too ) you cant expect people not to have their friends round and make a bit of noise, university is a massive social experience, yes about studying but also about meeting new people and friends.

you dont seem very willing to adapt really, to maybe try and make a few changes so that you can study properly so i think your only course of action is to ask if you can change flats, if you think its that bad. i know that sometimes when you're choosing where you want to live (in halls) you can put down if you would like to live with mature students/possibly more quieter people? maybe you could try that.

[flower123]

heya,
This has happened to me last year in uni halls. I lived with 6 others and one of them was horrible. It got pretty serious and he got warned by the police for harrassment. Is there anyway that you can lock ur cupboards - i cudn't but if u can do it and then you will feel better. I used to wash up all of the time - i cudn't stand the mess it was disgusting and it absolutely stank and cause i was the nearest to the kitchen i cud smell it so ended up cleaning up alot of the time - although another housemate did as well as he was sick and tired of cleaning up after people although felt it was necessary. i would look into moving out if you can but i found problems with moving out as once a contract has been signed you have to pay the rent until you have found someone else. Unless it is a campus uni and they have different rules. But i was with the company 'unite' last year and that was the rule.

how are you getting on with them atm?
xx

Originally Posted by Melian

Urgh.

There's 6 people (including myself) living in one of the uni flats. 2, we never see, me and 3 others. I get on ok with the other 3, but am having serious problems with them and was wondering how to deal with them:

- someone keeps going through my cupboard (the unlocked one; we also have a locked one) and taking my cups and my sharp knife. He never asks and just leaves them on the side after he's finished with them and never washes them up. I mentioned it and got told to "get over it" and "you sure it wasn't you that left it out?" Er, yes I am. They also think what he's doing is fine.

- I'm the only one who washes up after themselves and puts their dishes away after them. Yesterday, I couldn't wash up proplery because someone had left their dirty dishes in the sink and loads of clean ones on the drainer.

- They always have people around. I have no problem with this; but they're so noisy. I could hear them on Thursday night with earplugs in, the kitchen door shut and my door shut. This is not uncommon. Ironically, one of the girls who always has people around was whinging because she can't study because of the noise.

And they think it's ok to ask ridiculously personal questions - I have a skin problem right now and someone decided to ask (in front of their friends) if I'd changed my washing powder. What the fuck?

I would love to move out into where a friend is staying; but that's not going to happen now. (he's the only student who lives there and says that he can study during the week; as they're all working)