Dear, fatty

[notanotherusername!]

I don't even know what i think anymore, had a bit of a crap day tbh...

which involved a friend getting pissed with me cause i didn't want luch. which made me feel worse. I had a free lunch today and everything - as i was on duty. And i still couldn't bloody go get food.

[guest*]

Originally Posted by Franki

One flippant comment =/= her entire attitude.

Comments like this are the reason people don't get help ffs.

NAUN - even if it's just an apple and a cereal bar for lunch, eating SOMETHING will kick start your metabolism and actually eating small meals would stop you gaining weight when you start eating regularly again. Hope you're ok and please ignore the quoted comment

well we're all entitled to our opinions & I feel that a serious issue like having a major problem with food, usually isn't dotted with light-hearted comments. I was 17 once too & sometimes alot of this is attention-seeking, plain & simple. We actually have no idea what weight she is, so we don't know if she is underweight or not. A major problem IS nothing to joke about. I've had a thread on here about my 2 miscarriages & never once have I made light of it, but that's just me!

[guest*]

OK it seems like I've upset alot of people on this thread, & i'm sorry if I've offended anybody - ok. I've had a hard time myself with the miscarriages & I suppose I feel thats it's worrying when you see younger people struggling & I hope she will be happy in life.

[guest*]

Originally Posted by grace

And NavyBlue, Jesus Christ, that's the most USELESS thing you could say.

With all due respect, I've had 20 more years experience on this earth that you have & I know what I'm talking about

[notanotherusername!]

You know what fine! I'll fecking Get a hell of a lot worse just so I meet your standards navyblue, will that make it better for you?

I'm mean if I don't even have a problem and I'm being attention seeking then why the hell not!

Oh and your 20 years more of experiance obviously sucks! On this topic!

[Franki]

Originally Posted by NavyBlue

well we're all entitled to our opinions & I feel that a serious issue like having a major problem with food, usually isn't dotted with light-hearted comments. I was 17 once too & sometimes alot of this is attention-seeking, plain & simple. We actually have no idea what weight she is, so we don't know if she is underweight or not. A major problem IS nothing to joke about. I've had a thread on here about my 2 miscarriages & never once have I made light of it, but that's just me!

She never said she had a major problem with food, but saying she doesn't have ANY problem with food when she CLEARLY DOES is going to make her develop one.

It doesn't matter what weight she is and that attitude is so dangerous it's unreal. You say you've had howevermany years more experience but how much of it has been with eating disorders? Because I can tell you right now that saying "you're not thin enough to have an eating disorder" is the. single. most. dangerous thing you can say to someone who has a problem with food. I have seen it make the issue a whole huge amount worse because what it makes people do is eat even less and try even harder to lose weight to dangerous levels because they want to be taken seriously.

So you didn't make light of your miscarriages? That's good for you. I doubt many people would. Miscarriages and eating disorders are in no way the same thing and treating them as such is stupid. As I already said, naun has made ONE flippant comment in this thread to try and make herself feel a bit better. From the rest of the posts she's made here and in other threads about her weight/food issues I would say she's absolutely serious and HARDLY attention seeking. Know how I know that? Because she's not plastering the boards with photos of herself going OMGLOOKATMEI'MSOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOFAT.

EUGH at you. I had respect for you before this thread and I have instantly lost all of it.

[Franki]

Originally Posted by notanotherusername!

You know what fine! I'll fecking Get a hell of a lot worse just so I meet your standards navyblue, will that make it better for you?

I'm mean if I don't even have a problem and I'm being attention seeking then why the hell not!

Oh and your 20 years more of experiance obviously sucks! On this topic!

Naun, please ignore NavyBlue. If you want to chat in a place where you're not going to be judged like this please PM me .

[AThiefAWhoreAndALiar]

NavyBlue, I often made light of my SH-ing, does that mean i wasn't serious enough to warrant the excellent treatment i was given, does that mean that i was just attention seeking? Basically you clearly know FUCK ALL about eating disorders if you think suggesting someone making a jokey comment suddenly means they dont have a problem.

Shove your "20 years more experience." And i like Franki have lost any respect i once had for you

If you see a thread about a sensitive issue along these lines where one wrong comment can properly fuck with someones mental state, and dont have anything helpful to say, dont say anything

[AThiefAWhoreAndALiar]

And on another note *Hugs* im here if you want to talk as well NAUN

[Olive]

Originally Posted by NavyBlue

We actually have no idea what weight she is, so we don't know if she is underweight or not.

