Relationship problems

[Hellfire]

I'm not sure how to put it but basicly while talking to my girlfriends mother, which i do alot the topic of me getting new piercings came up, it ended up as if i get any new ones she will stop me seeing her daughter, at one point she wanted me to remove my old one aswell but i managed to keep it,

Any suyggestions on what to do, although i probably will comply with her wishes as i dont want to lose my relationship with her.

Im not sure but... do you think this if fair, i dont think it is

[kate2419]

I think its completely unfair and a completely fickle attitude, your good enough for her daughter now but you wouldnt be with another piercing? wtf?

Although I dont blame you for obeying her wishes however ridiculous they are

[Hellfire]

yeah, i mean its not a major problem its just i was looking foward to getting it done this weekend

she did the. "god didn't intend us to have piercings otherwise we'd be born with them* speach,

i think i'll come out with the "so i can walk around your house nude" come back lol

[kate2419]

lol you so should try that one!!

[Acrobat]

Doesn't your girlfriend live in America? In that case, her mum won't really ever see it, will she. Common sense tbh. And it is your decision, not hers, anyway.

[chaos_insomniac]

Hellfire in the UK. Girlfriend in America? I don't think that'd work. That's ridiculous. Have you ever met her Hellfire and how often do you see her??

Sorry if MoonArcanum got it wrong...

[Exess]

I can't believe how anal some people are. Not like your walking around with your whole face full of piercings or something. lol

[Hellfire]

right, yes... i've meet her, she moved back to the usa. and ill be going over about 2times a year, maybe more, her mom will see it when i go over.. wont she....

and yes..... it is my choice but i dont have a decision.. or i dont feel it

[lea_uk]

Could you not take them out whenever you see her?

[mystifymysoul]

She really isn't in any position to tell you what you should, or shouldn't do..

But then again, if you really want to adhere to your gf's mothers wishes, then good for you.

Although, if you really want this piercing then you shouldn't let it stop you. It's ultimately your decision on whether you get it or not..

[Hellfire]

i wouldnt be able to take the piercing out when i visited as it'd be for such a long period the piercing would close up,

I.. I know shes not in a position to tell me what to do, but atleast it shows im willing to give up stuff for my girlfriend

[mystifymysoul]

Yeah its good of you to do that..and I can understand that u want to stay on the good side of your gfs mum. Just don't feel forced into anything.

[Hellfire]

I will try and discuss it with her, i managed to keep my current piercing

[Blah]

get the piercing. take it out but wear it at night while u sleep when her mother wont see you, just to keep it open

or get a retainer

[Hellfire]

I wont go behind someones back and get it done, I have to much respect for her, shes, well shes like a mom to me and i respect her and trust her. i wont lie to her

[Hellfire]

Btw, thanks for the replys

[Basic Instinct]

AMERICA?!

Oh lordy whatever next.

[chaos_insomniac]

I wont go behind someones back and get it done, I have to much respect for her, shes, well shes like a mom to me and i respect her and trust her. i wont lie to her

It's not going behind her back. It's your choice to make, not hers.

[November_Rain]

Why are you asking but then aruging with peoples advice?

IT would seem like you posted this for the sake of having a problem.

[Kermit]

What on earth do you do to make every girl's mother "hate" you? Seriously.

[Hellfire]

she doesn't hate me, im close to her mom actually, hense why i speak to her,

and..no.. i argued with the fact my morals wont let me go behind her back and do it,

[Blah]

well we cant change her mums mind can we?

You say what shall i do, well theres not much you can do. Theres 3 options-


get it done and her mum hate u
not get it done
get it done behind her back


And u dont want to do any of these so maybe you should wave a magic wand.

[Hellfire]

Hmmm... well i think ill just not get it done yet...... maybe in a year or two

[aimz]

I think this is pointless...

She lives in America its barely a r'ship anyway!?!?! get the piercing tell her mum to grow up, you're caring about this way too much Graeme, Its a little metal bar that her mum will see for a short period of time over 365 days.

Nuff sad - i could continue but i dont want to piss anyone off or put a bad karma on the long distance thread! :p

Its all a moo point!

[satehen]

How is it any of her business anyway? Get it done if you want it! I'd understand if it were your mother, but your girlfriends!?

[Hellfire]

and then what, she find out, bans me from seeing her, i think it could be a bit to risky

[aimz]

and then what, she find out, bans me from seeing her, i think it could be a bit to risky Hellfire - your already banned in a way anyways. its twice a year for god sake!

[Hellfire]

so what... i should risk the little contact i do have.....

[mystifymysoul]

It seems obvious from what you are saying that you don't want to get it done and go against her wishes. So, don't get it done!

[aimz]

It seems obvious from what you are saying that you don't want to get it done and go against her wishes. So, don't get it done! That was going to be my next point!

[littlemissy]

This thread perplexes me. I don't see why it is such a big issue. I agree totally with what Aimz has said so far. This is almost laughable.

Why do you make problems for yourself? If you want to get it done, get it done. If you don't want to get it done, don't get it done. As you are "so close" to your "girlfriends" mother then surely she will respect the fact you are 17 and she has no control over you. However, something doesn't quite fit. I can't place it ...

[nicebutdim23]

just curious HF, where do you see this going in the long term? i'm not having a go, i'm genuinely curious, how long are you planning on seeing her just twice a year for?

you can tell me to sod off being nosey if you want....