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  1. #1
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    cum too quick...

    first of all, it's quite embarrassing posting this, however i do want to tell with a bit of detail as advice is really needed.

    my problem is, as the title says, i cum too quick, really quick.

    i'm 18 and lost my virginity at 16, i was nervous and lost my erection but it was after a while and it wasnt that bad actually.

    2nd, was with a girl, it lasted around 5/10mins

    3rd, was with a girl i had sex with quite regulary and even the first time lasted quite a while, other times i would last a while, sometimes not cum at all or sometimes in seconds. i found it was good to go in for the kil get the first splirt over with then go with a bit of foreplay then was able to last alot longer with her.

    4th, again, lost errection quite quick, however this was a 1 night stand and i was mashed on drink so i blame that.

    now its the 5th and most current girl., my girlfriend of 5 months and i dont wonna mess it up, shes not had much experience herself which is better, i tried to hold off sleeping with her for a bit, but when we went camping for the weekend it had to happen, before we set down to sleep i went to wash up, masturbated in the toilets in hope it would help me last longer, we messed around and i got erect quite quick, once i was in her, i literally came within seconds, quicker than ever before, she iddnt make a fuss about it and we wnt to sleep.

    now i got the house to myself i want to please her properly but i need some help. this happened 2 anyone else?? how did you get over it, any tips to make me last longer???

  2. #2
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    Have a wank before you meet up with her. Seriously. The second time around that day will take longer to cum ...

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    The more nervous and concerned you get about it the more likely you are to have erection problems. Nerves hamper erections, its a proven fact.

    If you are concerned about ejaculating too quickly, then do things to slow down. When you feel like you're about to come stop, or slow down, and let the feeling subside for a bit. Learning how to control your orgasm is a good skill, it makes it more powerful when you do come. If you ejaculate during foreplay it will take longer during penetration. Wear a thicker condom.

    There is a large advice section on thsi website, have a look at it:

    http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships

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    If your aware you have problems cumming to quickly and you get paranoid and nervous about it its a forgone conclusion whats going to happen.

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    Last edited by Shortay; 24-10-2008 at 06:33 PM.

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    A lot of people who dont have sex very often find they come rather quick. Regular shaggin shud improve ur performance.

  7. #7
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    For ur erection problems: take viagra, u can buy over the counter.
    For ur cumming 2 quickely problems:
    1. wank before
    2. u can go to the doctor (plastic surgey)
    3. Get circumsied (reduces sensitivety, makes u last longer in bed)

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    Quote Originally Posted by andy101
    For ur erection problems: take viagra, u can buy over the counter.
    For ur cumming 2 quickely problems:
    1. wank before
    2. u can go to the doctor (plastic surgey)
    3. Get circumsied (reduces sensitivety, makes u last longer in bed)
    That is very irresponsible advice.

    First off, viagra is not for everyone. You don't know anything about the poster - he could suffer from high blood pressure or heart problems, and in that instance, viagra is a no no, not to mention the side effects it causes.

    I've yet to hear how plastic surgery treats premature ejaculation, not to mention the thousands of pounds it would cost. And circumcision for something which can be treated without surgery isn't the best option, given that it can dramatically reduce sensitivity among other risks.

    c4dynamite - there's also info here
    "Don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things" George Carlin

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    Quote Originally Posted by go_away
    That is very irresponsible advice.

    First off, viagra is not for everyone. You don't know anything about the poster - he could suffer from high blood pressure or heart problems, and in that instance, viagra is a no no, not to mention the side effects it causes.

    I've yet to hear how plastic surgery treats premature ejaculation, not to mention the thousands of pounds it would cost. And circumcision for something which can be treated without surgery isn't the best option, given that it can dramatically reduce sensitivity among other risks.

    c4dynamite - there's also info here
    Ur so negative, do have anything positive to say at all

    there is nothing wrong with my advise

    and any way follow this link:ejaculation problems

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    I'll be more positive if you actually gave sensible advice, instead of something I'd expect to hear from Dr Nick Riviera from the Simpsons.

    I'm still waiting for the cosmetic surgery option that you listed that will cure PE and how an 18 year old male can afford it.

    And you are aware that the Boston Medical Group doesn't have any clinics in the UK?
    "Don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things" George Carlin

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    u see i'm not medical student like urself, so the knowledge i give is bog standard & what do give - absolutly bugger all.
    If ur medical student, why wow us with some of ur knowledge?

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    Quote Originally Posted by go_away

    And you are aware that the Boston Medical Group doesn't have any clinics in the UK?
    it explains the problem in lot more detail than site u found.

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    Aww cute, you know how to use the straw man fallacy.

    The majority of people here aren't medical students, and for the best part, they give sound advice. These forums and this site are dedicated to providing factual information to people - and the information you gave was not.

    So grow up.
    "Don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things" George Carlin

  14. #14
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    Quote Originally Posted by andy101
    it explains the problem in lot more detail than site u found.
    Well actually, all it does is give a couple of paragraphs of its causes and under treatment options, there is no advice, only they tell the person to come in for a full consultation, which is a bit difficult as there's the small distance of the Atlantic Ocean to be travelled.
    "Don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things" George Carlin

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    u name says it all, why dont just go do that! :D

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