Like has been mentioned, this is a really dangerous attitude for people to have. Size is not an adequate measure of how ill someone with an ED is. Classic bulimics, for example, are almost always either of a normal weight or overweight. You don't need to be a walking skeleton to need help, and, more importantly you don't need to be a walking skeleton to DESERVE help.

Just like a doctor would rather come in when you first find the lump, rather than waiting til you're riddled with cancer, it's important that NUAN should get help now rather than let what is a problem develop into something that could destroy her life, and ultimately kill her.

[Big Gay]

Originally Posted by NavyBlue

With all due respect, I've had 20 more years experience on this earth that you have & I know what I'm talking about

I've got 5 more than you, and no you don't.

[MrG]

Originally Posted by NavyBlue

With all due respect, I've had 20 more years experience on this earth that you have & I know what I'm talking about

So act like it then

[PreciousAndLoveIt]

My stomach actually churned and i felt physically sick while reading all of this.
I've not mentioned any of this stuff to you at lunch times about you not eating because really i'm kinda scared to. I don't talk to anybody about my S-H and i don't want to and i guess i figured you'd be the same about this. But please, please, PLEASE talk to me if you want to. I'm not going to force feed you or anything but i will advise you go get something. Even if it is just for nibbleing.
You know you can trust me not to say anything to anybody and i will give you my honest opinion whenever you seek it.
But overall, action needs to be taken. You have to understand this isn't good for you and you're going to be doing some serious damage to yourself. You also have to realise that there are so many people who care about you, myself included, who would be devastated if something were to happen to you. You're a great person NAUN. Very smart, witty, have a fantastic sense of humour and you're such a beautiful person, inside and out (Man that was cheesy ) You don't need to do this. Honestly.
Please just look after yourself! Promise me you will... x

[Naturegoddess]

Originally Posted by notanotherusername!

You know what fine! I'll fecking Get a hell of a lot worse just so I meet your standards navyblue, will that make it better for you?

I'm mean if I don't even have a problem and I'm being attention seeking then why the hell not!

Oh and your 20 years more of experiance obviously sucks! On this topic!

If you feel that you have a problem (and what you've said so far suggests you do) then that's enough for you to admit and do try to help yourself, whatever anyone else thinks. There are always people who say that people are exagerating the problems they have, in my experience it's usually because they're hurt by the lack of support they recieved when they were going through it. It takes a strong person to admit they have a problem before they absolutely have to and you should feel proud of yourself for that.
I agree that you should find talk to someone about how you're feeling and try to eat small meals. Maybe you could write down how you feel if you can't find anyone to talk to?
You're doing the best thing by not letting the problem get worse before you admit it and deal with it, for others as well as yourself.

[notanotherusername!]

Originally Posted by Franki

Naun, please ignore NavyBlue. If you want to chat in a place where you're not going to be judged like this please PM me .

And on another note *Hugs* im here if you want to talk as well NAUN

Thank you guys

My stomach actually churned and i felt physically sick while reading all of this.
I've not mentioned any of this stuff to you at lunch times about you not eating because really i'm kinda scared to. I don't talk to anybody about my S-H and i don't want to and i guess i figured you'd be the same about this. But please, please, PLEASE talk to me if you want to. I'm not going to force feed you or anything but i will advise you go get something. Even if it is just for nibbleing.
You know you can trust me not to say anything to anybody and i will give you my honest opinion whenever you seek it.
But overall, action needs to be taken. You have to understand this isn't good for you and you're going to be doing some serious damage to yourself. You also have to realise that there are so many people who care about you, myself included, who would be devastated if something were to happen to you. You're a great person NAUN. Very smart, witty, have a fantastic sense of humour and you're such a beautiful person, inside and out (Man that was cheesy ) You don't need to do this. Honestly.

I wouldn't really mind if you said something, i've been asked straight out why i was not eating in front of allll our group, to which i nearly died!

nothing will happen to me, i'll be fine, you dont need to worry

I seriously don't know what to think guys and i feel bad because your all giving me really good advice but i've just been thrown off a bit as i didn't expect to be called a attention seeker! And i can tell you now navyblue i am not an attention seeker, i have NEVER told anyone about this apart from on here, i DON'T make a massive deal when i don't eat by saying loook im not eating agggainnn! so stuff you.