Age gap and tellin your parents the truth?

[*Sweet_cheeks*]

Heya i need advice! :confused: Ive jus turned 16 and ive been wiv my bf nearly a year now the fact is hes 25! we both feel we should tell our parents the truth but how can we like bring it up ? And wats your views on this matter? HELP!!!!!!!!!!! :eek2:

[sugar_mouse]

are your parents aware of the relationship, just not of his age??? if so, what are their views of him??? I think if you act mature+show you're responsible and sensible, they'll respect you more. Also, if you bring him round, spend time with them, dont just hang out in your room bcos they will just assume you're up there doing stuff!!!

[my name]

Hey dad/mom. I met this really great guy. We've been seeing eachother for a while now. Hes very sweet and quite sexy. He does this for a job, he does this for fun and he is this age.

Oh hunny, we are so excited for you. So long as he treats you nice thats all we care about. Your father/mother and I are so happy for you. Remember to practice safe sex. Here is the number for my OBGYN. Go there and get some birth control. Love you, must go play Bingo now though.

[*Sweet_cheeks*]

Sugar mouse, Yeah my parents are aware of are relationship and my mum loves him hes the onli guy ive been out wiv that she likes!!! They fink hes 20!!!!

[Kermit]

Can you spell properly please? Text talk is frowned upon on these boards for the simply fact it is unintelligible.

If they know him, and have met him, and like him, then why mention anything? I seriously doubt they think he's only 19 or 20, and even if they do, unless you lied to them why come clean? Just drop it into conversation next time ages comes up, don't make a huge meal out of something that doesn't matter.

[*Sweet_cheeks*]

Yeah but hes really 25! i lied to mi parents i sed he was 19 wen they met him n on hes bday they think he turnd 20! he also lied to his parents they fink im 17!!

[Kermit]

Can you write in English please? Don't use text talk on these message boards.

Well, you need to correct the lie, but why make a song and dance of it? I don't even know why you lied in the first place, to be quite honest.

[katralla]

I think you should defiantely tell your parents and his paretns the truth. They can then decide if they think he's taking advatage of you, and if so, what, if anything to do about it. I'm not saying that 16 & 25 automatically means he's taking advantage but they're older and (we hope) wiser and will be able to support/guide you.

[my name]

Can you spell properly please? Text talk is frowned upon on these boards for the simply fact it is unintelligible.

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"Fink" makes you sound like a retard.

And why do you think your their parents would have such a problem? Its not like he's 40 and your 12. Your both of age I believe.

[*Sweet_cheeks*]

We are now we started goin out wen i was 15 n he was 24!
I jus really love him and he really loves me & we both love our parents we jus dont knw how to tell them ?

[my name]

What's the point in trying to give you advice about making a stupid lie to your parents about age when you can't even take advice on how to type?

[*Sweet_cheeks*]

We are now we started goin out wen i was 15 n he was 24!
I jus really love him and he really loves me & we both love our parents we jus dont knw how to tell them ?
(Listen i type the way i type ok!)

[Kermit]

Type in proper words, for crying out loud. Them's the board rules, I've tried being nice, and if you can't be bothered to obey the board rules then sod off.

Don't make a big song and dance about it, don't tell them when he's there, and all will be fine. I don't get why you lied, but hey, you did.

[my name]

Have a look Here (http://vbulletin.thesite.org.uk/showthread.php?t=87303)

Text talk

There are reasons why text talk isn't the greatest way to communicate on these boards:

1. There is no word limit, so you don't need to shorten words, although the odd u and 2 are allowed
2. It may be faster for you to type, but it takes much longer to read, and the lack of punctuation also makes your posts hard to decipher. It puts people off responding.
3. Text talk makes you look stupid and illiterate, sad but true. Board users will also assume that if you can't be bothered to write properly, why should they bother to try and help you.
4. The search - if you write normally, the key words will be picked up when doing a search, helping you and others. One of the main reasons for our search not being as good as it could be is the use of text talk.


