Liking a shy guy=annoying as hell

[mystifymysoul]

EDIT: In response to some of your questions/comments...

We are both 17. No one else went with him to the show. I have previously met his parents (although briefly..) on several occasions. He has met my parents. And yes, he is slightly geeky lol. Thanks for the advice! keep it coming...xx :thumb:

Hi...sorry for pestering you guys and girls again :nervous:

OK, you may have read a previous post by me...but just to summarise:

I like a guy friend of mine, and I'm unsure how he feels about me. The trouble is that he is vvv shy with girls, and has never had a gf. I saw him earlier and he said he tried to call me last night as he wanted to invite me out to some show with him and his parents last night, however I was out at the time, therefore missed the opportunity. Anyway, I have kind of figured that he must like me, at least as a good friend? I mean, wanting to invite me out with his parents is a good sign right :confused:

OK, so I have decided that I want to tell him how I feel and find out how he feels about me...but I'm not entirely sure how to go about this in the best possible way. He's shy, I'm relatively shy, although more experienced etc. than he is. Should I just ask him, "Do you like me?" or what? Or just say "I like spending time with you.." and hope he gets the idea? Or come right out with "I really like you". It all sounds really lame to me..any suggestions? I would really appreciate some advice here. :banghead: I just wish I knew how he felt. Any ideas on the best way to tell someone you like them? Oh, and how do I act if he rejects me...?Just say "Ok, well its great being friends..." and move on?

Thanks all you lovely people.... :D

[el_dude]

just get drunk together and try it on with him. Works when girls do it to me....even if i dont fancy them.



edited to say: thats probably not that helpful. Meh. Pass.

[Twizter]

Just tell him you lyk him! Whats the worse that can happen!?!?!

[Blah]

Just tell him you lyk him! Whats the worse that can happen!?!?!

dr pepper moment waiting to happen

[junker]

Definately keep it subtle. I like the "I like spending time with you" one. That's a good opener to a shy guy because it kind of boosts their confidence a tad, but it's not overwhelming.

Hope that helps.

[BarmyArmy]

I've never had a gf either and class myself as extremely low in confidence which automatically makes me shy but if a girl I'd been spending a lot of time with came and told me she like me, I'd be delighted so I reckon you go for it.

[GoodFella]

Yeh same, im not super shy or low in confidence but if a girl came up to me and said sumthing as simple as "i like spending time with you", i too wud be very happy :).

[AverageJoe87]

Don't tell him, just go with the flow, flirt and try and bring hom out of his shell, amke him feel really comfortable an then go in for the kiss.I don't agree with this. It's not a military operation, remember. Not only have you got to be ready, but so does he. You can't spring it on him like a bloody jack-in-the-freakin'-box, else he'll probably recoil with shock - no matter how much he likes you. If you tell him you will only make an arkward situation.Sorry again mate, but I think you're way off here. Talking is the best kind of communication there is. Forget shoving your tongue down their throat for the minute, these two aren't even seeing each other, yet. This isn't a one-off thing. For it to actually work, you need to converse. Do tell him, and try not to plan too much about what you're going to say. Honestly, if you do, it becomes obvious and doesn't inspire admiration... Forgive the cliche, but say what you're feeling at the time, and what's appropriate.Shy girls are nice, but it gets really old really fast for me.Sounds like you're into your one-nighters, buddy. We're not all like that, you know...

Again, best of luck!! :thumb: xx

[ShyBoy]

Just tell him you want to speak to him on his own (so he doesn't get embarresed, its the problem for shy guys :blush:) and tell him that you enjoy spending time with him, and was wondering if he'd like to go to the cinema with you sometime. Or the park (in this weather?) or just come round for a good old go on the PS2 or equivelent console. Depends if you and him are the geeky sort like me.

I wish my girlfriend liked computer games more :( so much fun to be had....

[Earl Purple]

Inviting you round to see his parents seems a strange thing to do. How old are you both? Sorry but it would help.

Don't get too pushy - but you if can raise his confidence he might just ask you. Give him eye contact.

[AverageJoe87]

Inviting you round to see his parents seems a strange thing to do. How old are you both? Sorry but it would help.

Don't get too pushy - but you if can raise his confidence he might just ask you. Give him eye contact.She was invited to go and see a show with them all. Nothing weird in that, in fact it may (please don't quote me, I hate being wrong) mean that he really does like you. Quite often I'll talk to my mum about girls I'm seeing or that I like, because she's interested, and is pretty good at giving advice. Perhaps this lad's mum has heard good things, and wants to see if you're good enough for her little cupcake. So you did miss a good opportunity to seem like a perfect angel. But no matter, you can make up for loss time, easy. :thumb:

[choccynutt]

I think you should try to flirt with him a little. Maybe subtle at first & then see how he responds. Then be a little more obvious if you get nothing back. He should naturally flirt back or if he doesn't like you he may look uncomfortable. Don't try to kiss him as if he doesn't like you then could possibly ruin your friendship.

Possibly watch a film together & get him to cuddle up to you giving the perfect opportunity to get get close to his lips without kissing him & hopefully he will kiss you.

Talk about girls with him - ask is there anyone he likes. Maybe as a suggestion that you can help him out or give him advice. Just try to get it out him if he does like you.

As for the going to the show with his parents - sounds like they had a spare ticket & he thought you might enjoy it. I wouldn't read much into this unless previously he has taken another friend to a similar thing. Do you know who ended up going in place of you? Maybe that will help you decide how he feels.

xxx

[ShyBoy]

"you smell good"

:|

I think it's best to just be casual, and sometimes things do just take their natural couse. With my girlfriend we were both at a sleepover and we both woke up in the middle of the night and cuddled (cos it was cold) and then just started kissing.

Doesn't have to be spontaneous like that, you can just ask someone to go out with you - the fact of the matter is if he likes you it doesnt matter overly much how you do it - the only advice i'd give you is to be yourself, there's nothing more cringeworthy than someone who's shy themselves and trying to hide it with loads of techniques and lines they got off someone else who thinks they're the bees knees.

Personally, I find the whole shy girl thing wholly adorable :) shy guys don't normally like overly aggresive girls anyway.

[Olive]

getting with shy people can be pretty infuriating. you have to make all the moves, lay your heart on the line and stuff, and they're usually not the kind to declare their undying love for you, so you sometimes don't really even know how much they like you.

but on the other hand, at least you know they're not gonna be chatting up many other women ;)

your best bet is to either subtly hint that you like him, and hope he gets it, although be warned this works with almost no men. the other idea is just to tell him you like him, plain and simple. nothing dramatic, and nothing demanding. 'i really like you' usually works. then take it from there.

[SIR-MIX-ALOT]

FONT=Arial Black] :) I know how you feel, i like this girl at school :heart: yet she is really shy, so i first talked to her and slowly made a good friendship wid her and then i asked her out n now she is ok ! :thumb: Just be friends with them and they feel better when they are around u :)[/FONT]

[ShyBoy]

FONT=Arial Black] :) I know how you feel, i like this girl at school :heart: yet she is really shy, so i first talked to her and slowly made a good friendship wid her and then i asked her out n now she is ok ! :thumb: Just be friends with them and they feel better when they are around u :)[/FONT]

Old thread here. Try to bear in mind the date when the last post was because it's likely the problem is not relevant anymore to the original poster etc.

[Spliffie]

EDIT: In response to some of your questions/comments...

We are both 17. No one else went with him to the show. I have previously met his parents (although briefly..) on several occasions. He has met my parents. And yes, he is slightly geeky lol. Thanks for the advice! keep it coming...xx :thumb:

Hi...sorry for pestering you guys and girls again :nervous:

OK, you may have read a previous post by me...but just to summarise:

I like a guy friend of mine, and I'm unsure how he feels about me. The trouble is that he is vvv shy with girls, and has never had a gf. I saw him earlier and he said he tried to call me last night as he wanted to invite me out to some show with him and his parents last night, however I was out at the time, therefore missed the opportunity. Anyway, I have kind of figured that he must like me, at least as a good friend? I mean, wanting to invite me out with his parents is a good sign right :confused:

OK, so I have decided that I want to tell him how I feel and find out how he feels about me...but I'm not entirely sure how to go about this in the best possible way. He's shy, I'm relatively shy, although more experienced etc. than he is. Should I just ask him, "Do you like me?" or what? Or just say "I like spending time with you.." and hope he gets the idea? Or come right out with "I really like you". It all sounds really lame to me..any suggestions? I would really appreciate some advice here. :banghead: I just wish I knew how he felt. Any ideas on the best way to tell someone you like them? Oh, and how do I act if he rejects me...?Just say "Ok, well its great being friends..." and move on?

Thanks all you lovely people.... :D

Invite you out with his parents? In my eyes that's ridiculous, not something i or anyone i know would do...

But not knowing the situation or the people i can't really comment... my suggestion would be to try linking arms with him when walking about, rest your head on his shoulder, shit like that. The ball's in his court and you've done all you should need to without overdoing it.

[DG]

just say you want to see batman begins

[mazza]

Don't think about asking him out yet or whatever, just try and form a deeper bond with him, so things progress naturally. This also means that if things backfire and he's not interested in you in that way, he'll be so attached to you as a friend that he'll still want to have you around all the time anyway. May seem like a consolation prize, but a good friendship often lasts a lifteimes, whereas as lots of relationships do not! I would say invite him over to yours for a 'hanging out' session and warn your parents so they can keep nicely in teh background without embarrassing the pair of you to. just say fancy coming around to mine Saturday afternoon to watch a DVD (insert cool movie) and hang out.

Another good technique, which works 99 per cent of the time is being tactile. I find this really hard because I'm not a tactile person at all unless I've known teh person ten years/feel 100 per cent comfortable with them. But since it sounds like you are the least shy of the two of you, you'll probably have to instigate this (sorry). Just get into the habit of giving him a hug ehn you say goodbye to each other (like after your Saturday DVD session or whwatver.) Keep it subtle. But don't be stiff either. Just say it's good to see ya and give hima quick hug, - he'll soon get the idea if you do it often enough. No one can feel anything after a person's hugged them, especially when there's a very good chance that he's attracted to you and definitely enjoys your company. I've got a friend who gives all the girls (and guys) he knows hugs and always says give me a hug, I'm gonna miss you" even if he's going to be seeing you 24 hours later. He's the most popular, appreciated and universally-loved guy I know. C'mon at the end of the day, no one can hate on someone who's giving them the feel-good factor can they?

Another much easier non-tactile (phew) thing to do is to slip in compliments into conversation when you talk to him. Like I like your jacket/beanie hat/Nike trainers (bad example) whatever. And don't always make the comment physical either, show him you admire his brain. Like; "that was a great essay you wrote - there's some really cool ideas in there(grade 1 compliment)...have you thought about going into journalism when you leave school? (grade 2 compliment - if you can carry this off with a dead-pan face). Remember if you compliment someone too much it's off-putting. Lines like: "you have the most amazing eys I have ever seen" are quite frankly crass. but I know a shy, savvy girl like you wouldn't say anything as bad as that. Have faith in yourself and let us know how it goes. Good Luck.

Maz xx

[ShyBoy]

Lol, just me who realised the dead-threadedness then. :p