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  1. #1
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    I'm a 14 year old girl and i cant make myself come

    I need your help.

    I've been with my boyfriend 4 over a year but we have not had sex yet.
    But we do 4play and oral alot.
    We do this nearly everytime we find some time alone.
    My sex drive is crazy. But i never reach orgasm. And i know that alot of women never reach it but i really want to. I've masterbated 4 40 mins at the longest and never came. It still felt good but i really wana get there.
    My boyfriend has licked me for atleast 15 mins each time and fingered 4 an hour but i never get there and by then his hand is almost fit to drop off. Lol.
    What should i do. Any tips?
    XXXX

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    Hey MonkeySpunk,

    I myself know what you're talking about. I've never been able to bring myself to orgasm aged 23. I've had many boyfriends over the years and only 2 have been able to make me cum.

    The first guy took a year to make it happen and the second one gets near lockjaw when he tries. You're not alone and to be fair I'm not even sure what advice I can give you except that going down on you for 15 mins is probably not long enough. You need to be able to tell him to go "Up a bit,down a bit....a bit harder" (Ie. Directions to what feels good) until you can understand what feels good for you.

    Can I also just advise you that sex probably wouldn't make any difference, if anything be able to cum through penetrative sex is more difficult. In fact I can't cum that way unless I've been able to cum through oral stimulation.

    Sometimes if you think about cuming it can put you off and if anything you should concentrate on the feeling your having at the time rather than "What could be"..... you'll get there in the end I assure you.

    Happy New Year

    Xxx

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    Thanks for your reply.
    I dont want to have sex yet and im very happy that ive managed to wait a year. But i really would love to have that experience.
    It must feel amazing. It aint fair that its so easy for guys to come.
    For us its not!

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    Hi im 24 been sexualy active seen 16 had alot partners +always come if i do myself take 5min at most sometimes 20min just relax+dont think about it to much when you are ready for all the way woman on top is GREAT I have the best orgasum that way too x
    I love guys+gals +im brill friend to have

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    But i heard that the first time you orgasm it takes ages to get ther and after that its easyer.

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    I agree with StarCrossed. When i had my first orgasm i wasn't expecting it or was prepared for it at all!
    Also, you're only 14 and as most have said already, they didnt have an orgasm until they were much older. Just give it time and patience and dont concentrate or worry about it too much.
    Once you know what feels good for you, and how you can make yourself orgasm, it will be easier.
    xx

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    Don't feel bad. Atleast you and your bf do things...I'm 17 and haven't been able to bring myself to orgasm nevermind have someone help me. You'll get there sooner than I will probably

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sambalamb91 View Post
    Don't feel bad. Atleast you and your bf do things...I'm 17 and haven't been able to bring myself to orgasm nevermind have someone help me. You'll get there sooner than I will probably
    why hello there

    let me direct you to our resident sex guru who may be able to help; stargalaxy!
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    It anoys me though. I really would love to experience it. I'm getting my first vibrator soon and maybe that will help?
    You can do any thing
    All you need is faith in yourself

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    Quote Originally Posted by MonkeySpunk View Post
    It anoys me though. I really would love to experience it. I'm getting my first vibrator soon and maybe that will help?
    Yeah that could help. You're still young, I'm sure it'll happen soon enough.

    Just enjoy all the good feeling you get and you never know when you'll.. erm.. pop?

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    Quote Originally Posted by MonkeySpunk View Post
    It anoys me though. I really would love to experience it. I'm getting my first vibrator soon and maybe that will help?
    Shouldnt you be getting your first ipod at 14 instead of a vibrator?
    Don't ever let somebody tell you can't do something. You got a dream... You gotta protect it. People can't do somethin' themselves, they wanna tell you you can't do it. If you want somethin', go get it.

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    Thanks. I'm not very good at waiting.
    I'm very excited. Hahahahah.
    Yeah thats kinda wierd....................I donno. I dont get much enjoyment out of it. Thats why i want to reach orgasm.
    It will feel good.
    But what i do now doesnt feel that great.
    You can do any thing
    All you need is faith in yourself

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    I'm a very messed up child and if i had to explain that to you then by time ive stopped typing i would of writen a book. Lol. il give you a short story.
    I was forced to grow up fast when my parents split up. My mum was a suicidal alcho and my dad grew smoked and sold weed. I was left with my dad and at the age of 5 i had to walk 3 miles to school every dad on a busy road and home again. I had to cook my own dinner and look after myself. I would only see my dad for an hour or two every day and at that time he was usually stoned. I was beaten and nearly raped by some lad who was drunk in my house one day.
    I had to grow up fast and was very mature 4 my age. I am now 14 and i'm alot further ahead than most kids. But sadly very messed up and confused. Suicidal and depressed.

    Its a very long story but thats most of it. Everythings better now though. My dad remarried and is all better. My mum remarried too and is living in england.
    I'm in Ireland with my new family.
    You can do any thing
    All you need is faith in yourself

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    I think you are too young to have an orgasm. Give it a year or two and you will get there. I don't think I had one until I was 15/16 so give it time.

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    i'm sorry, but i had my first orgasm a lot younger than 14, and my first vibe at 13...

    you are too young to have sex, remember that its against the law, but going solo is fine!

    just persevere!

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