Number 3 applies to you most I would say.







And if you are honestly not matrue enough to tell you parents the truth about fucking age... well then. There really is no point to continue this relationship then is there. I can't see how you can "love" somebody when you can't even tell people the truth about them.

[*Sweet_cheeks*]

Listen all i want is advice!!!!!
so plz help!!!

[Kermit]

If you won't obey the rules of the board after being politely asked on several occasions, then why the heck should we help you?

I'm not being nasty, I'm saying you should obey the rules and etiquette of the board if you expect us to help you. It is, after all, only basic manners.

Go to your mum and say "OMG!!! I lied to you mum!!!". Or don't.

I've said don't make a big deal of it, because it isn't one. Are you ignoring that as much as you ignore the requests about etiquette?

[Ballerina]

if you want advice then respect the rules first, its only fair
im about to turn 16 myself (a month today) and personally i don't think you can have much in common with a guy nearly 10 years older....in my eyes i usually worry because you have to consider what a man in his mid twenties is doing with a school girl....which is what your parents will worry about. Also if you slept together before you were 16 (and looking at your profile you were only 16 yesterday) then he was breaking the law - which i'm sure you're both aware of anyway.
if the relationship is so strong, then why have you been ashamed and lied for so long?

[Kat_B]

the thing is there's not a huge amount of advice to give.. if you want to tell them then the only way is to tell them straight out.

explain you were worried how they would react and that's why you didn't tell them to begin with. say you're sorry you lied to them, you're serious about the relationship and you hope they understand and support you.

you said your mum likes him so i don't see why it will be too much of a problem. the age gap isnt THAT much and you're over the age of consent. just apologise for lying to them and explain why you did.

[Thunderstruck]

Type in proper words, for crying out loud. Them's the board rules, I've tried being nice, and if you can't be bothered to obey the board rules then sod off.

Shit most people don't even get that much free reign from you Kermit!

Original poster. I can accept that 'it's just the way you type'. However, typing in text speak does make you look like a semi-literate retarded chav. Whether or not that's the case or not is neither here nor there but it does put people off reading your post as they can't understand a lot of it and thus it makes people more reluctant to help you when you can't even be bothered to type properly.

We're not having a go, we're just asking you to obey the board rules which are there to make things easier to understand with the eventual end that people might be more inclined to help you which at the end of the day, is what you want. We say jump and you've got to say how high.

[ncollict78]

Firstly ditto what everyone else said about the text typing thing and secondly either just tell the truth or don't !
You said your self they like him so they obviously think he's a nice guy what harm would it really do to tell them his real age ?

[Black Emerald]

9 years aint too much of an age gap and if all involved like the other then the only problem is in your head. If hes proved that he can be trusted by your parents already then they'll just have to get used to it; worst case scenario is that they're a bit put out, but its hardly a criminal offence. Just get it over with.

[Little_one]

So in english your problem is you lied to your parents and his.

Your parents meet him on his birthday and you told them he was 19 (so they believed he was turning 20), he is really 25. Your 16 now (where 15) when you met. But you told his parents that you where 17. You have been going out for about a year.

I had a simular problem, around christmas I meet my boyfriend who 6 Years older then me. For the first couple of months I did not tell my parents about him at all or any of my family. After a couple of months I thought it was about time to tell them, but I was scared about what they would say so i told my brother first to see what kind of reaction there would be about the age gap.

I sort of hoped my brother would tell my parents, but he did not so a few days later when I hear nothing from my parents I phoned up my mum and told her. She did not really say anything about it at all, neither did my dad when i spoke to him after he got back from work (he phoned me). Neither of them had anything much to say about the fact i had a boyfriend or about the age gap.

[Little_one]

9 years aint too much of an age gap and if all involved like the other then the only problem is in your head. If hes proved that he can be trusted by your parents already then they'll just have to get used to it; worst case scenario is that they're a bit put out, but its hardly a criminal offence. Just get it over with.

