Head Screwed

[M12_GTO]

I feel really messed in the head. Every couple of months I get on a real downer and just want to drink myself unconcious. I have little confidence and low self esteem which I believe to be the root of many of my problems. Any advice on how to think more of myself and convey a confident person?

[Kentish]

Part of me is thinking: you're entirely normal, and the other part of me is thinking that you need to think about why you have little confidence and a low self-esteem. Everyone doubts themselves and their abilities every now and then, but if these feelings are getting your down, then you should probably seek help from your GP as they can be an indicator of low-level depression.

TheSite.org's help pages (http://www.thesite.org/healthandwellbeing/mentalhealth/bodyimageandselfesteem/lowselfesteem)

[otter]

i agree with kentish. take a look at TheSites's pages on self esteem, and if that doesn't help, have a chat with your gp.

you say this happens every "couple of months" - do you know what triggers these feelings?

[M12_GTO]

Nah, I can't but my finger on what the cause is. I've recently been making an effort to be more out going, confident, and think more of myself. It's tough going but I'm making progress albeit slow progress :thumb:

[otter]

I've recently been making an effort to be more out going, confident, and think more of myself. It's tough going but I'm making progress albeit slow progress

good for you mate & keep making the effort. :) :thumb:

[xxmwahxx05]

set yourself goals and tasks and try and acheive them,honestly it worked for me.Even little goals like going a walk every day and keeping fit.Think of things you like doing or wanna do.

[M12_GTO]

I've been thinking about the cause of my feelings recently & a lot of it stems from not having a girlfriend or getting laid for a while. May seem trivial but I feel unwanted/unneeded and alone. I have friends and one great friend in particular and I think this great friend makes things worse because she is so perfect and I'm not. I'd do anything for her but that's more because of my lack of self worth than my feelings for her. :confused:

I also think I have a deep rooted self destructive nature. I think i'm subconciously scared of failing so I make myself fail so that I haven't really failed, but made myself fail. Make any sense? :confused:

I find the task of finishing Uni daunting because I'll have to get a house, job, etc. Life is so big, how can I make sure I do something with it and make the right decisions. Sometimes I worry about being alone forever. :(

Maybe I feel like this because I get time and attention when I get on a downer and I feel less alone. These crazy 'looping' thoughts really screw my head. :banghead:

Think I need to get a girl, settle down, and get some direction in life... :confused: