Serious help needed please!

[Crimson_Courage]

Allright here I am, stuck!

I have been dating girlA for 7 months and she is amazing... but she is not exactly Christian as I am... in fact, I recently heard that she wanted to become Budhist... There is nothing wrong with that... but now I know the relationship wont work. ANd Plus there is another Girl who would Die for me... and she is 100% Christian... and I know that with her I can become much stronger in the word of God and Honor him even more. and she is girlB.
do you think it will work with GirlA even through the religious difference? what will the kids think?

~and with GirlB, Things would be so much easier as I know there would be 100% love in it and a life through Christ which is a strong goal.

Do some of you think that dumping girlA for her religion is fair?

Thank you all for your time...

[Namaste]

Sorry is this a joke thingy or real?

I would kick somebody in the balls for dumping me for my spiritual beliefs and I'd think them a chauvanist... But that's just me. You love somebody for who they are and you don't go out with somebody for your own gain...

Sorry mate.

[helpneeded]

Crimson mate your a disgrace!
You cannot be seriously considering dumping someone because of their religious beliefs.
If this isnt a joke, you want to take a good hard look at yourself and realise that this is not just pathetic, but something from the STONE AGE!

[SuzyCreamcheese]

I can understand where you are coming from. If I was a religious person, id find it hard to have a relationship with someone of a different religion, even if the chemistry was there. I think religion is like politics, and in the same way that I couldnt go out with a tory, I couldnt go out with someone whos central beliefs were very different to mine.
Saying that,on the other hand, I wouldnt necessarily say that buddhism and christianity were entirely incompatible (although I dont have vast knowlege of either).
My Brother had been a born again Christian for a long time, but recently converted to Islam so he could be with the woman he loves. Im not sure I can understand how someone can change religions like that, but people do do it.
Its up to you if you want to try and make it work with girl A, but dont go for second best if your hearts not in it like it was for Girl A because thats not fair on either of you.

[Lu_C]

Allright here I am, stuck!

I have been dating girlA for 7 months and she is amazing... but she is not exactly Christian as I am... in fact, I recently heard that she wanted to become Budhist... There is nothing wrong with that... but now I know the relationship wont work. ANd Plus there is another Girl who would Die for me... and she is 100% Christian... and I know that with her I can become much stronger in the word of God and Honor him even more. and she is girlB.
do you think it will work with GirlA even through the religious difference? what will the kids think?

~and with GirlB, Things would be so much easier as I know there would be 100% love in it and a life through Christ which is a strong goal.

Do some of you think that dumping girlA for her religion is fair?

Thank you all for your time...

Sorry but you sound utterly selfish.
You obviously don't love this girlA or you wouldn't be wondering all this... and it doesn't sound like you like girlB either... she's just conveiniant because she happens to be a christian as well and likes you a lot.

I know theres the whole marriage is a covanant thing... but seriously if you're already a christian, go to church, repent of your sins etc etc Will it really make that much of a diffrence marrying someone else who does the same things.
Either your faith isn't that strong and you're scared to go with a girl who has other beliefs which to her will be as important as yours are to you because you might be tempted away from christianity or you're just trying to find excuses to dump girlA because you like girlB and want to have a go at it with her.

As for what would the kids think thing.... do I presume you mean the kids you'd have with this girl? If so they'd think whatever you brought them up to think.

you don't sound ready for marriage anyway, girlB or girlA might not be the right ones at all.... have some fun chill out a bit and stop thinking that two are more religious than one on their own. If you have strong faith in God it won't really matter who you end up.


Sorry to sound harsh... just had bad experinces with people getting hung up about the whole christian marriage thing and it causes more problems than it solves. Just be yourself!

[satehen]

Allright here I am, stuck!

