'Quiet' people

[Special_K]

Not sure if this is the right forum but didnt know which one to put it in so sorry if its the wrong one.

Anyway, my question: For those who dont consider themselves or are not considered to be quiet or shy, how do you percieve people who are? Do you not notice them as much as louder people? Do you find them boring/rude/weird? Have u had a relationship with soemone who is quiet and found it difficult?

Im asking because Ive always been a quiet person and lately people seem to be commenting on it...Im finding it quite offensive and im not sure whether i should be.

Thanks

[klintock]

shhhhhhhhh!

[Deep Fathom]

'Quiet people' to me are those who rarely participate in conversations - only when spoken to. I never see them expressing themselves.

I rarely express myself. It's up to the individual. I see nothing wrong with quiet people - actually, I enjoy spending time with quiet people more than I do with 'loud?' people.

[melanie]

My best mate is what most people would describe as quiet and i can whisper over 50 fields.

everyone says what a strange combenation we are but hes not quiet when hes with me just around people that he doesnt really know so im not sure its the same thing

[my name]

I'm very quiet and shy and keep to myself. In a communications class I took, the first day, the first 5 minutes we had to write down our first impression of everybody.

90% of the people said I looked bitchy and stuck up. The few other quiet people (except for that sad looking one) got the same answers.

[clementine_the_tangerine]

I can be really quiet and people are usually 'awwwh' or annoyed by it.

[Wyetry]

I'm either really quite or really loud. I'm crap at small talk which probably means most people think i'm stuck up and offish; i also often don't see the point in talking I can quite happily spend the afternoon with some of my friends and hardly talk to them - its hard to expalin but another friend summed it up quite well when he said "i don't have uncomfortable silences" - why fill the gaps with a load of crap.

I'm also crap in meetings especially where there are loads of people who I don't know very well. I'm not at all bothered by public speaking though or having a tough one on one meeting with someone. As long as i'm totally confident about what there is to say then i'm happy to say it.

[Bullseye]

Im very quiet person, but i still participate in conversations with my friends, its strangers i dont react well with for chatting and things, its why i have trouble meeting people and broadening my horizens.

[byny]

I'm apparently an introvert. I guess I listen and watch and only feel comfortable making a point or joining a conversation if I feel like I know the people I'm with well.

If you are shy I found getting a job where I had to meet people was a great way to build confidence. My saturday Job at 16 really made me come out of myself and have more confidence.

If people are commenting it might just be to try and draw tou in to the conversation a bit more.

[edn1]

I'm apparently an introvert. I guess I listen and watch and only feel comfortable making a point or joining a conversation if I feel like I know the people I'm with well.

If you are shy I found getting a job where I had to meet people was a great way to build confidence. My saturday Job at 16 really made me come out of myself and have more confidence.

If people are commenting it might just be to try and draw tou in to the conversation a bit more.

I'm like that, and getting a job is what built my confidence to how it is today. I'm not as quiet and shy as i used to be but i still am to an extent. I used to be so quiet i would hide away in teh corner and people would say " i completely forgot you were even here ". I only speak when comfortable also, otherwise, and still to this day i keep my mouth shut.

I found when i was unemplyed i lost a lot of my confidence and finding another job gave it back to me.

Personally, i'm quiet & shy mostly and i dont care what other people think, i'm beyond all that now.

[Blah]

Another quiet person here

I find i get judged by it alot. Gets me down actually.

People constantly telling me to cheer up, or "let my hair down", or perk up a little.

Being a quiet person myself i find quiet people of the opposite sex more attractive than the loud. being quiet leaves something for the imagination.

[Skive]

My last serious girlfriend was very quiet.
She'd come out with my mates and their birds but she'd say fuck all. It wasn't that she was shy, she just didn't say or do much. Although she was stunning and a lovely girl, she was boring, and it pissed me off. In the end she had to jel.

[Yerascrote]

Nah not my type at all...I don't like really loud obnoxious girls either but I like a girl who's bubbly, loves having the craic, that you'll notice her presence in a room full of people, and someone who likes to go nuts.

[FilthyChav]

i get pretty quiet if i'm worried about making a good impression - i tend to stammer if i'm nervous. it kinda gives the opposite effect though - most people think i'm stuck up. even my bf's parents think i am - just because i'm polite and don't say much :(

i think the trick is, if you don't have much to say, or if you're nervous, keep quiet, but smile a lot.

