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    Straight men and their Dildos

    Howz this for an interesting post?

    How many straight men do you know that have there own dildos? This is a randomly taboo subject!! I have to admit I have five or so but I am straight!! I just enjoy the pentration.

    I never did tell my girlfriend about em but I got her to do me with a strapon about a year ago and she didnt think much of it and claimed it was unfair because she never go any pleasure from it properly and just preferred doing it the 'normal' way.

    Now I am forced to hide these toys from her knowing she didnt want anything to do with it all. I just think of them as aids and I only use them about once a month when shes not around by myself. As our relationship continues I keep getting paranoid she'd find them but tell myself its silly cos its not like i'm cheating on her.

    What r your thoughts?? Its a weird one I know. Any advice? I've tried throwing them away but theres one or two I cant part with. And I h8 that so many of em are pink :S

    Please tell me i'm not the only guy with this problem.

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    I hate to say this but i think you already know that you are not in the right relationship. What you like doing can be looked at as kinky but there are girls out there who understand what your into and would enjoy taking part to pleasure you, so you wouldnt feel the need to hide your toys. Instead it would be part of your shared sex life.
    I think you will find that out over time and by experimenting with other people.
    Maybe try the bondage scene, its a bit more open minded and accepting.

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    I dont think I could end a relationship with someone because they are not kinky enough. It is my love which keeps me with her. She was understanding enough to open up and share my fantasy but it wasnt for her. Theres no need to punish her for that, surely?
    who looks shocked now??

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    No your right, and im sorry if i offended you, but i think its sad that you have to hide your stuff. If you are both comftable then i wouldnt think tht youd need to do that just as she is honest enuff to tell you tht she isnt into that stuff.

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    i can understand that there wasn't much pleasure from her using a strap-on to be honest! there is no reason why you shouldn't talk to her though and see if you can in some way incorporate it into your foreplay. there are other anal stimulation toys available to use together. she may be more accepting if you aren't foresaking her pleasure too. lots of straight men enjoy the feeling of anal stimulation, its ust not widely disscussed.
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    Yes I suppose. I'd just rather keep it to myself, its just like masturbating, its just better by yourself sometimes.
    who looks shocked now??

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    keeping it to yourself is fine too, but you might find it easier to talk to her and tell her you respect its not her thing but that you will still keep them for yourself. that way you won't feel you have to hide them from her....unless of course you are finding that is part of the excitement.
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    Ok tell me if i get this wrong...

    You're a guy going out with a girl?
    You have dildo's that you use to give yourself anal penetration?
    She put on a strap-on and performed intercourse on you?

    and she didnt understand, well like doing it...

    Ok if all above is correct, i can see her point in not liking it but mine opinion would be different to what she thought. My ex had ALOT of porn on his computer but i never got annoyed with it. But if he had dildo's (he might have done i never saw them though) i think i would wonder why he is with me ... but he did like putting my vibrator against his balls.... but he never bought one...

    Do you not feel that you may be bi-sexual?

    Im only asking coz recently i came to a conclusion that i am bi-sexual whilst i enjoy sex with a man the thought of a woman licking me out and pleasuring me is more of turn on for me.

    In conclusion to your post:
    i would feel odd if my man had a dildo let alone 5 but people are different maybe im being simple minded but thats how i feel. Dont hide them but dont make a big deal out of them...
    Good Times....

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    A man enjoying a dildo up his arse is no indication that he may be gay or bisexual ... its a very stimulating sensationa and give a mind-blowing orgasm .... why should this experience be limited to non-straight men?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Teagan
    A man enjoying a dildo up his arse is no indication that he may be gay or bisexual ... its a very stimulating sensationa and give a mind-blowing orgasm .... why should this experience be limited to non-straight men?
    Well I like the thought of being licked out by a woman rather than a man, my question was based on my own preferences.

    I never once said or indicated it should be limited to gay or bi-sexual people....
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    Quote Originally Posted by aimz
    Well I like the thought of being licked out by a woman rather than a man, my question was based on my own preferences.

    I never once said or indicated it should be limited to gay or bi-sexual people....
    The only men ive known whove had their own dildos were either gay or bisexual.
    Ive known straight men to like bottom play, but not to go so far as to buy their own dildos.
    Be careful it doesnt turn into a fetish, it should be a bit of extra fun, not something you cant get turned on without.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aimz
    Well I like the thought of being licked out by a woman rather than a man, my question was based on my own preferences.

    I never once said or indicated it should be limited to gay or bi-sexual people....
    lots of women do, it doesn't mean they are bisexual. the thought of it is a turn on because of a psychological term called 'projection'. actually going through with it is much different.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lipsy
    lots of women do, it doesn't mean they are bisexual. the thought of it is a turn on because of a psychological term called 'projection'. actually going through with it is much different.
    do you like the idea of performing oral sex on a woman as much as you like the idea of having it done to you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by rainbow brite
    do you like the idea of performing oral sex on a woman as much as you like the idea of having it done to you?
    i never said i liked the idea, that was aimz

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    Quote Originally Posted by lipsy
    i never said i liked the idea, that was aimz
    I know, but everytime i hit 'quickreply' it seems to quote the person above me and i forgot to delete the quote bit afterwards

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