I think it is harder for girls who are under 18 or even up to the age of 21 o tell there parents about age gaps, as they are always seen as there parents' little girl. Even though I'm now 21, my bf still jokes about me being dad's little girl.

[pelin]

the longer you keep up the lie the more upset and disappointed they'll be, if you come clean soon make a note of mentioning that you respect them enough to inform them of the truth and that it would have been easier to keep up the lie. Thats what happened to me because my parents didn't accept my boyfriends nationatily and i came cleane after a while of lying. They still didn't accept him and it made it harder to see him but they did respect me for coming clean about it. I just wish i never told them in my case.
goodluck, if they already like him don't worry, clearly he doesn't act like a 25 year old if he passes as a 20year old.

[Meryn]

Listen all i want is advice!!!!!
so plz help!!!

Didn't you read any of what the other people typed?! Up to that point, 4 separate people had given you advice on your situation - sensible advice at that - , some like Kermit more than once.

What's the point of asking people about your problem if you're deaf to the replies?

[Blah_ha]

Tell them. They will probably worry about what a twenty five year old bloke sees in a sixteen year old girl still at school because that is what parents tend to do. If they find out though by some means that you are lying to them its going to make the whole thing look even more sordid, like your boyfriend has something to hide. Tell them, don't make a big deal of it like Kermit said and if they get mad explain that you were worried about their reaction and you appreciate their concern but think they should get to know him more before the pass judgment.

[CHEEKy]

Hiya,
I agree with most that you need to tell them as soon as you can.
I'm glad you are in a good relationship.
Just wondering....how did you meet and what's the relationship like...is it affectionate and stuff?Just curious.

[*Sweet_cheeks*]

heya, Yea me and my bf richard have a fantastic relationship! since we got 2gether on 14th december 2004 both of our lives have been gr8, we're rele close! and know loads bout one another! I jus want my parents to understand why i lied ! my mum was sayin 2 me (she thinks) as Richie is 20 if she didnt want us 2 sleep 2gether she wud have told the police long b4 now! So i fink im ok in that case! but i jus want them to accest that we love one another and dont wanna lose eachother ! I jus want our parents to take us serious!!

Cud some1 like help me, how to word how we can say it to both our parents?

[Kermit]

I give up.

You're being deliberately rude, and obtuse, and to be quite honest, I can't be arsed dealing with your rudeness or your problem.

You are rude, inconsiderate, and a moron. Good day to you.

[my name]

U shud say, Hey mom, i lyk ttly luv ths guy bt apperantly i dnt luv hm enuf 2 tell peeps the truth abt him. thts aight tho. he lied bout me 2. so hes rly 25. i hpe u arnt mad tht i lied 2 u. im jst immature lyk tht. however, i hve cum 2 the conclusion tht i will nt be able 2 se him 4 a whle as i hve decided 2 go bck 2 skool and tke sme english, spelng nd grmer courses.

[*Sweet_cheeks*]

U shud say, Hey mom, i lyk ttly luv ths guy bt apperantly i dnt luv hm enuf 2 tell peeps the truth abt him. thts aight tho. he lied bout me 2. so hes rly 25. i hpe u arnt mad tht i lied 2 u. im jst immature lyk tht. however, i hve cum 2 the conclusion tht i will nt be able 2 se him 4 a whle as i hve decided 2 go bck 2 skool and tke sme english, spelng nd grmer courses.

your well rude i have been typing probly cause you lot moaning!!!1

[Kermit]

u hv ben tipn bcuz we r mnn rite?!?

w0t a lod ov blx!!!

u r nt lisnn 2 w0t we sai n bcuz ov dat we cnt ndrstnd w0t u r sain!!!

iv u typd n sumfn prochn inglis den we cud hlp u mor!!!

:eek2: :eek2: :eek2: :thumb:

[Walkindude]

well I'm 21 and I recently had a thing with a girl who was 16. I was stressing about it and it was col, she reckon her parents would be fine, her step mum was with a 25 year old when she was 15 so she thought they'd be cool.