[Kaff]

i'm pretty quiet, but i smile lots, so people tend not to assume i'm miserable.

i'm not really that shy though, anymore. if i have something to say, i'll say it. but sometimes i don't, and the kinds of people who must fill every silence sometimes don't understand that.

[Ilora-Danon]

When I was younger I was extremely shy and nervous around people. Even now I don't talk much when in a group, and find small talk to be extremely difficult.

I've been told that people have perceived me to be pretentious or arrogant. Which is completely the opposite... I'm shy, but people don't see that, they just see me not saying anything and automatically assume I'm purposely not speaking to them... I find it quite frustrating at times, because I really want to be perceived as being friendly, when usually it's the last thing people think I am, because I'm introverted.

Ilora x

[muse-]

i'm quite shy but im not an introvert, which sort of sucks :)

[Guest_]

I think I'm quite quiet and unnoticable. Which pisses me off.

Although I can natter enough amongst my friends.

[Ilora-Danon]

When I'm with my mates in the pub for example, I'm perhaps the loudest most garish person... But stick me in a shopping centre, and I turn into a pathetic little mouse...

A lot of the time I'm out of my 'comfort zone' and become introverted, when I'm dying to be the extrovert I should be.

Ilora x

[muse-]

When I'm with my mates in the pub for example, I'm perhaps the loudest most garish person... But stick me in a shopping centre, and I turn into a pathetic little mouse...

A lot of the time I'm out of my 'comfort zone' and become introverted, when I'm dying to be the extrovert I should be.

Ilora x

Should be isn't the right term i don't think ;p

[lipsy]

theres a quiet girl in my french conversation class. i think she gets really nervous so she only speaks if she's made to. i feel a bit sorry for her. but i've spoken to her out of class and she's nice.

[edn1]

Has anyone ever met a quiet & shy person who underneath, wasnt nice ? I've never heard of anyone being like that.

[my name]

Has anyone ever met a quiet & shy person who underneath, wasnt nice ? I've never heard of anyone being like that.

Me :D

[lipsy]

i just remembered this girl who i know who is almost mute! she never says hello and will only speak when spoken to. even when shes had a drink shes totally silent! it pisses me off actually. i think its kind of rude and annoying. she might be very shy or maybe she just doesn't have anything to say, i dont know.
i think that kind of quietness makes me suspicious, like shes planning to take over the world or something.

[Bunnie]

i think that kind of quietness makes me suspicious, like shes planning to take over the world or something.
:lol:
there was this lad when i was in first year, who was quiet and always sat on his own. i dont like seeing people alone so i tried to befriend him and he just wasnt very nice! i learnt my lesson and now dont force myself on anyone! but no not all quiet people are nice.

[Sofie]

I got told by someone (who I didn't know that well) that I'm far too quiet. Admittedly, it depends who I'm talking to and what type of mood I'm in - there are two people in particular who, when I'm with them I never shut up - unless I become nervous around one of them, which is quite common for me.

[lea_uk]

I'm quiet and shy when I'm in the company of new people but as I get to know people I come out of my shell. I do tend to get my words tangled up even when I know a person. I always make sure I'm polite when I'm quiet I do smile a lot and I'm always polite.

[edn1]

I do tend to get my words tangled up even when I know a person. I always make sure I'm polite when I'm quiet I do smile a lot and I'm always polite.


I do that too. I'm making a conscious effot to stop doing that because if it infuriates me like it does it must be worse for other people. I'm still quite shy though, more than i admit to myself, which is why im making more of an effort to get out it of again. I used to be scared to speak up for myself or open my mouth for fear of sounding stupid but i'm moving away from that now. Takes time though

[guitaress]

The only time 'quiet' people annoy me is when they come across as rude, eg - don't even say hello when you speak to them... Although it's fair enough to be quiet or shy, and I notice people like that every bit as much as I would a louder or more out going person. I think everyone can be a bit shy at times, no matter how confident they are, certain situations can make you be like that.

[lea_uk]

I definitely say hello or answer when people ask questions but I do try to keep the answers as short as possible so I don't get tongue tied.

[edn1]

Manners cost nothing, and take almost no effort so theres no excuse for being rude tbh. Shy & quiet people are that way for a reason. Personally i believe it was confidence.

[Entertaining_Angels]

What about life experience? Maybe the quiet ones don't have as much life experience as the older more outgoing people, so they don't have much to talk about that would interest those that know more about the world or have lived a bit more than the shy/quiet people?

