How do you treat a bitch?

[Cuddilicious]

Basically I have not been in good terms with this girl at my work.
Reason: I told her that he boyfriend cheated on her, but when she confronted her boyfriend; he denied it all and so she took his word for it and convinced herself that I was just out to ruin their relationship.

This happened about 5months ago.

When at work, we never speak to each other unless it's work related (In a nightclub by the way; if that makes a difference). I have never made an effort to be nice to her but at the same time I don't make an issue out of it.

But recently, we have just recruited a lot of new staff and it is all coming out that this girl has been bad mouthing about me behind my back.. Telling them I'm a little bitch that is not to be trusted and making me out to be a slut as I have had past relationships with two guys in work. One does not work there anymore.

At first it bugged me but not enough to pull her about this as I just felt she was the one being petty and when the new staff told me about this, they already know not to trust her anyway... as most already dislike her which is why they have confronted me about what she has said.

The thing that's pissing me off though, is she been poisoning one of my friends mind against me. I use to be close with this guy and is now going out with one of my best mate. But last month or so as he has been getting chumy with this bitch, whilst getting distant with me in a very cold way. Even his girlfriend/my best mate has noticed. And she's convinced as well that this bitch has said something to him to go against me.
And on top of that, I caught her one weekend at work, having a cosy chat with my boyfriend who I have been recenly seeing. When I walked into the room, they went quiet but I thought nothing of it. But ever since that, my now ex boyfriend has spoken to me saying he would like us to be just friends now as he is having trouble to trust me. (His ex cheated on him after 2 year relationship and doesn't want to get hurt again).

This is really bugging the hell out of me. Everytime I see her, I just want to; in a polite way... physically hurt her. But I don't want to lose my job over her.
I don't know for sure that she has for definite spoke to my ex about me as I aint spoken to him in a whole, but I will soon as I see him. But the thing that's worrying me, is that if I find out that she did speak about me... I will crack when I see her.

What should I do? Should I just leave. Get myself a new job. or what?
Any advice would be appreciate?

[klintock]

Find long term goal and measure all against that.

What you have is small scale "he said she said" crap that will consume your life and leave you a useless shell of your former self. Pick a goal and stick to it, then either the minor hurts will be worth it or you can stove her face in without any real effect on your life over time. Either way you are a winner!

Fuck it off and be happy.

[Cuddilicious]

I do love were I work as I get on great with the majority of people. But I can't stand all this bitching. I don't like her but I don't make an issue out of it as most of the time I hate making a fuss out of it. But when ya have people telling me what she has been saying about me behind my back is annoying the hell out of me now...

[Irnbru]

Personally i think you should confront her and tell her what you think of her. If things get physical then so be it, im not a fan of violence but this peson seems like she could do with a good slap to make her see some sense.

Just tell her to leave you alone and that she is just being pathetic about this whole situation. You tried to help her and she wasnt having it, she shouldnt be acting this way when you were only trying to help her out.

[Cuddilicious]

Thank you for noticing that I actually tried to be nice to her in telling her about her cheating boyfriend. I really do want to confront her about that, though I think I will wait till I speak to me ex first. Fine out, whether she did defintely speak to him about me. As that would be the finally straw for me.

I'm just getting sick and tired of her childish behaviour at work. Just amazes me how pathetic she is being about this :-/

[Carolina]

Just ignore her and try to rise above it with the mature attitude. It will win in the end as people will see her as the trouble making bitch. It will be hard for a while but if anyone is worthy of being your mate they will see you for the person you are and be a friend.

Don't bitch back or fight her, it will make you look like the bad guy and get a reputation at work that you don't need.

It just proves that sometimes we try to help and it's not worth it. People are 99% of the time not happy that you point out bad things.

[girl with sharp teeth]

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[Cuddilicious]

If other staff have noticed her bad mouthing you and she is unpopular because of it, then could you perhaps ask the manager to have a word with her?

Is actually going to be done tonight or tomorrow night.
Just found out the other night, that apparently I aint the only one she has been bitching about behind my back. A few othr girls have put in the same complaint over her. The manager is apparently going to have a word with her. Basically going to warn her that she aint doing herself any favours at the moment, turning against all the girls when they haven't done anything wrong.

I never thought girls like her ever excisted. It's really sad.
In a way I just feel sorry for the girl now :-/ ...but what can ya do.

[pinkstar]

She sounds like a complete cow. You've definately done the right thing by not letting her show you are angry and upset. Best thing to do is rise above fannies like her.

I actually know someone just like her - she was friends with my boyfriend and when me and him got together she was a total cow to me and was constantly bitching about me behind my back. Things aren't as bad anymore tho (4yrs later!) cos she moved away. It was difficult not to confront her but I knew that if I did I'd just end up saying something I regretted. In the end it was her who looked like the petty wee girl bitching behind my back and everyone realised this.

I hope once your boss speaks to her things get a bit easier for you. It's never nice knowing that someone doesn't like you or has it in for you (even if they are just a daft bint).

[Cuddilicious]

Yeah she is. To be honest, I know this sounds cruel; but I hope she leaves after the manager has a word with her. Hopefully she will have caught onto herself what a complete bitch she as been and leave over embarrassment.

For the mean time, I am going to bite my tongue and try not to lower myself to her level. Even though theres times I really do want to hurt her when I see her passing by acting like nothing happened. It sickens me on how much of bitch she really is.

[BumbleBee]

I remember your original post when it all kicked off with her. I'm surprised that you've managed to stay so calm for so long. I'd have been inclined to kill her, so well done for keeping cool.

Let us all know how it works out!

[Cuddilicious]

I remember your original post when it all kicked off with her. I'm surprised that you've managed to stay so calm for so long. I'd have been inclined to kill her, so well done for keeping cool.

Let us all know how it works out!

To be honest, I've surprised myself on how calm I've been about this. I didn't think I'd be able to face her again without having a go at her, but I just bit my tongue while waiting for the managers to sort her out.

Thing is, apparently on Wednesday, the manager is going to have a word with her then; which is all good. I also still stand by what I said, that I would love it if she did leave that night. Simply cause I'm sick of the bad atmosphere.

Though some of the other girls, who she has also bitched about, as got together and said that if she doesn't get rid of on Wednesday they were going to walk out together, including a supervisor who is in on this. A supervisor that the manager gets on with very well.

Maybe I'm getting soft in me old age, but I found that a bit harsh, but same time I'd love if it would work, but I doubt very much. As the girl has worked there for nearly 2 years now. So they can't sack her on the spot like that, can they? I assumed she has to have her three warnings first.