Well they weren't. She had lied to me over a certain thing and the dad rang me and threeaened to get all sorts onto me. It seems to have died down now thank god but don't assume the parents will be ok because they may not be and the consequences could be disasterous.

[my name]

Tons of advice has already been given, what do you want, one of us to tell you mommy for you because you couldn't tell the truth in the first place?

[budda]

Am I the only one which thinks an age gap between a 16 year old and a 25 year old bloke a bit odd?

I just cant imagine you have all that much in common.

Anyway, good luck and all that, except of course if you keep using txt spk, then you deserve all the bad luck there is.

[Ballerina]

Am I the only one which thinks an age gap between a 16 year old and a 25 year old bloke a bit odd?

I just cant imagine you have all that much in common.
:yes: thats what i said

[Walkindude]

Interesting fact. Johnathan Ross got with his current wife when he was 25 and she was 16.....

[Loved Up Blonde]

your well rude i have been typing probly cause you lot moaning!!!1

Well to be honest this is about the first time you have acturly started writing in english text not txt talk, and if you think about it if you respect the rules we will help you, they have already warned you about just take there advice (im not moaning im just trying to get throught)

[Little_one]

Well to be honest this is about the first time you have acturly started writing in english text not txt talk, and if you think about it if you respect the rules we will help you, they have already warned you about just take there advice (im not moaning im just trying to get throught)

Plus it is alos easier for people to read english then text talk, as you don't have to spend time trying to work out the abbreviations, as not everyone is fluant in text talk.

I'm 21 and I only know the basics, plus some abbrevations can mean different things to different people. As I mainly use texts for short messages anyway. Eg. I'll be home in about 30mins, See you in 5 or Fancy a coffee after work.

If I have something long to say I email, as you have on restriction on the number of letters you use. I still prefer to actually talk to people face to face.

[katralla]

I find the age gap between a 15 (as she was untill a few days ago) and 25 year old a little disturbing. When I started 'dating' my daughter's father there was 'only' a 7 year age gap and he manipulated me to high heaven. I WISH someone would have interveened, at first I didn't even realise I was being manipulated. I didn't really talk to my parents about him, although they knew, and we out right lied to his parents about my age. There is a reason why you two have been lying about your age gap and it's becasue you know the relationship couldn't stand up to the scrutiny that you know you'd come under if you were honest. I do think that some age gap relationships can work on an even level but as you two have not been able to have a mature and honest relationship, I would suggest there is something wrong here and I am worried for you.

[mia16]

Am I the only one which thinks an age gap between a 16 year old and a 25 year old bloke a bit odd?

I just cant imagine you have all that much in common.

Anyway, good luck and all that, except of course if you keep using txt spk, then you deserve all the bad luck there is.


i think its odd :yes:

[Sofie]

i think its odd :yes:

I do as well. And for some reason, I also find it slightly wrong...

[Little_one]

I find the age gap between a 15 (as she was untill a few days ago) and 25 year old a little disturbing. When I started 'dating' my daughter's father there was 'only' a 7 year age gap and he manipulated me to high heaven. I WISH someone would have interveened, at first I didn't even realise I was being manipulated. I didn't really talk to my parents about him, although they knew, and we out right lied to his parents about my age. There is a reason why you two have been lying about your age gap and it's becasue you know the relationship couldn't stand up to the scrutiny that you know you'd come under if you were honest. I do think that some age gap relationships can work on an even level but as you two have not been able to have a mature and honest relationship, I would suggest there is something wrong here and I am worried for you.

I would tend to agree with katralla. I was worried what my parents would say when I told them that my boyfriend was 26 (I was only 20 at the time), luckly they took it really well.

[Kermit]

I don't think its that odd, my 17-year-old sister started going out with someone who was 26.

Without knowing the girl and the lad, you cannot comment. Many lads are grossly immature, and many girls are quite mature.

[Thunderstruck]

your well rude i have been typing probly cause you lot moaning!!!1

No I think it's you that's being 'well rude'.