I've always been a quiet person, but like people have said already, getting a job helped me come out of my shell more. My first proper job was in retail so I had to talk to people I didn't know everyday and be confident in what I was selling :D

[Namaste]

I'm a quiet person relatively... Even worse now because I no longer trust anybody and have lost a fair bit of confidence. I normally don't perceive quiet people as rude... Maybe sometimes a bit shy or introvert. You tend to find that quiet people can be very interesting to talk to... A lot of loud people can get annoying.

[lipsy]

its not one or the other though (quiet or loud). i'm sure most people are just inbetween.

[icey]

Well i used to be quite shy until i left school then my 'real' self came through.
Most of my past girlfriends have all been quite out-going until i met Catherine, who is quite quiet and shy until you get to know her, and she is the best things thats ever happened to me :D. So no, i dont persieve quiet or shy people as rude at all

[Infinite]

I'm painfully shy, it takes a lot to get me out of my shell. Which is a shame because I can be very entertaining company.

[I'm With Stupid]

Better to keep quiet and have everyone think you're stupid, than open your mouth, and remove all question. :D

I think most people are quiet in the company of people they don't know, then get a bit louder as they get to know people. I now make a conscious effort to talk to people I don't know if I'm in a group of friends' friends, for example, and preferably try to bring other people into the conversation. I find alcohol makes most people more sociable and more likely to let their 'real' personality come out without fear that they'll appear stupid.

I think it's largely genetic, since it's quite obvious to see in schools for example, that certain children take the lead and are more sociable. Of course the more you're left out, the more shy you end up becoming, I guess.

[Carolina]

I agree with lipsy. I'm in the middle. I'm loud and a giggly when with friends/had a vodka/in a relaxed environment. But i still listen and i still watch people even when like this. I prefer to be aware of my surroundings in case of trouble. Or because i'm paranoid ;) If i was in a meeting with people i don't know or when i've been somewhere on my own and was required to wait i tend to be very quiet and people have said i come across as an up my arse cow that looks down her nose. Probably true in some respects :yes: I get very like that when on a night out. It puts off the drunken numpties.

I don't find that i get annoyed with shy/quiet people, i know how hard it is from when i was younger. Sometimes though if someone is a lot quieter than me i find it hard if they don't even attempt to reply to questions or just say hello as then i end up feeling a numtpy and think ive upset them.

[**helen**]

IMO being shy or being quiet can potentially be two completely different things.

Shy people are quiet by their very nature, but quiet people are often not shy. This is why it can be so freakin annoying if you're quiet, but not shy, and people start to comment on it.

Special K - I've never been able to work out why people feel the need to make that comment - or what they gain from it - can anyone answer that question? Perhaps it's because they feel uncomfortable with the quietness? But it's not really a good way to start a conversation is it?

You can be happily getting on with your life and then someone tells you "oh you're a bit quiet" and you suddenly feel self-conscious about it when it may have never occured to you before. I agree with what's been said already that sometimes people who are quiet giving off an air of mystique, and actually being pretty interesting people if you give them a chance. They're usually good listeners too.

On the other hand, it's commonly believed that if you're shy, then you would actually benefit from breaking out of your shell a bit. Hell we've even got an article on it (http://www.thesite.org.uk/sexandrelationships/familyandfriends/friendships/shyness) :)

[Walkindude]

In my Sixth From, I was nominated as quietest male, which surprised me a little. I aksed people about it and some said no way was I quiet and others said yeah for sure.

I think I am more quiet in new situations and around new people, but with people I know I talk more and am more negaing and fun and louder.

kind of half and half I guess.

[edn1]

It makes sense though that with people you know you are going to be more comfortable with being yourself, not being afraid ot say something for fear of sounding stupid etc. I look at my work situation, i've been theor for over a month now and i'm still not 100% confident around them, but i'm getting there.

I'm half & half i guess too. Surrounded by friends i am the complete opposite of if i'm put in other situations.

[byny]

My last serious girlfriend was very quiet.
She'd come out with my mates and their birds but she'd say fuck all. It wasn't that she was shy, she just didn't say or do much. Although she was stunning and a lovely girl, she was boring, and it pissed me off. In the end she had to jel.


that's a shame but I guess that's what happens when you pick someone only for their looks.... unless of course she was very talkative around you?

Perhaps her inability to talk was because she wasn't yet comfortable enough with your friends?

