OklyDokly
20-03-2005, 03:24 PM
I'm really confused about what to do next.
Couple of nights ago, I asked a girl out by text message who I really like, the night of a party the girl and I were at. Anyway, she text back the morning after, saying she just wanted to be friends...
However when I think about it, things just don't add up. I'm pretty sure she really likes me, and has been giving lots of gestures which most would interpret as signals: Eye contact, smiling softly, flicking her hair round while having a quick peek at me in lectures, touching me on the arm and leg, pushing her legs or on occasions her whole body up to me when sitting next to me in bars, etc. Certainly has felt as if our relationship has been developing a little past friendship.
Do you think it's possible that I picked the wrong moment? She was most likely pretty hungover when she got my message first thing in the morning, and she was quite annoyed with a bloke she went out with for a while, who was snogging someone else on her bed (he was very drunk and regrets it). I feel I might have put a little too much pressure on her through the message as well, which is certainly what I didn't want to do.
Anyway what do you think I should do next? Do you think it's fair to call her to try and get an honest answer out of her, maybe she was telling the truth but I would still like to know why. Also do you think it's a good idea to ask her out again, this time I lot more casually. I don't want to put pressure on her, but I do feel that it's right to explore our friendship a little, so we can truly tell if there's something there.
Any advice will be appreciated.
Thanks
Couple of nights ago, I asked a girl out by text message who I really like, the night of a party the girl and I were at. Anyway, she text back the morning after, saying she just wanted to be friends...
However when I think about it, things just don't add up. I'm pretty sure she really likes me, and has been giving lots of gestures which most would interpret as signals: Eye contact, smiling softly, flicking her hair round while having a quick peek at me in lectures, touching me on the arm and leg, pushing her legs or on occasions her whole body up to me when sitting next to me in bars, etc. Certainly has felt as if our relationship has been developing a little past friendship.
Do you think it's possible that I picked the wrong moment? She was most likely pretty hungover when she got my message first thing in the morning, and she was quite annoyed with a bloke she went out with for a while, who was snogging someone else on her bed (he was very drunk and regrets it). I feel I might have put a little too much pressure on her through the message as well, which is certainly what I didn't want to do.
Anyway what do you think I should do next? Do you think it's fair to call her to try and get an honest answer out of her, maybe she was telling the truth but I would still like to know why. Also do you think it's a good idea to ask her out again, this time I lot more casually. I don't want to put pressure on her, but I do feel that it's right to explore our friendship a little, so we can truly tell if there's something there.
Any advice will be appreciated.
Thanks