Lots of people lose their virginity before marriage, I dont think that is something to get too hung up about on. If you like sex and enjoy it, dont see it as a hinderance. If you are careful and use protection then its your business and you should live your life as you enjoy it. You shouldnt feel dirty about it.
Hope that helps.
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25-08-2010 10:40 AM #1
I have had more casual sex than real relationships. I feel real dirty. I think that I really need to do something so that I can be in a real relationship. But my need for sex gets in the way. I'm not meant to even lose my virginity til marriage but too late for that. any support or advise would be good
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25-08-2010 01:05 PM #3
Ohhh wish i had that problem
I believe that sex is a great and healthy way to get awesome pleasure have fun and release pent up emotions so don't get hung up about the morals to much, just stay safe be chosey and always always put a condom on his willyDont push to hard, your Dreams are China in your hands
Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways - Chardonnay in one hand - chocolate in the other -
body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and
screaming 'WOO HOO, What a Ride
25-08-2010 02:00 PM #4
If you enjoy it and you're not hurting yourself or anyone else, then saturate yourself with it.I was sitting down with a few doing what we do
connected and focused we were practicing tongue-foo.
25-08-2010 06:07 PM #5
25-08-2010 07:55 PM #6
I agree with everyone here. There's absolutely nothing wrong with casual sex/relationships. I'm similarly inclined, myself.
Just not ready to be in a serious, emotional relationship, but I love the company of men, love the intimacy, and love sex. As long as you're being safe and doing your best not to lead anyone on, you're fine. In fact, it sounds like you're more than fine! :P
Don't let other people's judgements and idealisms dictate what you do with your life, in any aspect. It's your choice, and your body.
25-08-2010 11:27 PM #7
Yeah i agree with what everyone else has said. Enjoy it!Don't ever let somebody tell you can't do something. You got a dream... You gotta protect it. People can't do somethin' themselves, they wanna tell you you can't do it. If you want somethin', go get it.
26-08-2010 09:11 AM #8
+1 As long are you are clear with your intentions (you tell the person you are sleeping with that it's not going to lead to a relationship) then everything is good. you know they say practice makes perfect heh hehRAWR
26-08-2010 11:31 AM #9
I have nothing against casual relationships per se, but as someone that went through, well quite frankly a total slapper phase, I would give a word of caution just to balance off the way this thread is going.
When I had a hell of a lot of one nighters with people I didn't give a flying fuck about, for a while I really enjoyed the attention after a nasty break-up. The feeling of being desirable can almost be addictive.
But, when done to excess, casual sex can really throw your perspective out of whack. I got to the stage where I had done it so many times without repercussions that the possibility of any seemed slight.
One night I found myself in a situation where I didn't really have a choice about it, and with little memory of what happened. Having a speculum up your cootch with the lady on the other end saying 'hmm, I cant quite seem to find your cervix', and samples taken from every hole you possess because you cant remember if the twat that date-raped you used protection is not fun.
For whatever reason, this didn't stop me from continuing with casual and anonymous sex. After a while, I did begin to realise that this was no way to live and yes, in this situation it did make me feel dirty.
I know my situation was different to yours, and at risk of spelling out the obvious I guess what I hope you take from it is this:
Safe, casual sex in moderation can be fun, pleasurable, and really scratch an itch, but don't overdo it. Limit your partners, even if it is only casual. Make sure you trust the guy, and you're safe. Make sure your friends know where you are, and make sure you can say no.
Last edited by smaug; 26-08-2010 at 11:32 AM.Never say no to a HUG
27-08-2010 09:45 AM #10
Thanks for all the input.
I really appreshiate it.
I am bisexual so I have had threesomes and a lot of casual sex, I was planning to go out with a new guy just so I can have sex with him, I don't want to now, I think i would be leading him on.
27-08-2010 10:36 AM #11Don't ever let somebody tell you can't do something. You got a dream... You gotta protect it. People can't do somethin' themselves, they wanna tell you you can't do it. If you want somethin', go get it.