[clementine_the_tangerine]

I'm quiet and I always get paranoid that people think I'm a bitch because of it. I guess when I DO talk it removes that idea from their head because I come across as very shy. I blush at the slightest thing and no it isn't 'cute blushing' as in a tinge. Its all over red faced, ears balloonfulness. I haaate it so much. Sometimes I wonder if I'm TOO shy as in bordering on the unhealthy. I avoid places I dont know very well and I actually like meeting new people but I get nervous beforehand. Which is why y'all have to be nice to me at the MEET.

[Randomgirl]

90% of the people said I looked bitchy and stuck up.
How very perceptive of them! I'm impressed they could tell that about you after just 5 minutes :p

[lea_uk]

I've love to be more confident when I 1st meet people.

[my name]

How very perceptive of them! I'm impressed they could tell that about you after just 5 minutes :p

I'm not stuck up :( ;)

Around people I dont know I dont say much. Nearly everybody at work thinks I'm mute :p Everybody at school thought the same. I'll say hi and stuff but thats it, speak when spoken to. Just stay to myself.

Unless you know me very well. (Or I'm on the internet ;)) Then normally I'm very loud, joking all the time, rude (in a good way) and of course, bitchy ;)

[jj1006]

hi,

Just saw your post and thought i would reply, I am a confident 24yrd student and am a shy person and am quiet as well especially when meeting new people at first.

But I think over people make assumptions because of this i myself have found. Some people have responded by saying that i am arrogant,boring, that kind of thing and at times it can become annoying and frustrating.

Anyway see what you think....

jj1006

[Naomi_UK]

Im really quiet myself and only really open up once I get to know someone. or unless Ive had a few drinks.

I dont mind loud people but TOO loud can sometimes get a little annoying and 'too much' over-powering.

[I'm With Stupid]

Sorry, I didn't hear that.

[Franki]

Which is why y'all have to be nice to me at the MEET.
Of course we will!

I'm quiet. Well, I was quiet. I'm painfully quiet when I'm in a group of new people, especially when there's people I know around. I'm fine for one-to-one, but groups just freak me out.

I've found that now I've managed to come out of myself more at college and stuff, people notice when I go back to being quiet and how I used to be. I'm not *shy* as such, but I just don't really want to make a fool of myself. Particularly if I'm not 100% sure I know what I'm talking about.

I don't know if people see me as stuck up or not. I'm not rude, and I do join in conversation properly if I want to, or if I have something to say, but if I don't, I just tend to sit there and listen and keep myself to myself. I dunno. Does that look stuck up? Maybe...

[Special_K]

Shy people are quiet by their very nature, but quiet people are often not shy. This is why it can be so freakin annoying if you're quiet, but not shy, and people start to comment on it.

I agree with this completely, I'm quiet but i dont cosnider myself to be shy. I consider shyness as being scared of talking to people. Im just naturally quiet and dont feel the need to fill every silence with chatter and talk for the sake of talking.


You can be happily getting on with your life and then someone tells you "oh you're a bit quiet" and you suddenly feel self-conscious about it when it may have never occured to you before. I agree with what's been said already that sometimes people who are quiet giving off an air of mystique, and actually being pretty interesting people if you give them a chance. They're usually good listeners too.

Exactly! It really gets to me more than anything else when people comment on it, its like saying to someone whos overweight, "oh you're a bit fat." Feels like people are judging you, but generally people can't change their personalities and I know I will always be quiet, and likewise, someone who is loud will always be loud.

Just wanted to get peoples opinions on whether they viewed 'quietness' as being a bad thing really and I guess a lot of people do which is a shame!

[soraliah]

im reeeally quiet... and i really wish i wasnt!!
since ive got to uni ive got a bit better and i find it easier to make conversation and meet new people, but its still very hard!!
even when im around friends back home i dont talk much - but im better when its on a one to one basis rather than in a big group!!

i always feel like whatever i say sounds stupid! so even if i have a comment to make or want to say something i dont because i dont like the attention i get when i say it!!
im actually a lot better when it comes to girls rather than boys.. if a boy starts talking to me i blush beetroot and start to stammer and get all... bad!! i cant help it!! that probably explains why ive never had a proper boyfriend... i only ever meet boys when im pissed (when i talk more)

hmmm i wish i was loud

[Kermit]

With friends I am talkative and confident, and professionally I'm confident and talkative. I can deal with the phone fine, I'm good at dealing with professional talking.