I have been dating girlA for 7 months and she is amazing... but she is not exactly Christian as I am... in fact, I recently heard that she wanted to become Budhist... There is nothing wrong with that... but now I know the relationship wont work. ANd Plus there is another Girl who would Die for me... and she is 100% Christian... and I know that with her I can become much stronger in the word of God and Honor him even more. and she is girlB.
do you think it will work with GirlA even through the religious difference? what will the kids think?

~and with GirlB, Things would be so much easier as I know there would be 100% love in it and a life through Christ which is a strong goal.

Do some of you think that dumping girlA for her religion is fair?

Thank you all for your time...

I hate religious intollerance in any form. To dump your girlfriend because she's not a christian is totally un Christian like! I'm a protestant, when i first met my fiancee he was an athiest. Big deal. It had absolutely no impact on my feelings for him in the slightest! I thought Christianity was about loving eachother and accepting that we are all different?! :mad:

[Lu_C]

I hate religious intollerance in any form. To dump your girlfriend because she's not a christian is totally un Christian like! I'm a protestant, when i first met my fiancee he was an athiest. Big deal. It had absolutely no impact on my feelings for him in the slightest! I thought Christianity was about loving eachother and accepting that we are all different?! :mad:

:yes: Very well said! :thumb: *applouds*

[Olive]

I can understand where you are coming from. If I was a religious person, id find it hard to have a relationship with someone of a different religion, even if the chemistry was there. I think religion is like politics, and in the same way that I couldnt go out with a tory, I couldnt go out with someone whos central beliefs were very different to mine.

i agree.

i don't think it's a stupid reason to leave someone at all. i can think of stupider. if your religion is central to your belief system, then i can imagine that finding someone of the same religion is fairly high up your list.

you wouldn't be dumping her because of her religion. you would be dumping her because you have different ideals in life. the same as if you desperately wanted kids, and she definitely never did.

and yes, i think it's totally fair.

[satehen]

Thankyou i try my best *bows*

[Crimson_Courage]

I would like to Thank you all for your time. I must admit some things were harshly said... but than again it is what I needed to hear. I do Love her and always will even If I fall from her (which... i have) And GirlB is nothing I want now... i want her to reamin as a friend and she can continue to be a spiritual support as a friend...

I Thank you all for your positive and negative comments as you ALL helped me to form my final decesion, I have left GirlA... We are no more... But I stood up for my religion as she thought what I did was a waste of time... I will still Love her for a long time to come and go... But I cannot regret the action i have taken... some of you understand Thankfully... but I am not going to move on to girlB... ever.

So once again, I thank you all for your help!

God Bless you all!

[Lu_C]

I'm glad you're not going to go with girlB... She can indeed be spiritual support as a friend and it didn't sound like you were particulally enthusiastic about her... (that didn't quite make sense but I couldn't think of another way to put it).

Sorry if anything I said sounded a bit harsh... I think it's one of those topics that people feel very strongly about one way or another so it's hard to remain calm... but I'm very pleased you had the sense not to just make a desition blindly from one point of view.

I think you probably made the right choice in the situation. :)

[morrocan roll]

-'] You love somebody for who they are

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exactly ...and in a relationship where religion is important who and what they are is very very important.
if this guy is a strong christian he won't possibly be able to continue long term with someone with a differing belief system.
go for the xtrian.

[morrocan roll]

i'm just curious ...people come along and ask for advice ...we never hear from them again.

hello ... did we help?

[Lu_C]

Pay attention... he up-dated:


I would like to Thank you all for your time. I must admit some things were harshly said... but than again it is what I needed to hear. I do Love her and always will even If I fall from her (which... i have) And GirlB is nothing I want now... i want her to reamin as a friend and she can continue to be a spiritual support as a friend...

I Thank you all for your positive and negative comments as you ALL helped me to form my final decesion, I have left GirlA... We are no more... But I stood up for my religion as she thought what I did was a waste of time... I will still Love her for a long time to come and go... But I cannot regret the action i have taken... some of you understand Thankfully... but I am not going to move on to girlB... ever.

So once again, I thank you all for your help!

God Bless you all!