We asked you nicely to type properly, not because we're pursuing a personal vendetta, simply because it's easier for us to read and if we can read it better, then maybe we'll be able to help you out better. However, you didn't so don't come whinging that we don't answer your posts. Posting on another thread asking people to look at this thread was particularly pathetic.

Now we've been more than patient - Kermit uncharacteristically so - but if you can't be bothered to adhere to the rules then you can go and deal with your problems yourself because I can't be fucked to help you and neither should anyone else.

[olaola]

16-25 is quite a signifcant age gap in my opinion. Your parents could easily take it in the wrong way.

Im a 17 year old male and got off with a 23 year old before. Everyones reaction were to laugh, and they were shocked. And that was just my mates, only you no your parents but personally i dont think they will just smile and agree, especially as you lied..

[katralla]

I don't think its that odd, my 17-year-old sister started going out with someone who was 26.

Without knowing the girl and the lad, you cannot comment. Many lads are grossly immature, and many girls are quite mature.

I completely agree and it's not the age gap itself that worries me- more when it occurs. For instance a 17 year old girl dating a 26 year old man seems fine but a 14 year old girl with a 23 year old man would be wrong, yet it's the same age gap.

When a girl is 15 and still at school, she is still a child (in my eyes); when she is 17 and at college/working/dossing she is a young adult.

[Little_one]

I don't think its that odd, my 17-year-old sister started going out with someone who was 26.

Without knowing the girl and the lad, you cannot comment. Many lads are grossly immature, and many girls are quite mature.

Ah but did she tell you straightaway how old he was when she first told you she had a boyfriend, the fact that Sweet Cheeks lied to her parents to start off with, might give them the impression that they have something to hide.

Ok so I did not tell my parents that I had a boyfriend until we had been going out for a couple of months, as I did not see the point until we had decided that we both wanted to have a serrious relationship, then I told them within about a week. Well I needed to decide how best to pproach the subject. Hence why I told my brother first in the hope to gain some surport or to find out he thought my parents would react.

But as you say without knowing these people we can really comment we can just offer advice or tell them about our own expreiances.

[Little_one]

I completely agree and it's not the age gap itself that worries me- more when it occurs. For instance a 17 year old girl dating a 26 year old man seems fine but a 14 year old girl with a 23 year old man would be wrong, yet it's the same age gap.

When a girl is 15 and still at school, she is still a child (in my eyes); when she is 17 and at college/working/dossing she is a young adult.

Agian a very good point there Katralla. If I was say 14 and started dating a 20 year old my parents would have hit the roof as they would still concider me a child.

But because I was 20 when I meet my 26 year old boyfriend and was in my second year at uni and living away from home in halls, they saw me as a mature young adult.

[Loved Up Blonde]

Plus it is alos easier for people to read english then text talk, as you don't have to spend time trying to work out the abbreviations, as not everyone is fluant in text talk.

I'm 21 and I only know the basics, plus some abbrevations can mean different things to different people. As I mainly use texts for short messages anyway. Eg. I'll be home in about 30mins, See you in 5 or Fancy a coffee after work.

If I have something long to say I email, as you have on restriction on the number of letters you use. I still prefer to actually talk to people face to face.

i agree that what i was trying to say

[engevita]

I completely agree and it's not the age gap itself that worries me- more when it occurs. For instance a 17 year old girl dating a 26 year old man seems fine but a 14 year old girl with a 23 year old man would be wrong, yet it's the same age gap.

Half your age +7



Always Round down ;)



then completely ignore :thumb:

[Ballerina]

hm well she has only JUST turned 16, they've been together about a year so that would have made her 14 or just turned 15 when they got together :chin:
i still think its abit dodgy, like kermit said, it depends how mature they're being but i still think a man in his 20's should be with girls more his age and not school girls, unfortunatly for girls my age the majority of boys our age are about as mature as a 5 year old....in fact, when i was on work experience just about all the 4/5 year olds i worked with were more mature than the 15/16 year old guys at school. And girls DO mature faster but they're not always as mature as they think they are....i still think a near 10 year gap at that age is abit iffy though
but thats my opinion

[Little_one]

Half your age +7



Always Round down ;)



then completely ignore :thumb:

(27/2)+7= 20.5 Round down to 20, whoops I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 27, just as well the last step was then completely ignore.

