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Approaching girls who are in groups

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  • #16
    Originally posted by Robert View Post
    You're assuming I'm in a group, but I actually spend most of my time alone or with just one friend at a time. That makes it very difficult to successfully approach a group of girls.

    Why do so many girls travel in groups most of the time? When in a nightclub, many go the bar, the dancefloor and the toilets in groups!

    I want to just talk to one girl on my own - I don't want to have to plan out a military-like strategy to be able to have a one-to-one conversation.
    Girls are always in groups because it reduces the chances of being raped, hit on, or abused.
    You're a ghost at most
    A set of empty bones
    Searching for anything and everything to make you feel whole

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    • #17
      You're not likely to be raped in a shopping centre at noon - so why be in a group then?

      Most girls go to nightclubs, bars etc. in order to be hit on. If they didn't, they'd wear comfortable conservative clothes - no-one wears high heels and a tight miniskirt on a cold night to be comfortable.

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      • #18
        Originally posted by Robert View Post
        You're not likely to be raped in a shopping centre at noon - so why be in a group then?

        Most girls go to nightclubs, bars etc. in order to be hit on. If they didn't, they'd wear comfortable conservative clothes - no-one wears high heels and a tight miniskirt on a cold night to be comfortable.
        Or maybe, they've chosen their clothes because they want to look nice? Or because it makes them feel confident? Not to give you an invitation to approach them when they're having a nice time with friends?
        And maybe they go to the shopping centre with friends because they like spending time with them?
        Twit twoo.

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        • #19
          You can look nice and feel confident without being in a miniskirt on a cold night or wearing uncomfortable high heels. Such clothes are designed specifically to make the wearer more sexually attractive. The same goes for make-up: red lipstick is designed to make the lips more attractive by making them look like aroused labia.

          If they don't want to be approached, why do many of them welcome approaches from male groups of a similar size? If they didn't want to be approached at all, they'd reject everyone.

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          • #20
            Originally posted by Robert View Post
            You can look nice and feel confident without being in a miniskirt on a cold night or wearing uncomfortable high heels. Such clothes are designed specifically to make the wearer more sexually attractive. The same goes for make-up: red lipstick is designed to make the lips more attractive by making them look like aroused labia.

            If they don't want to be approached, why do many of them welcome approaches from male groups of a similar size? If they didn't want to be approached at all, they'd reject everyone.
            I were miniskirts and lipstick all the time but cause it makes me feel better! If I want compliments from anyone it's my friends. And it's kinda hard to "reject" bigger groups of people. Just because you don't see them walking away doesn't mean they're getting any attention, they could easily be getting ignored too

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            • #21
              Miniskirts and lipstick are definitely designed to make the wearer more sexually attractive. You can receive compliments from your friends without wearing them.

              I have friends who, when they go out in groups, are often successful in hooking up with girls - but are not successful when they go out alone or with just one friend.
              Last edited by Robert; 12-02-2017, 04:14 PM.

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              • #22
                Originally posted by Robert View Post
                Miniskirts and lipstick are definitely designed to make the wearer more sexually attractive. You can receive compliments from your friends without wearing them.

                I have friends who, when they go out in groups, are often successful in hooking up with girls - but are not successful when they go out alone or with just one friend.

                Tbh most women wear miniskirts and lipstick to make them feel sexier, not to be more sexually attractive to you. People can wear what they want, it's not an invitation for sex or for you to hit on them
                You're a ghost at most
                A set of empty bones
                Searching for anything and everything to make you feel whole

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                • #23
                  They feel sexier because they look sexier. They want to look sexier - that means being sexually attractive. If they merely wanted to look good, they could do that without looking sexy.

                  If women don't want to be hit on, why aren't there thousands of female-only venues (other than lesbian bars) so that they can avoid being hit on?

                  Few women make sexual approaches to men, so how are men supposed to work out which women do want to hook up? If overtly sexual clothing isn't a hint - what is?

                  I've recently escaped from a horrible relationship - I'm just looking to have fun now.
                  Last edited by Robert; 12-02-2017, 08:07 PM.

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                  • #24
                    But nobody is saying they want to look sexy FOR YOU.
                    If I go out all dressed up, it's so I feel good about myself, it's so I feel sexy, FOR ME, or for my partner, not for anyone else.
                    Clubs do not equal wanting to be hit on. We are entitled to have fun as well.
                    You're a ghost at most
                    A set of empty bones
                    Searching for anything and everything to make you feel whole

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                    • #25
                      Speak for yourself, don't wrongly assume everyone is the same as you. I've heard girls say that they love receiving a lot of male attention when they go out dressed up.

                      Actually, I have had a girl explicitly state that she dressed sexy for me.

                      You're wrongly assuming that no girl wants to be hit on. Not everyone wants to be celibate and very few girls ever make sexual approaches. If girls never got hit on, the vast majority of them would never have sex in their entire lives.

                      You can dress up without wearing revealing clothing such as a miniskirt on a frosty night. No-one wears a miniskirt on a cold night because it's comfortable.
                      Last edited by Robert; 13-02-2017, 09:08 PM.

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