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becky4131
15-03-2005, 10:18 PM
Hey, right this is a long story and has been going on since september now, anyway here goes:
Like this guy who i work with and in september he was really flirty at a works party and hinted loads about likeing me, so basically we got really close and i went back to his house and we talked for hours. He genarally seemed interested and was talking bout us being together as a couple. Anyway i went home and rang him at work the next night to giv him my mobile number(i forgot the nightb4) but he didnt get in contact 4 over a week, eventually when he did he said he was sorry cause he does really like me but hes had things on his mind. We went out with a group of people 1 night and he got me on my own and explaned tht he had been told tht if he went out with me then he wud hav to transfer stores becauseits company policy tht lovers cant work together. I was gutted but understood and after alot of consideration we decided tht it was best not to risk his job and 2 just be friends. Since then policy has changed and he has been told tht we can go out together but he says tht it wouldnt work cause if we fell out it would effect our work, so while working together we will have to be mates. I dnt know whether this is an excuse but its been a few months now and im still crazy about him. I want to ask him if we cud maybe go out 4 a drink or something but im scared tht i will get rejected and it will be embarrassing and awkward at work. I cant tell if he still likes me or not, i think he does but not 100%
Anyadvice?? :heart:

mystifymysoul
15-03-2005, 10:34 PM
Well you are currently still friends aren't you? Two friends can go out for a drink...just ask him for a drink, if he says no just accept it. If he says yes, then woohoo, put your gladrags on and wait and see what happens. Sure, if you break up then it *might* be awkward, but if you feel you are both strong enough to overcome this then go for it. You don't want to think about what might have been all your life do ya?

spongebobsgirl
15-03-2005, 10:34 PM
i think he does like you, but is scared of commitement. just see how this drink goes. if he does like you, and you do get together, just work around work. keep it separate from your personal life. If you were feeling horny, you wouldnt fuck in the middle of your job, so if u fall out+feel angry, dont fight either. Just talk about it outside work.
Sounds like he's a nice, easy to talk to guy, so just be honest with him!
SBG

BORED AT WORK
16-03-2005, 06:19 AM
I met my partner of 3 years at work - when we finally got together (at the work christmas party), i loved going to work to see him and i knew if i was having a bad bad i would see and talk to him it would all be better. we no longer work together now, but when we did it was great :)

becky4131
16-03-2005, 04:58 PM
Thanks, im gonna go 4 ity and ask him if he wants to go 4 a drink, not got a great deal 2 lose.

mystifymysoul
16-03-2005, 05:39 PM
Thanks, im gonna go 4 ity and ask him if he wants to go 4 a drink, not got a great deal 2 lose.

:thumb: Yay, good luck.

becky4131
18-03-2005, 11:14 AM
thanks, any ideas how i can approach the situation?? i dnt get much chance to speak to him so do u think its wrong to ask over a text message? What should i say? i was thinking of something like 'do u want to go out for a drink or something, only has to be as mates if thats what you want, so we can maybe talk and get to know each other a bit better'