But if I round up from x.5 like I was taught in maths lesson :yippe: I'm the right age.

[Walkindude]

aye thats my opinion. I mean I am 21 and recently had a thing with girl younger then me and she was really great but I worried about the age gap and it turned out I was right, she was immature and that. If she had have been older then she probably would have been perfect but the age made the difference.

Mind you it is said that girls mature 3 years faster then boys so guys should be with women 3 years youger then them and girls, guys 3 years older.

Not sure I belive it myself but a point at least.

I certainly would love to find a woman my age to be with :)

[Ballerina]

Mind you it is said that girls mature 3 years faster then boys so guys should be with women 3 years youger then them and girls, guys 3 years older.

:yes: theres a 3.5 year age gap between me and my ex, and we still get along great and are sort of in the 'seeing each other' stage again though not together cause we're taking it slow
my mum was worried but it really does feel like we're on the same level of maturity....im mature for my age, and he's a 19 year old guy, though he is mature - he doesn't go out getting pissed all the time and bragging about what he's done with so and so, he's quite shy. But we're really alike in our ways and personalities, but not too alike....just right really! :)

[Walkindude]

well done you! Glad you found someone you love to be with :)

[*Sweet_cheeks*]

to be honest ive matured so much since ive been wiv mi bf and i look at things differently now!! and i feelin im much mre mature than mi friends!!

[*Sweet_cheeks*]

:yes: theres a 3.5 year age gap between me and my ex, and we still get along great and are sort of in the 'seeing each other' stage again though not together cause we're taking it slow
my mum was worried but it really does feel like we're on the same level of maturity....im mature for my age, and he's a 19 year old guy, though he is mature - he doesn't go out getting pissed all the time and bragging about what he's done with so and so, he's quite shy. But we're really alike in our ways and personalities, but not too alike....just right really! :)

thats jus how me & my bf are! and out of guys ive been with in the past , my bf is the only one who really cares about me !! and thanks to him i should be geting 3 c's in mi gcse in May june time!!! Im so in love!!! Hes so supportive and cares alot about my furture!

[Deep Fathom]

to be honest ive matured so much since ive been wiv mi bf and i look at things differently now!! and i feelin im much mre mature than mi friends!!

The only thing left on the 'To do' list is to stop writing in text talk.

Wait, that means it will end up in 'Not to do' list.

or the 'Not to not to' list to stop text talk.

Etcetera :)

[my name]

to be honest ive matured so much since ive been wiv mi bf and i look at things differently now!! and i feelin im much mre mature than mi friends!!

Swing and a miss.

From the way you type, the lack of respect for anybody and your pure refusal of common sense and curtiousy really does not support your claim of having matured.

You said you wanted advice, you got it. What more do you want. Do you want one of us to call up your mommy and tell her you lied and that your boyfriend is older? Do you want those who believe it is wrong for a man of that age to date somebody so young and obviously immature to bow down to you and say they were wrong? You've gotten what you asked for, even though you had no respect for anybody here in the process, why continue?

And honestly, if its pure lazyness that you are going for, "mi" and "my" have the same number of letters. How you can manage to even look at that without vomiting is shocking.

[Ballerina]

thats jus how me & my bf are! and out of guys ive been with in the past , my bf is the only one who really cares about me !! and thanks to him i should be geting 3 c's in mi gcse in May june time!!! Im so in love!!! Hes so supportive and cares alot about my furture!
the thing thats making you appear immature is the text speak
i dont mean to sound nasty but its been said enough times you need to use proper english here (makes life so much easier)
3 c's? What do you mean? I thought it was the whole 5 A*-C's that the teachers keep getting at?

[BeckyBoo]

and i feelin im much mre mature than mi friends!!