With people I don't know I'm not very good. I'm a bit shy, and I am quiet. I'm a lot better than I used to be, working in an office where everyone was a character really made me come out of my shell. But if I don't have anything to say I won't say anything, and I don't feel comfortable just butting into group conversations.

Being shy and being quiet are two different things. Most new people are shy deep down, but some people are better than others at hiding it. I've become a lot better at hiding shyness and fear because I've had jobs where you can't be shy and quiet- you can't be shy if you're in a prison dealing with a client, and you can't be quiet with office colleagues who are all very loud and outgoing.

[stargalaxy]

For those who dont consider themselves or are not considered to be quiet or shy, how do you percieve people who are? Do you not notice them as much as louder people? Do you find them boring/rude/weird? Have u had a relationship with soemone who is quiet and found it difficult?

Im asking because Ive always been a quiet person and lately people seem to be commenting on it...Im finding it quite offensive and im not sure whether i should be. I'm perceived as quiet by many. When they comment on it, I often take offence and that's the point which they see I'm not quiet anymore at all! I've been called boring/rude/weird before, as well as a heap of other things. And do you know what? I don't care. I don't give a toss how most people perceive me, the only people I'm prepared to take any personal criticism from is friends and family. Truth is, only some people are worth listening to.

[muse-]

Shy people are quiet by their very nature, but quiet people are often not shy. This is why it can be so freakin annoying if you're quiet, but not shy, and people start to comment on it.

I don't agree with this ... they aren't quiet by their nature as a lot of people really dont WANT to be quiet (and when they are being themselves are not quiet at all) ... it's just stupid inhibitions and whatever else that are preventing them from being themselves...

But otherwise I agree ... quiet / introverted ppl are often not shy.

[stargalaxy]

I don't agree with this ... they aren't quiet by their nature as a lot of people really dont WANT to be quiet (and when they are being themselves are not quiet at all) ... it's just stupid inhibitions and whatever else that are preventing them from being themselves... For me, I worry about various things... will people think I have a silly voice, will they laugh at what I say, will they laugh at the sight of me talking... that sort of stuff.

[muse-]

For me, I worry about various things... will people think I have a silly voice, will they laugh at what I say, will they laugh at the sight of me talking... that sort of stuff.

Yeah everyone has different things they worry about ... but that still doesn't mean you are quiet by nature if you appear that way (because of the reasons you said)... If u worry then you clearly are wanting to talk etc but don't for one reason or another... when ure somewhere/with someone you can be comfortable with maybe you're less quiet? ... and prefer when u feel like that..

[Kermit]

I don't agree with this ... they aren't quiet by their nature as a lot of people really dont WANT to be quiet

I'm quite often quiet because that's what I am. If I have nothing to say I don't say anything.

I am a bit shy, but not horrendously, not anymore. But I like doing quiet things. I like doing solitary things. Not always, but I don't agree that all quiet people are shy souls. I don't think I am especially.

[Indrid Cold]

I'm very quiet/shy... I didn't use to be when I was a kid, but that's a story for another night.

When talking to people I don't speak much, I tend to not find something to say, or I might think "They know each other better than they know me or I know them, won't I be intruding if I was to say something?" and so I rarely get to know new ones. That's what I'm trying to fix.
When talking to people I know though I speak more, but not as much as others.

I guess I do come across as rude often... Today I went there and started talking to ones I know wll without saying "Hello" to others I know but not as well... Not sure why. :(

[lea_uk]

For me, I worry about various things... will people think I have a silly voice, will they laugh at what I say, will they laugh at the sight of me talking... that sort of stuff.
I get that too.

[muse-]

I'm quite often quiet because that's what I am. If I have nothing to say I don't say anything.

I am a bit shy, but not horrendously, not anymore. But I like doing quiet things. I like doing solitary things. Not always, but I don't agree that all quiet people are shy souls. I don't think I am especially.

Yeah ... I was trying to put across that shy people's nature isn't necessarily being quiet, it is a different thing really...

But i do agree with you, read the rest of the post you quoted ;p

[Rapunzel]

I'm very shy, due to low self esteem. I often find it difficult to maintain a conversation with somebody, even a friend, because I can't think of anything to talk about. Things like talking to a stranger or making a phone call are really difficult for me, because I worry about silly things like 'What if I babble and make an arse of myself?' or 'What if the other person doesn't understand me?' (the latter is more common on the phone). To top it all off I have a very quiet voice, which often results in people not even noticing that I'm talking! :banghead:

Some of my friends have admitted that they thought I didn't like them at first, because I was so reluctant to talk. I also hate it when people comment that I'm quiet, because it embarrasses me and just makes me quieter. What am I supposed to say in reply to a remark like that? 'I know'?!

