http://vbulletin.thesite.org/ Community discussion from TheSite.org. Providing advice and moderated discussion for young people aged 16 - 25 years old, providing a safe place to ask difficult questions or just chat with friends en Wed, 16 May 2012 19:42:46 GMT vBulletin 60 http://vbulletin.thesite.org/images/misc/rss.png http://vbulletin.thesite.org/ http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151081-Time-and-date?goto=newpost Wed, 16 May 2012 17:27:29 GMT Just out of curiousity, why has the time and date been removed from each post, within each thread? Just out of curiousity, why has the time and date been removed from each post, within each thread? ]]> brunettebarbie http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151081-Time-and-date http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151080-relationship-with-my-boyfreind?goto=newpost Wed, 16 May 2012 16:47:52 GMT iam in a relationship with my boyfreind do i have a choose weather i want to do things i dont want to and do i say NO :( PLEASE reply and help me
iam in a relationship with my boyfreind do i have a choose weather i want to do things i dont want to and do i say NO

:(

PLEASE reply and help me

]]> Relationships smily3209 http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151080-relationship-with-my-boyfreind http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151079-quot-Deserted-station-quot-(translated-lyrics)?goto=newpost Wed, 16 May 2012 16:34:37 GMT This thread is very random but I just wanted to share this.
I love this guy's lyrics in general but I first heard this song today and it almost made me cry. (The original is in Greek, the translation is my work. I'm not sure it conveys the feeling as well)

Like a fallen sign in an empty street,
a train that never arrived
and is rusting on the track, empty and alone,
cracked by suns and rains.

I walk in the old station
waiting for the lights to get turned off.

All these years I've been wandering I've seen in the streets
travellers forgotten in the shadows.
I've seen ones who were loners and ones who were alone
but I've never seen so much loneliness.

He's been staying in the old station for years
waiting for the lights to get turned off.

I imagine him a long time ago, when he was young
on some beautiful spring night
he was waiting for her here and he looked so handsome
with the red flowers in his arms.

Now he stays in the old station
waiting for the lights to get turned off.

All the people who can wait for years
already know that it's best, when you go
to a deserted station with empty wagons,
to at least wave a little, silently

at those who stay in the old station
waiting for the lights to get turned off. ]]> Entertainment Indrid Cold http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151079-quot-Deserted-station-quot-(translated-lyrics) http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151076-Chat-tonight-Wed-16th-May-8pm-to-10pm?goto=newpost Wed, 16 May 2012 12:52:50 GMT Fancy a chat tonight? Come along from 8pm and lets have a good natter :-) http://www.thesite.org/community/thesocial/chat Fancy a chat tonight? Come along from 8pm and lets have a good natter :-)

http://www.thesite.org/community/thesocial/chat ]]> Anything goes JenR http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151076-Chat-tonight-Wed-16th-May-8pm-to-10pm http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151074-Studying-styles-which-one-are-you-With-a-few-tips!?goto=newpost Tue, 15 May 2012 21:59:27 GMT Hey guys,

I remember for the exam stress and revision chat we had, and remembered I said I would share a few tips on things with you. So... Let's get this party rocking!:yippe:

Students can perform better on tests if they change study habits to fit their own personal learning styles. Some students remember best materials they've seen, some remember things they've heard, while others remember things they've experienced.

Visual Learners Charateristics

Visual learners are those who learn through seeing things. Look over the characteristics below to see if they sound familiar. A visual learner:

• Is good at spelling but forgets names
• Needs quiet study time
• Has to think awhile before understanding lecture
• Is good at spelling
• Likes colors & fashion
• Dreams in color
• Understands/likes charts
• Is good with sign language

Tips for Visual Learners:

• Draw a map of events in history or draw scientific process
• Make outlines of everything
• Copy what's on the board
• Ask the teacher to diagram
• Diagram sentences
• Take notes, make lists
• Watch videos
• Color code words, research notes
• Outline reading
• Use flashcards
• Use highlighters, circle words, underline

Auditory Learners Characteristics

Auditory learners are those who learn best through hearing things. Look over these traits to see if they sound familiar to you. You may be an auditory learner if you are someone who:

• Likes to read to self out loud
• Is not afraid to speak in class
• Likes oral reports
• Is good at explaining
• Remembers names
• Notices sound effects in movies
• Enjoys music
• Is good at grammar and foreign language
• Reads slowly
• Follows spoken directions well
• Can't keep quiet for long periods
• Enjoys acting, being on stage
• Is good in study groups

Tips for Auditory Learners

• Using word association to remember facts and lines
• Recording lectures
• Watching videos
• Repeating facts with eyes closed
• Participating in group discussions
• Using audiotapes for language practice
• Taping notes after writing them

Kinesthetic Learner Characteristics

Kinesthetic learners are those who learn through experiencing/doing things. Look over these traits to see if they sound familiar to you. You may be a kinesthetic learner if you are someone who:

• Is good at sports
• Can't sit still for long
• Is not great at spelling
• Does not have great handwriting
• Likes science lab
• Studies with loud music on
• Likes adventure books, movies
• Likes role playing
• Takes breaks when studying
• Builds models
• Is involved in martial arts, dance
• Is fidgety during lectures

Tips for Kinesthetic Learners

• Studying in short blocks
• Taking lab classes
• Role playing
• Taking field trips, visiting museums
• Studying with others
• Using memory games
• Using flash cards to memorize

I hope this will in somewhat help you with what kind of styles would be better for you. Need any more tips and tricks? Give us a shout! :thumb: ]]> Student sophieannnn http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151074-Studying-styles-which-one-are-you-With-a-few-tips! http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151073-I-am-feeling-a-bit-sad?goto=newpost Tue, 15 May 2012 20:35:22 GMT Okay its nothing too bad but lately I've been feeling low.
- All my mates have seemed to disagree with me lately. Anything I say is never right and they're beginning to do things without me. With my aspergers I get paranoid in friends situations and find it hard in social situations and can't understand people well in which is why I get a bit worried and paranoid
- I am beginning to think that my course at uni is not for me and I am hating most of the people here. I seem to not be able to get in to any of the topics and I zone out in class (also due to my disability) and I don't know what help is out there for me, but I can't be forced to get interested in something. I also feel that I have been ripped off my three grand debt this year for tuition which has also got me down becuase thats a lot of debt this year that I'll have to pay off :(
-I have lost my sex drive which is really not me because I usually can't stop thinking about when the next sex I will get will be. I did it the other day and regretted it and also hated it even though the guy knew what he was doing. Part of the reason was becuase the guy I had sex with before that was a major idiot to me- tried to kick me out at 4am and when the condom came off half way through without me knowing he shrugged it off and I had to get the morning after pill on my own. Then when I did it the other day, the thought of the condom coming off was scaring me and also the fact that I just felt like a slag and I thought I was going to cry half way through.
- I hate where I live- halls. They're boring and when I get bored I then start to dwell on things and the whole silent atmosphere makes me angry and upset I feel like going mad- plus I hate one of my neighbours, who has been a sly person since day 1
Oh yeah and I have got in to about two and a half grand over my rent for this year in a place I completely despise so that has upset me that that money has gone over something I have hated from day 1I also can't stop comfort eating here.

I know this aint nothing too bad but I have felt low lately and I also don't know what to do about coming back to uni next year. I don't want to do something I'll regret but I have been unhappy this year and the debt is getting to me a lot. :( ]]> rosierawrz http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151073-I-am-feeling-a-bit-sad http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151072-I-need-help.-(self-harm)?goto=newpost Tue, 15 May 2012 19:47:00 GMT Well, the other month i tried to commit suicide, i'm getting help but i've said to everyone i don't self harm any more and they believe me. I stopped self harming over a year ago but some nasty comments drove me to try and OD, i obviously failed, so now i self harm again, any sharp object i have on me i'll use. I do it everyday, i cover it up, i always wear long sleeves and pants, 4 years of self harming i've realised it's not healthy and i need help, i don't want to tell anyone because i think they'll think i'm weird or i'll disappoint them. Everyone at school has found out but i just deny it, i'm now known s the 'emo kid' That doesn't help with the situation either. I just hope one day i can say 'I USED to self-harm, but now i'm in a better place, i'm proud of myself.' But i just don't think i can, i can't see it. ]]> Roxie :) http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151072-I-need-help.-(self-harm) http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151071-Exam-stress-amp-revision?goto=newpost Tue, 15 May 2012 15:11:45 GMT Hey there :wave:

If you're struggling with exams right now then check out what went on in last week's exam chat - loads of great ideas for revision motivation and making revision more fun as well as tips on how to manage the stress of exams.

http://www.thesite.org/community/the...tarchive/exams

:thumb: ]]> Student Jo7 http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151071-Exam-stress-amp-revision http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151069-Help?goto=newpost Tue, 15 May 2012 13:37:17 GMT My name is heather iam 18 years old. I hope that iam not to old for this website. I would to tell u that i dont live with my famliey. Me and my brothers and sister had been put into care. but iam not in care and some of my brothers and sisters. Iam missing everyone in my famley and iam not alould to see them and its unfair help me i want to do something :banghead: My name is heather iam 18 years old.