You do :eek2:

I dread to think how immature your friends are then. I mean, look how many times you have been asked to stop using text talk but you totally disregard what people are asking you to do. Being mature means growing up........you have a long way to go yet, dont you agree ?

[*Sweet_cheeks*]

I dont thanks since me and my bf have been together ive grown up alot !!!
I feel alot my confident with myself as a person now, and i feel i can gain alot more out of life. The fact is the only step i need to take is us telling our parents, why we lied, i know its gunna take sometime them getting used to the idea of us beein together but we're in love! I feel right when we're together and when we're not i feel emtpy like im missing part of me! I just want to get the point across that we're in love and that we're happy together! Im 16 and i should be able to see who i want!! I want to be taking more seriously !!!

SO HOW CAN I PUT THAT POINT ACROSS TO MY PARENTS AND HIS?

[ncollict78]

Just bloody tell them ! Say your sorry you felt you had to lie and how you want to put it right, If they like him as much as you say then they should be fine with it. I don't know what else you want people to say to be honest lots of advice has been given !

[*Sweet_cheeks*]

Thanks for that I just want to be propard for anything they have to say!

[Little_one]

Make sure you chose a time to tell them when they are not rushing around/busy or stressing about something etc... sit them down and clamly tell them that you love each other and that the only reason you lied about his age was because you were not sure how they would have taking it, but you have realised that it was wrong to lie to them about it and that you are sorry that you lied. If there really do like him, then there should not be a problem.

[Tool]

I think your best bet would be to say "I was scared to tell you, but my boyfriend is really 25. On the plus side, he teaches English to mentally retarded people"

Tell us how you get on...

[BeckyBoo]

Im 16 and i should be able to see who i want!!


Yeah, we have all been there. Im 16, I can do what the hell I want when I want :rolleyes:

So why does this all lie down with you why cant your boyfriend sort it ? I mean at the end of the day he's a 25 yr old fella so tell him to stop being a wimp and get the parents told...................sheesh

[Little_one]

So why does this all lie down with you why cant your boyfriend sort it ? I mean at the end of the day he's a 25 yr old fella so tell him to stop being a wimp and get the parents told...................sheesh

Good point there BeckyBoo, why has he not been more willing to help her tell her parents the truth.

[Ballerina]

tbh, at 16 there isnt THAT much more freedom - people have usually done most of it anyway

[Mist]

I dont thanks since me and my bf have been together ive grown up alot !!!
I feel alot my confident with myself as a person now, and i feel i can gain alot more out of life. The fact is the only step i need to take is us telling our parents, why we lied, i know its gunna take sometime them getting used to the idea of us beein together but we're in love! I feel right when we're together and when we're not i feel emtpy like im missing part of me! I just want to get the point across that we're in love and that we're happy together! Im 16 and i should be able to see who i want!! I want to be taking more seriously !!!

SO HOW CAN I PUT THAT POINT ACROSS TO MY PARENTS AND HIS?

If you want it to come across really well with your parents I'd suggest using loads of screaming, shouting anger like that last sentance suggests.

Really, if you want any adult to take your relationship seriously you're going to have to calm the fuck down about it. If the age gap is not an issue, then it's not an issue that needs to be discussed with your folks.

However, as a word of advice that you've not asked for, I'd say that you should break up with this guy. From what I can see here, you're not a mature 16 year old. And that suggests to me that either you're going out with a very immature older person, which probably wont help you in the long run, or you're being decieved by a mature older person who fancies taking advantage over a young girl. Neither of these scenerios is that great.

[Addict]

Send both respective parents an email, typed by yourself, explaining the situation.

They will understand perfectly.

[Silverberg]

Send both respective parents an email, typed by yourself, explaining the situation.

They will understand perfectly.
Assuming her English has gotten better.

[Addict]

Assuming her English has gotten better.

Lowest form of wit my post was actually. Still witty though ;)

[Tweety]

Don't they teach english in schools these days? I though mine was bad!

