Living with a boyfriend makes women fat

[katchika]

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/4879380.stm

Pretty much common sense.

When I lived with my ex, everything was deep fried, he ate so unhealthily and it rubbed off on me. Of course he stayed skinny while I put on pounds.

Also had a lot of take aways and beer.

I'm glad I live alone now so I don't have crap food in the fridge and get temped to eat it.

[katralla]

Tee hee well that's one plus for being single, stayig trim. No one to share the trim bod with though so...

[JamesZero]

yeah, seems right...

One of my ex's put on a bit of weight while we were together because of my crap diet sometimes...

I saw her a few months after we split up and she had lost it all again! All my hard work was undone lol :thumb:

[Little_one]

I've just read that and thought oh shit, as I have a feeling I might be moving in with my boyfriend after I have finished uni, lucky he actually eats quite healthly, we will just have to see.

[RiSe & ShIne]

Whats the excuse for all the fat single single birds then?

[Guest]

I think it can be true in some cases.

The woman stay slim and care about staying slim until she get a proper relationship, then love can make her confident enoug so she doesn't have to stay that slim as she know her guy won't leave her cos of that as he love her...

[littlemidgetsarah]

I live with my boyfriend and we eat a good balanced diet in general but my problem is that he has Crohn's and so can't eat much at meal times so as I hate to see waste I eat all of mine plus the rest of his so I end up eating far more than I should!

[Lolzabeth]

When I lived with my ex I was miserable so I ate more and put on almost 2 stone. Since I got rid of him and am, technically, living with my boyfriend now I'm happier and I've lost all the weight I gained and more.

I understand the thing where people get comfortable and don't have to try as hard to stay slim but I supose it also depends on the person.

[lipsy]

Whats the excuse for all the fat single single birds then?
:lol:

people always put on weight when they're in a relationship, partly because you're content and partly because you go out more for meals and the girl tries to keep up with the guys eating habits.

[lipsy]

I understand the thing where people get comfortable and don't have to try as hard to stay slim but I supose it also depends on the person.
might also be laziness though. like you don't feel you need to try anymore because you've already got them. sense of security.

[_guest]

Happens to men, too, in my experience...

I never had that problem with my last ex as he had tendencies to eat exclusively at KFC and Burger King. :yuck:

I'd say it had a lot to do with eating as frequently as a lot of blokes do, quantity, snacking...and definitely related to alcohol in many cases. I'd say being in an unhappy relationship would definitely contribute too, unfortunately.

[intrepide]

I think this definitely can be true - it is in the way that the other person might not eat healthy food, the way you might go out for more meals, and definitely the portion sizes.

I just came out of a long term relationship and I have noticed a lot of change in the way I eat - I noticed the other night that when i cooked a meal exactly how i wouldve cooked it before, I had my meal plus 2 other meals for leftovers whereas before, the 2 of us wouldve eaten all of it in one go. and lots of unhealthy stuff that he liked, i just dont buy now whereas before, i would buy it for him but also eat it too cos it was there.
but on the other hand, I sometimes have worse habits, like eating just cheese on toast for days since there doesnt seem a point to cook a whole proper meal just for me, or skipping the meal all together.

the thing about not having to bother anymore cos you already got someone is something too - we were together for 7 years and I certainly no longer thought about whether or not i was trim for him after all that time - but now, the thought of someone new seeing me naked makes me want to run for the gym and the fake tan :p

[soraliah]

ive never really been in that situation, but yeah i can see how it happens. one of my mates moved in with her boyfriend aboouut... oooh it must have been 2 years ago now. came out of contact for about a year, and when i DID finally see her again it was a bit of a shock. must have put on at least 2 stone. she seemed happy though and her relationship hadnt suffered or anything.. so its cool

[Guest]

Happens to men, too, in my experience...

True. I put on more than 10Kgs since I am with SCC, but then again I was skinny as hell so it aint bad. Still far from being fat, but gain a lot of muscles tho due to the fact that I have now more activities as before...

[Guest]

I think it's weird how humans copy each other so much. We kind of replicate, it's odd!

Monkey see, monkey do...

[lucifer devil]

i don't think it's always the case.

with me, my ex boyfriend was quite athletic and looked good so i felt i wanted to do the same so made an effort.

i can see how it'd happen though but personally i wouldn't let myself get that comfortable with someone that i felt uncomfortable with my weight/how i looked.

[my name]

At my worst I had gained 35 lbs after I met my boyfriend!
Though the real reason behind it is because I quit coke and ate more than a sandwich a day after I met him :p
We've had probably a total of 5 meals at home since I"ve met him also.

