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Going the pub on your own

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  • #16
    It must depend on the city.

    I've been out a couple of times alone, or I've ended up alone when I've had to put my lightweight friend back on the bus. People have ended up talking to me and I've actually had quite a good time.
    Can you hold me like you held someone you shouldn't have let go?
    Can you keep me deep inside like the regrets that burned a hole?
    Can you love me like you loved someone you loved so long ago?


    • #17
      wish i had the balls to do either. damn social awkwardness
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      • #18
        I think its fine, I often go to coffee shops on my own and sit and read a book or do some work. It can sometimes be a good way to meet attractive young ladies as well but often just quiet relaxing it really does depend on the type of pub or cafe


        • #19
          Nothing wrong with it, if I've got something arranged for later with an hour or two to spare I'll go to a pub or coffee shop on my own without a second thought. Certain sorts of pubs always have at least one regular sitting at the bar who will talk to anyone who'll listen - though whether you'll want to listen is another matter...
          Narrow souls I cannot abide,
          There's almost no good or evil inside.


          • #20
            As an expat I have gone out alone many times, to watch football can be great. I have also done it with the specific intention of meeting people. I am quite an outgoing chap though, I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with it if you can get over the social "shame", there is too much of that in the UK.


            • #21
              Before 8pm this is acceptable. Afterwards, it is not.


              • #22
                Why 8pm?
                "Sometimes it's worth making your own opportunities instead of waiting for others"


                • #23
                  After 8pm you turn into a pumpkin if you're by yourself.
                  Can you hold me like you held someone you shouldn't have let go?
                  Can you keep me deep inside like the regrets that burned a hole?
                  Can you love me like you loved someone you loved so long ago?


                  • #24
                    Because 8pm is that magical hour where you transform from hip, casual drinker to soulless raging alcoholic.


                    • #25
                      I'm from Liv too, 21. Its not weird. I've gone the pub for a drink during dinner breaks on my own before (even when I was 19). I usually take something with me, like a book. I'll probably do it more often when I'm in the city centre on my dinner break. Its like I'll go into pizza hut or starbucks etc. to eat/drink as a treat and to be on my own and relax. I don't go the cinema on my own, I don't like them generally, I only visit with 1 friend every few months.
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                      • #26
                        Personally, I think there's nothing wrong with it at all. I go to coffee shops and bring books with me and am perfectly contented. It can be a bit awkward, but its good especially when there's alot of stuff going on. I find it helps when friends are having arguments. I sometimes go into Cardiff by myself and there are advantages than when with friends. You can spend more time in shops looking at you want (can spend hours in Waterstones....) and not feel bad. You just feel independent.
                        A few people said that they feel nervous. Sometimes if I'm meeting people I get there an hour earlier at the coffee shop so I can chill by myself. I'm still not brave enough to go cinemas by myself though....
                        "A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination." Nelson Mandela

                        "I have to be alone very often. I'd be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That's how I refuel." Audrey Hepburn



                        • #27
                          Originally posted by Arctic Roll View Post
                          After 8pm you turn into a pumpkin if you're by yourself.

                          "i'm finding a meaning. Once you say, finally 'now i've got it,' then you've lost it, because you're dragging it down to something very limited. It's an on-going process and the meaning of life itself. One is continually going into the depths of yourself, discovering a strength, a presence perhaps, in heart of yourself." Karen Armstrong

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                          • #28
                            It somewhat depends what you want out of it. Pubs can vary in how sociable they are, so if you are looking to meet new friends you want to find the right sort of place. Cosy, local type places are the best for this but even they can vary in terms of time as well as place. You can find that you are getting chatting to the regulars and building a rapport, but in the next couple of years it has become more or less a beer shop. They can be good when stopping off somewhere as well, but no better than anywhere else for that purpose. They are obviously good places to have a drink but if not after socialisation wonder if that is really worth it when you can go to the offy for much less. Perhaps if you like the atmosphere could understand it. For dancing, the chain bars tend to put something on at weekends, but that can be quite cheesy music, if you are something more serious than a nightclub that specialises in something (as opposed to the ones you find everywhere which will play much the same ), for rock music there is usually a pub in each town that puts on something but some of them can be simply covers bands which is perhaps not quite the same! Always worth exploring anyhow.


                            • #29
                              i dont think there is anything really weird about it, its nice to go out by yourself sometimes, i dont think personally i would go to the pub on my own but i do go to coffee shops on my own sometimes i just find it relaxing


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