We Want To Get Pregnant

[The Convincer]

Originally Posted by Loved Up Blonde

Its good that your waiting

Make sure that you tell someone that you are meeting him, and bring someone with you just to be on the safeside! Also ignore the people who are calling you stupid, its these people who never really have anything helpful to say that just drive you the other way. (like olive said)

Be safe

With respect, I personally think I've said many helpful things on this thread. It was her who got all defensive when some of us found her and a a 23 year old man she hadn't even met were talking about babies a little bit weird. That is stupid, though she does actually seem to be taking things people are saying on board. I'm genuinely concerned about her, which seems to out of sink with modern society, where you're not supposed to give a fuck about anyone, unless there's personal interest on your behalf.

[Big Gay]

Actually convincer, I thought you were being a complete cunt.

[Franki]

Originally Posted by Big Gay

Actually convincer, I thought you were being a complete cunt.

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She doesn't need to be told she's stupid. Because, ~*~with respect~*~, there is a difference between naivety and stupidity. Yes it's weird but it's also perfectly plausible that this guy could be genuine. Treating her like she's an idiot because she is trusting is not something she needs to be hearing.

[The Convincer]

Originally Posted by Big Gay

Actually convincer, I thought you were being a complete cunt.

And I'd insult you by calling you a big gay, but you'd just say "I know".

But when someone's being stupid, sometimes it's best to just tell them. Telling people what they want to hear isn't always the right way to go about things.

[Olive]

Originally Posted by The Convincer

Telling people what they want to hear isn't always the right way to go about things.

No one on this thread told her what she wanted to hear. But hopefully she'll take some of the advice people gave her on board, because they talked to her like she was an intelligent person with the capacity to change her mind instead of some stupid little girl who'd misbehaved and must be given a ticking off. I'm not surprised she got all defensive.

girlwithscissors - I think waiting til you're 17 is a great idea. And if you still feel the same way then, you can be with him for a few years, and then if you still want to have babies, you'd be 19/20 and it wouldn't be such a crazy idea anymore.

[guest*]

Originally Posted by Big Gay

There is no "statutory rape" in the UK, and the OP already said she would be 16 by the time they would meet.

now she's saying she'll be 17 when they meet...... by the way, what is a 23 year old man in the uk having sex with a 15 year old girl then? if it's not statutory rape, it must be legal then? HMM?

[grace]

They're not having sex. They're waiting until she's 17. ^^

[guest*]

Originally Posted by Big Gay

Actually convincer, I thought you were being a complete cunt.

Tut tut, well Mr. BIG GAY, what's the call for this diabolical language then................

[girlwithscissors]

Originally Posted by Loved Up Blonde

Its good that your waiting

Make sure that you tell someone that you are meeting him, and bring someone with you just to be on the safeside! Also ignore the people who are calling you stupid, its these people who never really have anything helpful to say that just drive you the other way. (like olive said)

Be safe

i think i'm going to get my sister to come with me, or we were even talking about meeting up at this anime convention next year so all my friends would be there. we have yet to decide

thank you ^.^

[girlwithscissors]

Originally Posted by Olive

girlwithscissors - I think waiting til you're 17 is a great idea. And if you still feel the same way then, you can be with him for a few years, and then if you still want to have babies, you'd be 19/20 and it wouldn't be such a crazy idea anymore.

okay, thank you for being so kind ^.^

[Jim V]

Originally Posted by NavyBlue

now she's saying she'll be 17 when they meet...... by the way, what is a 23 year old man in the uk having sex with a 15 year old girl then? if it's not statutory rape, it must be legal then? HMM?

Just to clarify this point, as it comes up a lot when issues like this get mentioned.

In the UK there's no offence that implies consent below the age of consent, which statutory rape essentially does (being a more commonly used American term used to describing consent sex involving someone below the legal age for sex).

The way UK laws works in the that the CPS decide whether or not to prosecute a case and it's at this point they would make judgments around whether a prosecution was in anyone's best interest (such as deciding not to prosecute a 15 year old for kissing a 16 year, which is theoretically illegal under the 2003 Sexual Offences Act)

So in the UK the offence would always be rape - there aren't different versions of the offence.

[Big Gay]

I thought the offence was "unlawful sexual intercourse"

[Jim V]

Certainly not since 2003 -

http://www.opsi.gov.uk/Acts/acts2003..._20030042_en_1

the term was used in the description of crimes pre-2003 and I think still in some Scottish law - but the aim of the 2003 act was to clarify this postion and remove any terms that could be difficult to interpret. So it doesn't appear any more.

But sorry, didn't want to drag this off-topic, just wanted to clarify the point around statutory rape

[Jim V]

Actually turns out I'm slightly off in my reading - there is an offence of 'Sexual activity with a child' which covers the same ground but doesn't carry a possible life sentence, instead a maximum of 14 years.

But again, sorry this went off topic.

[Loved Up Blonde]

Originally Posted by The Convincer

With respect, I personally think I've said many helpful things on this thread. It was her who got all defensive when some of us found her and a a 23 year old man she hadn't even met were talking about babies a little bit weird. That is stupid, though she does actually seem to be taking things people are saying on board. I'm genuinely concerned about her, which seems to out of sink with modern society, where you're not supposed to give a fuck about anyone, unless there's personal interest on your behalf.

Erm yes you did, you gave some good advice, but who said i was refering to you? I was just sticking up for her because i didnt want her to feel attacked in any form. She came for advice. We gave her good advice. She doesnt need to feel patronised and be-littled in the process. (a problem that i've seen in this thread and across the board just recently)

And girlwithscissors thats the safest way to do so if you still want to meet him in the future, just make sure people know where you are and you bring some ect....