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donut
08-12-2005, 07:36 PM
for the past 18 months or so ive been having sex with a friend who i work with, and in some ways we were like a couple, some of our friends even thought we were. only thing is i ended up falling for him big time, and love him more than anything, but he doesnt know how i feel.
Now though he has said he doesnt think we should have sex anymore, and just wants to be friends. i only wish i could, i cant stop thinking about him, but dont want to destroy our friendship by telling him how i feel. how can i get over him when i have to see him everyday and everytime i do see him it breaks my heart?
sugar_mouse
08-12-2005, 07:59 PM
it wont be easy, but the best thing to do will be to move on. try to extend your circle of friends, see other people, go to new places. 90% of the time people end up developing feelings for the other person in a situation like this....that may have been why he ended it. either he knew how you felt, or maybe was worried about himself starting to feel that way?
donut
08-12-2005, 08:02 PM
i dont think he knows how i feel, hes not the sharpest tool in the tool box. i wish i could stop seeing him, but we work in the same room at work, in fact it has started affecting us both at work!
sugar_mouse
08-12-2005, 08:08 PM
well, in that case, can you move to a different department in work, otherwise if managers find out you may get moved or demoted anyway!
donut
08-12-2005, 08:11 PM
i doubt it, i work in a nursery, so we all have our own rooms and areas that we specialise in!
Sofie
08-12-2005, 08:12 PM
i dont think he knows how i feel, hes not the sharpest tool in the tool box. i wish i could stop seeing him, but we work in the same room at work, in fact it has started affecting us both at work!

Not working in the same place or area would be the only way (For me anyway) to get over someone. And if you can, avoid talking to him alot as well.
donut
08-12-2005, 08:17 PM
Not working in the same place or area would be the only way (For me anyway) to get over someone. And if you can, avoid talking to him alot as well.

i really wish it was that easy. you see the thing is i very mush doubt that ill be able to move, and therefor i have to see him, thats why it is so hard for me.