[wooooooooah]

I also hate it when people comment that I'm quiet, because it embarrasses me and just makes me quieter. What am I supposed to say in reply to a remark like that? 'I know'?!

I know what you mean, people saying stuff like that doesn't help at all.

[MzInnocent]

i'm talkative with my friends but quiet when i'm out of my comfort zone, i.e. with new people whom i don't know... i'm scared of sounding stupid!
i'm comfortable with one on one, but groups scare me!
what i find annoying is people forgetting about you, even if you talked to them for a while, e.g. the next day someone will mention me to the person i just met and they will be like "i don't remember her" i get this alot. and i really hate it! :banghead:

[duckyduck]

I don't think i am quiet but apprantly i am but not round friends. Sometimes i just feel like i really cant be arsed to talk to some people, especially if we havent got anything in common. Im not exactly over the top or anything but i hate some people who are like that, cant have a proper conversation with them sometimes.

[kilia]

I'm not really shy but i when im at school or at a party or anything like that i dont realy like to talk. Most of the time id rather sit and watch everyone else then actually join in on the conversation. and most people dont think im stuck up just that im really quite

[Jim V]

Hi Kilia,

It's worth just keeping an eye on the dates of a thread. This one is over a year old. If you find a thread more than a few months out of date and want to talk about something similar then it's usually best to start a new thread.

Mind you it's obviously difficult to jump straight into starting a new thread about a problem, maybe start a thread to introduce yourself.

Oh and welcome to TheSite :wave:

[Netty]

Im really really quiet but once i get to know people i do open up a bit, i think being quiet is quite good in a way because people are always wondering about you and it kind of makes them want to get to know you better

[HeartshapedBox]

I'm very quiet, but that's a lack of confidence/lack of self esteem thing. I only talk to people I know, & it takes me years to trust anyone. I was bullied from age 5-15 which does play a part, bullied for being quiet of all things! In school now, at 16, I get laughed at a hell of a lot, cos I'm quiet, like people will scream at me because they know I'll jump etc etc... I don't think I've ever met someone who hasn't mentioned how quiet I am. As for being perceieved as a snob, that's pretty accurate - a girl I knew (who was quite 'loud') tried to make a 'friendship' with me - for two years she shouted 'snob' at me, at every opportunity, because I was afraid, in a way, to talk to her.

Oops, thread a year old, oh well

[Delia_rocks]

I'm okay with being quiet. Sometimes I can go a couple of days without actually speaking. I like to talk too though - but it's not usually a good idea as there's not much of a filter between my brain and my mouth - I have a tendency to say precisely what i'm thinking, which often annoys people.
I don't think being quiet is a bad thing. Maybe when you're young, yeah. In contrast, my dad spent most of his life being quiet, carefully contemplating exactly what he was going to say before he opened his mouth. That's why people respected him so much at work and valued his opinion - because they knew it would always be sensible, concise, well-constructed and useful. There's a lot to be said for only speaking when you need to, and thinking about what you say.

[solangesand]

Not sure if this is the right forum but didnt know which one to put it in so sorry if its the wrong one.

Anyway, my question: For those who dont consider themselves or are not considered to be quiet or shy, how do you percieve people who are? Do you not notice them as much as louder people? Do you find them boring/rude/weird? Have u had a relationship with soemone who is quiet and found it difficult?

Im asking because Ive always been a quiet person and lately people seem to be commenting on it...Im finding it quite offensive and im not sure whether i should be.

Thanks

I am a very, very quiet, and I would say I am the most patient and accepting person I know. I'm comfortable with myself and actually think I am a caring and nice person when people get to know me.
But some people think I'm weird or stupid, and as much as I tell myself not to let that get me down it sometimes does.
this issue has been on my mind lately because of some (not really nice) comments by friends.

[**helen**]

I am a very, very quiet, and I would say I am the most patient and accepting person I know. I'm comfortable with myself and actually think I am a caring and nice person when people get to know me.
But some people think I'm weird or stupid, and as much as I tell myself not to let that get me down it sometimes does.
this issue has been on my mind lately because of some (not really nice) comments by friends.

Hey, welcome to the boards. :wave:

This is a really old thread so it's best to start a new one if you'd like a discussion on this subject. I'll lock this one now.