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Post of The Month (July)

Aidan is our Post of The Month winner voted by the community for the following post:

"Hey Lucie,

You say you're still on medication and have had lots of therapy? Maybe it's a matter of revisiting old coping techniques and anything else like that, that therapy taught you?

And Drea is absolutely right! Even someone with everything material that they could ever want isn't insusceptible to mental illness. Any sex, race, age, class; it doesn't discriminate...
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Cutting hair after rape

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    So those of you that watch Hollyoaks knows that Ellie got raped and she cut her hair. I speak with a lot of survivors of rape and we all seem to have that one simularity that each of us has cut our hair after being raped wether it be a fully shaved or just trimmed it. I wonder why that is? It would be an interesting study to find out why we do after rape. I know theres a few of us on here aswell and I'm interested in asking if you have too.
    Last edited by Lostsense; 19-03-2017, 07:05 PM.
    Your difficulties are vaild

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    I shaved off all the hair on one side of my head lol.... looked awful! :P I guess its something to do with feeling like a different person after, self esteem, struggling to look in the mirror and see the same person staring back at you when you know something is fundamentally different inside.

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    • #3
      I guess people cut their hair/shave to feel different and look different and not remain the same person from the past experience and try move on by feeling/looking different. It may build confidence and feeling strong by overcoming the past experience and i am guessing cutting hair is one of the ways to feel new.

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      • #4
        Hey yeah got a hair cut after think it helped me feel better more like i could look forward

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          as a survivor of rape I cut my hair short in order to look like a different person and help me grow in confidence after going through a truamaic experience. I couldn't look at myself in the same way after what I went through. anyone that is struggling to come to grips with being raped whereas if it was recently or a long ago I'm here to listen to anyone

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          • #6
            Hi

            I think perhaps some people do it to regain some semblance of control. After experiencing such a trauma it sometimes feels difficult to feel as though you are in control of your life but cutting your hair is a relatively easy way to remind yourself that it's you who has control over your body.

            It might also be a way to temporarily distance yourself from the person you were when it occurred. When something traumatic happens it's easy to focus entirely on that when you see yourself so separating your appearance from the time when the trauma occurred and after can help people not focus on it so much when they see themselves.

            Lals

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            • #7
              I didnt cut my hair, but I did dye it a different colour, I wanted to look different. I didn't want to look in the mirror and see 'that girl'
              mosaics are made from broken pieces but they’re still works of art, and so are you.

              It's stormy now, but the suns gonna shine again, even the worst storms gotta end.

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