[Mist]

Don't they teach english in schools these days? I though mine was bad!


I think that they do, but unfortunately it's batted down by the endless reams of kids tv shows and music channels encouraging text speak and the like.

[waster]

I say, you are both by law anyway, full autonomy to have a relationship and that cannot be argued with or subject to control. Dont bother about what other people think, you are old enough to make your own choices and not pander to the needs of society's expecation of what is normal and what isnt. I was in a relationship with only a 4 year difference and it became constantly speculated about by her parents etc that I couldnt be bothered and broke it off. I agree with whoever said that there is the element of manipulation, what have you got to lose by telling your parents the truth, will they kick you out? if so, if its such a great relationship then you have nothing to worry about as he will look after you, right? ;)

[DG]

Am I the only one which thinks an age gap between a 16 year old and a 25 year old bloke a bit odd?

I just cant imagine you have all that much in common.




Sometimes the most important things people have in common transends more then time and different people mature at different rates, someone who's grown up in a very sheltered home may have less life experience then someone younger then them who's been through a lot for their age.

[Wyetry]

[QUOTE=bongbudda]Am I the only one which thinks an age gap between a 16 year old and a 25 year old bloke a bit odd?

I just cant imagine you have all that much in common.

/QUOTE]

Ohh thats just what I was thinking - but then its clearly me showing my age - personally i'd think that someone who was that old and fancied an underage girl was a bit of a purve to be honest.

I also think that this poor girl has had such a bad schooling she cant' acutally speak proper english or spell correctly

(Or she might be a troll so stop feeding her)

[*Sweet_cheeks*]

I say, you are both by law anyway, full autonomy to have a relationship and that cannot be argued with or subject to control. Dont bother about what other people think, you are old enough to make your own choices and not pander to the needs of society's expecation of what is normal and what isnt. I was in a relationship with only a 4 year difference and it became constantly speculated about by her parents etc that I couldnt be bothered and broke it off. I agree with whoever said that there is the element of manipulation, what have you got to lose by telling your parents the truth, will they kick you out? if so, if its such a great relationship then you have nothing to worry about as he will look after you, right? ;)

fankz for that waster i agree wiv u i jus want them to understand y we lied to them!
I wanted them to give mi bf a chance, i knw his parents will be ok bout it because they r understand people i jus feel that mi parents will b different coz im their lil girl ( they fink)!!!
Fankz for all the help people !!!
we are tellin them in 17 days !!! i hope it goes well!!! :crazyeyes

[my name]

Why isn't blatent disregard for the rules, other posters and pure idiocy a bannable offense?

[Little_one]

Why isn't blatent disregard for the rules, other posters and pure idiocy a bannable offense?


Pass, I really don't know?

[my name]

Pass, I really don't know?

I think it should be.

Discuss.

[Little_one]

I think it should be.

Discuss.


What is there to discuss, as you say it should be a bandable offense, its not like we did not ask her nicely to stop writing in text.

[my name]

What is there to discuss, as you say it should be a bandable offense, its not like we did not ask her nicely to stop writing in text.


Oh, genius idea *light bulb*

Should it be banable... or beatable :chin: or both

[Little_one]

Oh, genius idea *light bulb*

Should it be banable... or beatable :chin: or both

They should be banded then beaten.

[*Sweet_cheeks*]

Thanks to everyone that gave me advice, we told them the day after boxing day and they were fine bout it they was jus disapointed that i lied to them!

[my name]

Thanks to everyone that gave me advice, we told them the day after boxing day and they were fine bout it they was jus disapointed that i lied to them!

Oh my god, somebody got hooked on phonics for Christmas! :yippe:

[Carriage Return]

Thanks to everyone that gave me advice, we told them the day after boxing day and they were fine bout it they was jus disapointed that i lied to them!
Glad to hear it.
Thanks for the courtesy of letting us know how it turned out, and for doing so in something tolerably close to english.

[Walkindude]

Monkey phonics????? Sweet!!!

wow, a happy ending. Very nice.