Dear, fatty

[notanotherusername!]

I suppose it's time to admit I may have a small problem... But just a little one.

Now me and food have never really had a good relationship. I've always either refused to eat or eaten loads.
But recently I have been talking to friends and they are adimant that I'm not fat. I can't help thinking that's what they think they should be saying.

It's not that I'm saying I'm fat to get the "ohh you're not" reaction. I really genuenly think I am.

I find myself slowly eating less, I now no longer take money to school so I can't buy lunch. At tea I find my self strugling to eat the food and really want to go sick it up. And if someone asks me if I have eaten I say yeah even though I haven't.

I'm quite hungry at the minute but if I go into the kitchen and look for food I can't bring myself to eat it.

I have a bit of a problem don't I? ... Shit

I have no idea what to do!

[skakitty]

*HUGS* maybe councilling about the issue will help? talk it over?

[Harry23]

Hi nuan,

Admitting you have a problem is the first and biggest step. It's great that you have been able to come here and be so honest with yourself.

As you have said - you and food have never had a healthy relationship and it seems like you have recently been misleading people when they ask if you have eaten and also eating less. It's really positive that you have recognised these changes and have seen them as a problem. It is not a case of if you are overweight or not, it is about how you see yourself, and as you have said, you see yourself as fat. Your friends and family's words cannot change this perception you have, it has to come from you.

You may want to check out some of the information we have on eating disorders on Thesite - some of this may help you? There is a link to the 'Beat' website - which has a really useful helpline.

You could also try talking to your Doctor about how you feel towards food at the moment, how would you feel about doing this?

Please keep posting, take care -

[guest*]

Originally Posted by notanotherusername!

But recently I have been talking to friends and they are adimant that I'm not fat. I can't help thinking that's what they think they should be saying.

It's not that I'm saying I'm fat to get the "ohh you're not" reaction. I really genuenly think I am.


I have no idea what to do!

Hi there! I don't know what weight or height you are? If your friends tell you, you're not fat, then you're NOT! I know how you feel about the " eating nothing or eating loads". I can be a bit like that too, but I've learned that starving isn't the answer. I know you are young, but not eating well can take it's toll on the body. The one thing that it can affect is fertility. Lets just say I've been pregnant twice & still have no baby! Before we try again, I have to improve my eating.

If you are within your weight range, then you are lucky, because it means you are healthy. Please look after that

[notanotherusername!]

Thanks for the links.

You could also try talking to your Doctor about how you feel towards food at the moment, how would you feel about doing this?

Hmm...I don't know. It's like i don't think i need to go to my Gp because i look like i don't have a problem with food. Even though today i have no breakfast or lunch, and had hardly any tea and i feel proud of that. And i know that sounds stupid but i dunno it's complicated.


I was kind of talking about a friend about it today, as she knows some one else who has a problem with food. But as soon as she said the words eating diorder i was like nooo! mine isn't that far! but in my head i know i have probably got one / developing one. But at the same time i can't really admit it, or change it because then i'm admitting it. If that makes sence?

:/

[PreciousAndLoveIt]

I shouted at you the other day because of your wee comment and honestly we don't say because we should say it, we say it because it's the truth. You are NOT fat.
Honestly, you just need to get that image out of your head that you are because everybody has got things they hate about themselves but can't change them. Believe me i have my fair share!
You have just got to keep an eye out for yourself. You can't not eat for long periods of time because it's really not good for you.
Try drinking more water because you'll end up getting really dehydrated (spelling?) and it also might help with your headaches.
Don't let me worry about you anymore than i already do! lol
Just wanna make sure your ok... x

[skakitty]

I think it would be good to talk this over with a councillor whilst you have the insight to think 'hmm... i might be developing a problem with food' rather than further down the line where you may go into denial? *hugs* again

[guest*]

Originally Posted by notanotherusername!

Even though today i have no breakfast or lunch, and had hardly any tea and i feel proud of that.

