boyfriend, his best mate and my best mate...

[kitty1102]

Hi, just wondered if anyone had any thoughts or advice on the current situation im in. I love my boyfriend of two years, but eva since ive known him, ive had feelings/or maybe just a crush? on his best friend.
Anyway, we all went out for my boyfriends birthday and his best friend (slightly drunk) kept telling me how much he liked me, and how things cudve been if id met him instead of my boyfriend.
Then my best friend turns up (she knows how much i like this guy) and she pulls him right in front of me!
i jus feel really confused about the whole thing- I dont want to think about this guy anymore, but i jus cant help it.

[Cuddilicious]

Are you willing to give up a 2 year relationship though with a boyfriend you still love for someone you just developed a crush on?

It could possibly be just a phase, nowt serious... unless you have more feelings for him than you're letting on.

[mystifymysoul]

Tbh, its kind of selfish of you to expect the guy you have a crush on to remain single and to not get with any girls. If he does like you, he is probably sick of waiting around for you to split up with your bf or whatever. Or maybe he has realised that its not the best idea to fancy his best mates gf.

Sure, its harder because he pulled your best mate. Which is kinda rude of your best mate, seeing as she knew how much you liked him. But at the same time, it's not your business who he or she pulls. Maybe she likes him? and she is definately in a better position to be dating him than you are..

[Ballerina]

maybe she was just trying to put you off him??

[ginner]

Maybe he's a manwhore?

[NothingGoldCanStay]

Oh man, i was in this same situation a couple of months ago. I was with my ex boyfriend for 2 years, and his best friend IMs me one day and says he had a crush on me since the day he met me and he wished he had done something about it.. So, I know it was a terrible thing to do, but I went out on a date with him, to see if it would work out.. and it was me, him, his friend, and a another girl, but the guy i was supposed to be with completely ignored me. But it did give me a chance to get to know the other guy that was there, who i did hit it off with, and am going out with now..

anyway.. thats a confusing story. In my case, i wasnt really happy in the original relationship.. if you are happy with your current boyfriend, then I say you should stick with him. This other guy might end up to be a complete jerk, and then you'll be left alone. ..but dont do what I did, and try to see 2 people at once.. its not gonna work at all.

[Teagan]

Then my best friend turns up (she knows how much i like this guy) and she pulls him right in front of me!

But you already HAVE a boyfriend! Unless you are prepared to dump your current boyfriend now before you embark on finding out whether a relationship with this guy will work, you have no right to be offended by your friend pulling him first.

If you like this guy, you ought to be thinking about dumping your current boyfriend now because whether or not you do land up with the guy, you must feel unhappy with your boyfriend to even consider anyone else. It's not right to keep him hanging on ...

[TheCure]

You BF's best mate would not be much of a mate if he made any sort of a move while you were still going out with your current BF. Mates last a lifetime GF's can come and go unless you really are the one. He probably values his friendship to much and rightly so.

It often happens, the reason choose our friends is that we share the same likes/dislikes and tastes in many things. Girls are no exception, mates are bound to like the same type of girl. I have been attracted to friends GF's and im sure they have to mine, may flirt a little but never any more. I would never hit on a friends girl untill its all over between them and would hope my mates would do the same.

[kitty1102]

Well, thanx 4 the advice! Ive since realised tht I was being pretty damn selfish, plus, that I could neva have anything with this guy thts a good as wat me and my bf have. Yeah, I feel attracted to him-but only wen I c him (and thts not really tht often). So, I will let this crush 'blow over' and concentrate on my relationship. x

[jahword4life]

Well current situation is not new to me at all. I think thats just how most girls are lately. Well i wouldnt even talk about love cos we both dont understand and know what it is. I think you need to ask yourself so many questions like why am i with my current boyfriend,what do i want in this relationship,do i want to spend the rest of my life with this guy...? I think you just funcy or have a crush on this new guy. You dont know what love is thats why you are confused......