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  1. #1
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    45 and Still Single

    If you were say 45 and never been married, never had any kids, etc what would you do?

    Still hold out hope of finding someone or get even getting married? What about hope of having kids? At 45 a man stil got time but a woman very limited time.

    If your life pretty much consisted of going to work and coming home, what would you do? Keep things as they are or make a radical change in your life?

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    if i was happy id keep things the same

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    Depends what i wanted. If it was to havwe kids i would get a move on.

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    Originally posted by MrG
    if i was happy id keep things the same
    aye
    let bygones be bygones

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    Originally posted by Tweety
    Depends what i wanted. If it was to havwe kids i would get a move on.
    yeah.

    If you had no intention of having a family then there's no need for change. If you did then you'd have to look into the options.

    And if life was just going to work and coming home... well if you were happy with that then there's no problem, but if you wanted more friends & stuff then you'd have to start going out and meeting people.
    “I can never read all the books I want; I can never be all the people I want and live all the lives I want. I can never train myself in all the skills I want. And why do I want? I want to live and feel all the shades, tones and variations of mental and physical experience possible in life. And I am horribly limited.”

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    id just get 15 cats and get ready for old age.

    Seriously though like Supastar said if you don't want kids then there's not much point in going out looking to get married etc.
    But wanting kids does tend to be one of the main factors in lifestyle changes. I know someone who was a confirmed bachelor until 35 and the realised he wanted kids and so he settled down and was married at 37.

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    Blowup doll or an escort.
    "Don't be jealous that I've been chatting online with babes all day. Besides, we both know that I'm training to be a cage fighter."

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    if he wanted to find someone to have kids with, and get married i would tell him he aint going to find her sitting on his backside at home,

    so.... he needs to look at his life, and work out how he is going to attract miss right, what he hopes to have in common with her.
    then go and socialise e.g take up a new sport, evening class etc not only would he make new friends, he would have more change of finding a lady who he has something in common with.

    otherwise if he didnt want to get married or have kids, i wud go splah my money on a nice car lol, and live life up being single

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    It's so long ago I cant remember how I felt at 45.
    My great uncle died while trying to put the ancient Chinese board game he had just bought and had been saving up for on a set of scales, still its the go he would have wanted to weigh.

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    Originally posted by bongbudda
    It's so long ago I cant remember how I felt at 45.
    sussed! i've just been watching the tweenies and your that old tweenie aint ya.

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    It depends on whether you are happy with the way things are or not.

    having a partner isn't the be-all and end-all, and its cheaper without kids. Though the companionship (ig, I can't believe I just said that) is good.

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    If I were happy I'd stay the same.

    I'd buy some cats and take up painting and move in to a mansion and become a mad old woman who get accused of being a witch.

    Kids will creep in to my big scary garden and try and peek in to my window and I'll chase them out with a broomstick yelling at them, with a caterract and scraggly white hair.

    Oooooh yeah.

    Either that or I'll become a soap dodging old hippy.
    Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.

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    Originally posted by Kermit
    It depends on whether you are happy with the way things are or not.

    having a partner isn't the be-all and end-all, and its cheaper without kids. Though the companionship (ig, I can't believe I just said that) is good.
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