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"Hey Lucie,

You say you're still on medication and have had lots of therapy? Maybe it's a matter of revisiting old coping techniques and anything else like that, that therapy taught you?

And Drea is absolutely right! Even someone with everything material that they could ever want isn't insusceptible to mental illness. Any sex, race, age, class; it doesn't discriminate...
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Good Manners Guide

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    Many thanks to Wildchild and the other long ago members who helped put together this userguide.


    The Mix bulletin board good manners guide

    Here are some 'unwritten rules' by members of The Mix which you may like to bear in mind when posting on the boards. Members are welcome to post their opinions, providing they're abiding by the Registration Rules they accepted when they joined the boards. This guide is simply to let new members know what good manners are and make it easier to be accepted as part of the community.


    Introducing yourself

    Originally posted by Calvin
    Welcome to The Mix, it's a cool place with cool people. Why don't you stay a while
    Some posters like to introduce themselves once they have registered at The Mix. If you would like to, use the introduce yourself forum but don't give out phone numbers, your email address, or your home address.

    Other posters prefer to remain anonymous which is fine. However, if you are thinking of posting a more personal question (where people would need to draw on their own personal experiences in order to answer) rather than a topic for general discussion, it's polite to give a little information about yourself or why you want to know, so that people will feel more comfortable replying.


    New and old posts

    Originally posted by Turtle
    dude. post. dead
    It's a good idea to check the date that an old thread was started or was most recently added to. As a general rule, anything over a couple of months old can be considered 'dead' and is best being left in its grave. Old threads are left as a reference point - if you are reading them and find something interesting you would like to discuss, you could start a new thread about it.

    Four reasons for this:
    1. If the thread is asking for advice, any help will be useless after a certain length of time because the problem will have been dealt with.
    2. Older posters get frustrated because they saw the thread the first time round, and have to read through it again to check they haven't replied before and that they aren't repeating another poster's comment.
    3. Newer posters get confused by all the old and ex posters who originally replied to the thread.
    4. The original poster might not want old issues being brought up and bringing back potentially bad memories/feelings.

    Before you start a new thread on anything, check previous pages on the board to make sure nobody has posted a similar question recently. It is possible that the answer to your question is already there, and you won't need to make a new post. People are willing to give advice but will obviously be annoyed if no-one else bothers to read it and they have to give up their time answering the same question for another poster. It is also pointless for a poster to repeat their question or topic by starting a new thread.


    Make yourself at home

    Posters are, on the whole, very friendly and will be happy to help. They only get annoyed when the same points of etiquette repeatedly are ignored (for example, at The Mix general netiquette such as not writing in block capitals applies, AS IT IS HARDER TO READ AND GIVES THE EFFECT OF SHOUTING), or when a poster is rude, abusive and arrogant - remember that other people have a right to air their views too, even if they disagree with yours. Finally, please do not use the Sex and Relationships boards to try to pick people up; there are plenty of other sites you can use for that purpose instead.


    Signatures and avatars

    Please keep avatar pictures in under 20k and if you use an image that we deem offensive or just plain annoying the mods have every right to modify it if you refuse to do so yourselves.

    Sigs shouldn't be too long, as a rule of thumb if your sig is taking up more of the page than any actual replies then you're probably going to be asked to change it.

    Ah, there is one more thing...


    Text talk

    For some people it's the most natural way to type, while others get annoyed by it. Whether you like 2 tlk lyk dis or write your words out in full, here's a quick guide for text talk on The Mix:

    1. Do type in the way that feels most comfortable and natural to you.

    2. Do offer to decipher other people's posts if someone says they can't understand them.

    3. Don't rage on someone for typing in a way that doesn't seem right to you. If you genuinely can't read a post or thread, then politely ask the person to summarise what they've said in full.


    OK lecture over...enjoy your time at The Mix, and if in doubt about anything, ask or you may find the answer you're looking for in our Modding Policy.


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