:/

This isn't good. You won't be able to function properly for very long without eating! I really think you need to visit your GP & have a chat about your issues & try to get to the root of why you feel like this. Do look after yourself.

[notanotherusername!]

Originally Posted by skakitty

I think it would be good to talk this over with a councillor whilst you have the insight to think 'hmm... i might be developing a problem with food' rather than further down the line where you may go into denial? *hugs* again

mmm may be a good idea :|

I shouted at you the other day because of your wee comment and honestly we don't say because we should say it, we say it because it's the truth. You are NOT fat.
Honestly, you just need to get that image out of your head that you are because everybody has got things they hate about themselves but can't change them. Believe me i have my fair share!
You have just got to keep an eye out for yourself. You can't not eat for long periods of time because it's really not good for you.
Try drinking more water because you'll end up getting really dehydrated (spelling?) and it also might help with your headaches.
Don't let me worry about you anymore than i already do! lol
Just wanna make sure your ok... x

I know you guys say i'm not, but today someone said that i was and they will have to roll me everywhere because i'm so fat. Now i know it was a joke and i was suposed to take it as a joke but i couldn't and it made me feel so rubbish!
I just had tea and i really feel like going and bringing it back up.
I don't think this is something i can just change and be fine the next day.

water makes your hips bigger!

You dont need to worry about me lol

[PreciousAndLoveIt]

Originally Posted by notanotherusername!

I just had tea and i really feel like going and bringing it back up.
I don't think this is something i can just change and be fine the next day.

water makes your hips bigger!

You dont need to worry about me lol

I'll be the judge of that! lol
And i know it can't be changed over night, but it is something you have to try and fix. You're missing out on so much stuff you need. It's super unhealthy.
You can't count the times i've wanted to do that after i've eaten but i came to realise i'm never gonna be a slim jim that looks like a bikini model. I'm just not built that way. Curves are good lol
And i had no idea about the water thing! :O Jeesh! lol but nah you seriously gotta drink a lot if you're not eating. You can't survive long without both... x

[lea_uk]

Originally Posted by notanotherusername!

mmm may be a good idea :|



I know you guys say i'm not, but today someone said that i was and they will have to roll me everywhere because i'm so fat. Now i know it was a joke and i was suposed to take it as a joke but i couldn't and it made me feel so rubbish!
I just had tea and i really feel like going and bringing it back up.
I don't think this is something i can just change and be fine the next day.

water makes your hips bigger!

You dont need to worry about me lol

Ignore that idiot.

[Franki]

what lea said.

Naun - maybe instead of having big meals far apart from each other, work on having several small meals throughout the day. Then you won't feel like you're eating LOADS and if you miss one it won't be so bad. Start by working at it in steps. Small meals at first, then getting bigger until you feel able to eat normally again.

Also, from your pictures I assure you that you are NOT FAT. You're GORGEOUS.

[PreciousAndLoveIt]

Originally Posted by Franki

Also, from your pictures I assure you that you are NOT FAT. You're GORGEOUS.

Thank you!
Glad i'm not the only one who thinks so! x

[Olive]

Originally Posted by notanotherusername!

It's like i don't think i need to go to my Gp because i look like i don't have a problem with food...

...I was kind of talking about a friend about it today, as she knows some one else who has a problem with food. But as soon as she said the words eating diorder i was like nooo! mine isn't that far! but in my head i know i have probably got one / developing one.

There are degrees of problems. Like there are degrees of illness. Some people break their leg, but it doesn't mean they don't need or deserve help just because some people don't have legs at all.

You need to think about getting help NOW, even if you think you don't need it, so you don't ever get to the stage where you can't be helped. Eating disorders ruin lives and they kill people, and if you have any chance of avoiding that, you should take it and run.

I know getting better's not easy, and it definitely won't happen overnight, but it WILL happen. You just have to want it to.

[advice_confused]

please get help before it gets any worse
im stuck ina world were i cant get rid of food im constantly thinkn about food and being sick after every meal and i only eat soup

and i hate it im too embarrased to go the doctors but you seem to be a strong good person

take care