I've lost 6 of it though :)

[lucifer devil]

welldone. :yes: :D

[*Snow White Queen*]

Whilst I was with my ex, I tended to eat more and put on weight. I tended to eat more when I was staying at his house for a number of days. He would make us bacon sandwiches for breakfast when normally I wouldn't have breakfast, he would make us something large and unhealthy for lunch when I would only usually have a sandwich then another large unhealthy meal for tea. I suppose I adopted his bad eating habits when I stayed with him to be honest. I didn't feel guilty for eating any of it because he was eating it all too usually in bigger portions. I also snacked alot too. We tended to eat out alot and eat big meals and we loved going KFC and sometimes we would share a bucket between us! Since we have split, my eating habits have changed so much. My diet is much better now.

[Nikki*]

Ahh I'm not so sure.... maybe the ideas are common sense, but in honesty, I practically live with my boyfriend, and I eat ten time healthier than he does... I force fed him lettuce the other day..... and he knows that if he cooks for me, she always knows to make me something healthy while he eats his greasy icky food.... Maybe it's a bit of a generalisation, or am I just a one off?

[Kate_342436]

That's why I'll be doing most of the cooking. I tend to live off salads and sandwiches anyway, and the only takeaways I go for are MacD or to the chippy.

[Spliffie]

I'd have thought people are more likely to put on weight through eating as compensation for being single.

[SuzyCreamcheese]

I put on about 6kg in the 6 mths since meeting nmm, mainly because of eating more, and later at night. Not the same sort of stuff as i used to eat either. went through a phase where we`d be eating loads of icecream in the evenings, or just me making more yummy foods for him, and then eating more myself too.
Also the fact that i dont make myself sick hardly ever now, whereas i was doing it a lot more before i met him. Im starting to lose the weight again now though cos it was pissing me off so im dieting.

[lipsy]

I'd have thought people are more likely to put on weight through eating as compensation for being single.
compensation?? i'm sure most single people are quite happy.

[lucifer devil]

compensation?? i'm sure most single people are quite happy.

i used to dislike being single, made me miserable as i thought the grass was greener and crap. plus i went through a string of lads and none of them worked out so it made me miserable. then i got with my boyfriend (my first one!) and then when we split up..i've realised being single isn't all that bad and i actually enjoy it. i mean i loved being with him, but i love being by myself too. not everyone enjoys being single. :)

[lipsy]

not everyone enjoys being single. :)
i know they don't. i've seen enough depressive threads on here that people start moaning about being single.
but i know a lot of people who actually choose to be single. they have guys or girls after them and they just don't want relationship at the moment. the amount of people that say to me 'why are you single??' as if im abnormal and should be in a relationship just because some people fancy me. don't get me wrong, i have had some great relationships and have felt really happy when in them. but i feel really happy right now too.

[lucifer devil]

i know they don't. i've seen enough depressive threads on here that people start moaning about being single.
but i know a lot of people who actually choose to be single. they have guys or girls after them and they just don't want relationship at the moment. the amount of people that say to me 'why are you single??' as if im abnormal and should be in a relationship just because some people fancy me. don't get me wrong, i have had some great relationships and have felt really happy when in them. but i feel really happy right now too.


yeh it's weird, before i got with my ex bf i always wanted a relationship. now i've had one i'm not bothered about having another! wasn't trying to say you didn't know not everyone was happy being single. :)

[Guest_]

but i know a lot of people who actually choose to be single.

Well, it's alright if you're not too much of a munter to fuck around.

I couldn't imagine eating any more in a relationship, but I have the metabolism of a shrew anyway (minus the taste for insects).

[StrubbleS]

I eat like a combine harvester and can't leave my 55kg (I am 178cm).
When i am a bit moody I tend to eat very little for a period of time, still I don't lose weight.

Wish I could gain weight, so there would be something to turn into muscles.
No chance baby. Wish I knew the answer to this mystery.

[Sugar]

this reminds me of a joke i heard the other week,

why are single women slimmer than married women?

cos single women come home, see whats in the fridge and go to bed, married women come home, see whats in the bed and go to the fridge :lol:

[bluewisdom]

I put on about 6kg in the 6 mths since meeting nmm, mainly because of eating more, and later at night. Not the same sort of stuff as i used to eat either. went through a phase where we`d be eating loads of icecream in the evenings, or just me making more yummy foods for him, and then eating more myself too.
Also the fact that i dont make myself sick hardly ever now, whereas i was doing it a lot more before i met him. Im starting to lose the weight again now though cos it was pissing me off so im dieting.I don't mean to be nosy, but if you don't mind telling us, how did you two meet?

