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cornishangel24
19-03-2005, 08:28 PM
I'm sorry, but i just feel i need to vent!

I got home from work today to find my best mate (and housemate) jo with our other housemate Stan and a couple of his friends in the garden. (most peeps have gone home as its last day of term was yesterday). Having a good time and drinking strongbow and enjoying unraveling after a stressful day. So anyway jo is already relatively pissed (not nearly as bad as i have seen her on several occasions) and heavily flirting with Stan. I mean i suppose she is always flirting with him anyway, but it is blatant. Got cold outside and started to play cards on the kitchen table and their hands immediately go under the table, and stay there unless it's either of their turns (there was definite movement, more than just resting!). I eventually left as it was putting me in a very bad mood very quickly. God knows what they are up to now.

So my point, this wouldn't usually be a problem, but she is in what i would call a relatively serious relationship (they talk about what farm yard animals they will have and how many children and when...and even names!). So i suppose my question is, do i put it down to alcohol (even tho she is not hugely drunk)?

I mean, she just recently broke up with a guy from our group of friends from home and broke his heart. she was a bit of a bitch. I supported her even though i didn't think she went about it the right way and she instantly jumped right into bed with one of her ex secondary school teachers (a 13 year difference). So i suppose i just felt let down by her. I mean i argued her point of view to our friends who saw her as harsh and sided with the guy she split up with. the guy she split up with was Zards best friend, so obviously causing some tension. And now, only 2 months after seeing this older guy she is heavily petting under the table.

What do you guy think? or any opinions about what i should do/ not do? I'm aware that this isn't my problem, its just we are so close and i am actually ANGRY at her. I know how i would feel of Zard was with another woman, even just petting. Would you want to know if this was your partner? or do any of you feel that what they are up to isn't actually cheating. She doesn't even fancy him and she will use him just for the fun of it. To be honest, i think she is only with the older guy becasue of his status, house and money. I am dissapointed and angry and feel like my faith in her has been shattered. :(

malteser monkay
19-03-2005, 09:34 PM
Have you spoken to her about how you feel??

cornishangel24
19-03-2005, 11:05 PM
Have just finished speaking to her. Boy she knows how to get herself into a pickle! Anyway for an update. They did have sex but i suppose the good thing was that they were protected. She said it was terrible and that he didn't even warm her up, so now she is sore. I mean i'm not particuarly happy that she was stupid enough to go through with it, but he should have at least been gentle. But at the end of the day i love her to bits and can't stay mad long. She knows she was stupid and has already told said boyfriend who is apparently ok with it all. I don't think i would be so forgiving. There you go..lol.

malteser monkay
19-03-2005, 11:18 PM
Funny 5 minutes there - 'lucky' girl to be forgiven so quickly by bf...but hey...she probably walking like John Wayne so...does come back around..!

Malt xx :)

zard
20-03-2005, 04:51 PM
I know I didn't say this to you last night, but I'm supprised that she hasn't dones something like this before. TBH, I don't think she did it to be vindictive, but rather she doesn't know any better. We both know she's had some poor relationships in the past, and that she tends to treat her blokes like shit.

That said, as far as I know, this is a new low for her.