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Watching her being shagged

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    I wanted to know if it is normal to fantisise about my wife being shagged by another bloke whilst I watch. I keep thinking about it all the time and am trying to persuade my wife to do it.
    She seems very keen but doesn't want to watch me shag another woman? Any suggestions?

  • #2
    If you wanna do it and she seems keen then wheres the problem?


    • #3
      Its not normal, I wouldnt wanna watch my gf with another bloke, but if ur both happy to do it then thats good for you <IMG alt="image" SRC=""> Just dont expect her to return the favour unless she wants to, and dont pressurise her into doing it or youll lose a wife.

      It matters not who won or lost, but how you place the blame.


      • #4
        There is nothing abnormal about this at all. Thousands of couples go through this every week, there are plenty of sites where you can find like minded people, and if you don't want to involve anyone you know then there are contact sites

        *does a search*

        such as or where people openly advertise.

        *eyes open as he reads some ads <IMG alt="image" SRC="">*

        All I can say is that you need to sure of the stability of the relationship, ensure that you are always careful and remeber that you must BOTH want to do this and if, at any time, one of you goes of the idea, then then other must repect their wishes.

        Good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="">


        • #5
          Longhirst, "Swingin'" is pretty popular in some circles over here.

          There'r all sorts of 'sites devoted to matin' folks up for just the thing You're talking about. Some of the ad's are funny as hell too!

          The only thing I'd worry about would be the risk of the wife making an emotional attachment to one of the "Stand-in's" and maybe decidin' to head for greener pastures.

          You might want to stick with other couples. That way, there's a motivated person in the form of the "stand-in's" SO to remind them who they came with! LOL!


          • #6
            I agree with Treadhead. The only thing I am really concerned about is the risk of greener pastures. Will she find the other bloke better. I suppose I have to be sure that we are 100% up for it and that we treat it as a bit of fun.


            • #7
              Go for it!!!!!!!!! <IMG alt="image" SRC=""> <IMG alt="image" SRC=""> <IMG alt="image" SRC="">:P


              • #8
                I think if u value your wife, then you'd stop being a selfish pratt, fantasy and reality are way different, trouble with actually doing it is that real emotions are involved. Just think if it's worth even the slightest risk of ruining your relationship, fantasies are great but just keep it there.

                Hope it works out best to keep you BOTH happy


                • #9
                  I cannot believe people do this? Just the thought of my g.friend with another lad makes me feel sick.

                  How can this possibly turn you on?


                  • #10
                    i think it's when u get married u do stuff to spice up ur sex life a bit more

                    for all those wiv g/fs and b/fs its a bit different cuz they come and go. marriage is meant to be for life and secure, so hence why it *is* in fact a natural thing <IMG alt="image" SRC="">

                    Mấŧế <IMG alt="image" SRC=""> ĐєvĩŁĩĦ


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