[FilthyChav]

I think I care more about what I eat now, because I've put on weight since meeting my bf, and I don't want it to be a turn off for him. I never used to think about food, but now hes always bringing me treats and sweets in school and I'm really fattening up :(. He eats whatever he likes and hes as thin as a rake.

[SuzyCreamcheese]

I don't mean to be nosy, but if you don't mind telling us, how did you two meet?
faceparty :)

[bluewisdom]

faceparty :)Really?

[SuzyCreamcheese]

yep, he caught my eye and we started messaging, then msn-ing, then met up a few weeks later. Never looked back!

[bluewisdom]

Wow, that's amazing, those things work then, huh.. Well, good for you (both)!

[lucifer devil]

Wow, that's amazing, those things work then, huh.. Well, good for you (both)!


they certainly do work, yes! i might my ex bf on there and i'm no saddo. nor was he. :p

[keira_humphrey_06]

dat aint always true im moving in wiv my boyfriend soon and he cooks proper food n i always get my own way wiv him so deres no way i wld b gettin fat x

[lucifer devil]

you always get your own way with him so there's no way you're going to be fat?

[Guest_]

dat aint always true im moving in wiv my boyfriend soon and he cooks proper food n i always get my own way wiv him so deres no way i wld b gettin fat x

That's great.

Get him to chuck in some English lessons, and you're done!

[SuzyCreamcheese]

That's great.

Get him to chuck in some English lessons, and you're done!
:thumb:

[Kermit]

I'd say it had a lot to do with eating as frequently as a lot of blokes do, quantity, snacking...and definitely related to alcohol in many cases. I'd say being in an unhappy relationship would definitely contribute too, unfortunately.

Being in a happy relationship contributes too- we've got fat because we had the money to eat out regularly in good restaurants, and basically have a great time.

Now we're skint we're eating well, and we're losing weight quite quickly. It's amazing what having to live off vegetable soup does for the waistline.

But yeah, a lot of girls put on weight in marriage because they eat the same meals as their partner. Most people end up having equal portions, and for most women that's too much. Even if it's great and healthy food, if you're eating the same amount as someone who burns off 500-600 kCal a day more then you're eating too much.

[Sa-ra-ra-ra]

I definitely gained a lot of weight when i got together with my boyfriend, as we tended to get takeaways and eat together. He eats like a horse (seriously, i don't know where he puts it all - he has 5 full meals a day!) and piles it on my plate when he dishes out. I've had to train myself not to *try* and finish what's on my plate, and tried to make him aware that i don't need two chicken breasts or two jacket potatoes when he cooks for me *rolleyes*

[my name]

I definitely gained a lot of weight when i got together with my boyfriend, as we tended to get takeaways and eat together. He eats like a horse (seriously, i don't know where he puts it all - he has 5 full meals a day!) and piles it on my plate when he dishes out. I've had to train myself not to *try* and finish what's on my plate, and tried to make him aware that i don't need two chicken breasts or two jacket potatoes when he cooks for me *rolleyes*

Oh hunny, I feel your pain! Well kind of. My boyfriend is a meat and potatos guy. Thats all he ever eats. Considering I dont eat red meat, its tough. He has always eaten out. Therefore, since I've moved in, we always eat out. I get whatever looks good. He eats whatever looks good, which is usually alot :p

He has also gained 20 lbs since meeting me, how, I dont know as I dont think his eating patterns have changed at all!

I hate eating out now. We do it at 7 days a week. For so long we didn't care about apatizers or deserts, we just got what we felt like eating! After eating nothing for so long, I just gorged.

I try to go for the salads and such, but since we eat out every meal they still aren't even that healthy. Resturant salads are so huge with so much. Never fat free dressing. Its impossible to eat good. I've tried but we have completly opposite tastes in food. Honestly, anything I like, he doesn't and vice versa.

The only thing thats helped me lose weight is since 5 days a week I eat breakfast and lunch by myself I keep to weight watchers. Keeping everything down.

Surpsingly I've actually lost that 6 lbs. And its more than 6 lbs water weight. That weight loss actually gets me into the pants I used to wear 50% more comfortably than I did for quite a long time.

After all this rant though, one big main thing that I think affects my wieght gain since I've met the boyfriend is how I was raised. For probaly the first 13 or so years of my life, if I wanted desert, I had to finish all thats on my plate. Finishing your plate was a good thing. I've always carried that since. When we're out, I eat everything. When I'm full, when I'm stuffed, I will finish everything. And since resturants give you large portions, I get very full and continue to eat for quite a while since its a pure habbit to finish everything. Even now, I've tried very hard, but it is very hard to get out of the eat everything on your plate habbit.