I hope that iam not to old for this website. I would to tell u that i dont live with my famliey. Me and my brothers and sister had been put into care. but iam not in care and some of my brothers and sisters. Iam missing everyone in my famley and iam not alould to see them and its unfair

help me i want to do something
:banghead: ]]> Introduce yourself smily3209 http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151069-Help http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151070-help?goto=newpost Tue, 15 May 2012 13:23:17 GMT hey my name is Heather. iam 18 years olds and i dont live with my famleiy for a good reason. i fell lonley beasuse i dont have any support at all and i feel so lonley with it. i not alould to see my mum. iam tempting to do something but i dont want to say beause i will feel inbarrsed and people say it a atting secking but it is not. help please :( :banghead: hey
my name is Heather. iam 18 years olds and i dont live with my famleiy for a good reason. i fell lonley beasuse i dont have any support at all and i feel so lonley with it. i not alould to see my mum. iam tempting to do something but i dont want to say beause i will feel inbarrsed and people say it a atting secking but it is not. help please
:(
:banghead: ]]> smily3209 http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151070-help http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151065-Update-is-this-job-still-a-good-fit?goto=newpost Tue, 15 May 2012 11:46:43 GMT I don't have conduct issues, just performance and it's really killing me bc I'm disorganized. k so like I give out samples at Sam's Club and it's really more demanding than it looks, which is why they pay $10 an hour. Anyway, either I couldn't get things done fast enough or I forget to do it all together. Sometimes, I even forget the supplies I need to complete tasks. It's really getting on ppl's nerves whenever they have to remind me of these stuffs. For instance, I constantly forget certain supplies I need to demo my product and have to go to the back to get it, which wastes time. Plus, I'm not supposed to leave my cart while I'm on the clock. So it happened often enough that I got wrote up. Not only do I slow myself down, I slow other ppl down as well.

Not only that, I always have accidents. In the space of the past 2 weeks, I burnt myself on the microwave plug, burnt my hands on the oven twice, fell when my cart hit the pole, and smashed my hand with something off my cart. I got all banged up and shyt. How do I stop being disorganized and forgetting stuff? Btw, it's not fair that they couldn't understand that I gave it my best effort not to be forgetful and accident prone.

Recently, at the end of my shift, I handed a coworker a hot baking tray and burned him since he didn't have oven mitts on and I did. I got wrote up for that. Also, coworkers complained that me being disorganized not only slow them down, but could cause accidents as well, such as the burning incident. I forget and misplace things. I drop and spill things constantly as well. But I'm just glad I don't have conduct issues.

She said she'll take me off the scheduel a few days and consult HR whether i still get to keep my job. She'll get bavk to me with the answer. I checked yesterday online and it turned out I only have one day removed. I'm still on the schedule this weekend. However, she still didn't get back to me. ]]> Work Kissmekate http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151065-Update-is-this-job-still-a-good-fit http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151064-Migraine?goto=newpost Tue, 15 May 2012 10:18:27 GMT Last night I thought I had a normal headache and figured I could take a tylenol for it to go away. About 3 hours later it was still there and took one more tylenol. It hurt so much I was squeezing my skull! Anyways I got some sleep and woke up with parts of another headache....why? did that happen? I thought sleep would have gotten rid of the migraine/headache? Last night I thought I had a normal headache and figured I could take a tylenol for it to go away. About 3 hours later it was still there and took one more tylenol. It hurt so much I was squeezing my skull! Anyways I got some sleep and woke up with parts of another headache....why? did that happen? I thought sleep would have gotten rid of the migraine/headache? ]]> magowana http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151064-Migraine http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151062-Lower-sex-drive?goto=newpost Tue, 15 May 2012 00:05:37 GMT i usually have a mega nhigh sex drive, thinking about sex constantly...I went from a massive sex drive down to a low one now because not the last guy but the guy before that I slept with was a major idiot to me...and I slept with someone the other day and I regretted it because it was different, even though he knew what he was doing and it could have been great I just wasn't feeling it...and I've hardly thought about sex since which really isn't me.
I've also been stressing about uni and friends and men ( most down here are idiots) and i've been feeling pretty up and down so I don't know if thats partly affected it. ]]> Sex rosierawrz http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151062-Lower-sex-drive http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151061-ESA-tribunal-help-pls!?goto=newpost Mon, 14 May 2012 21:30:49 GMT I have my tribunal tomorrow, and I'm shitting a brick about it because of the alternative. I have the support of my doctor but I really don't know if it's enough.

Any tips about what I should and shouldn't say? I have my mother and my support worker coming with me but I'm seriously worried about it.

Help!! ]]> Miss_Riot http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151061-ESA-tribunal-help-pls! http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151060-Smile-)?goto=newpost Mon, 14 May 2012 19:27:15 GMT Hey, i'm Roxanne, i prefer it when people called me Roxie though, i'm new, so feel free to add me as a friend :) Since i was 8/9 i have been struggling with self-harm, it started as tiny cuts but now..ANYWAY...i don't want to say anything to anyone, i'm ashamed more than anything, everyone in my school has found out but i just deny it if someone asks me, i lose concentration easily and i have lost ALOT of friends as they have seen my cuts and got freaked out.:no::crying: I still smile :) i am getting better but there are days when i feel like crap but my friends are supporting and one of my friends Danika stays at my house every other week ALL WEEK or i stay at hers and she helps me, i love my REAL friends, the support they're giving me is unbelievable&incredible. Thank you for keeping me smiling. :) This doesn't mean i'm gonna be posting about my feelings&experiences all the time :razz: ]]> Introduce yourself Roxie :) http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/151060-Smile-)