relationships online

[MichaelWings]

so many people are.*inline looking for that *one* the soulmate..the one that is going to fill that..empty void in their heart....can you really find...love on the net..or is just *lust*on a keyboard..and..a good..connection..with mouse*skills.?

[littlemissy]

so many people are.*inline looking for that *one* the soulmate..the one that is going to fill that..empty void in their heart....can you really find...love on the net..or is just *lust*on a keyboard..and..a good..connection..with mouse*skills.?

You can find a friend on the net but I think that they only way you can develop your relationship would be to take it into real life. You can't just be in love with someone online. It has to be a real life relationship too.

And they *do* work. I met my fiance on this site.

If you do a search you will get lots of hits on this subject. It has been discussed many times :)

[otter]

sad people look for love on line.
and desperate perverts look for lust on line.

yes, there is a small possibility that you will find someone you can connect with online... but a relationship needs so much more than just chatting on line.

[Char_Baby]

i dont see any problem with it, now its just another way of meeting people

if your not just online to look for it because that is sad

if it happens though, thats cool!

[littlemissy]

sad people look for love on line.
and desperate perverts look for lust on line.


Hmmm. I don't know how to react to this statement. I wasn't "looking for love" online but I found it. Does that make me sad?

I also think that meeting someone on the internet, in this day and age, meeting someone online/looking for love online is no different to doing it in a club as far as I am concerned.

[Olive]

I also think that meeting someone on the internet, in this day and age, meeting someone online/looking for love online is no different to doing it in a club as far as I am concerned.

totally agree.

i think it's safer, too, cause you can give away as much as you feel comfortable with, but no more. in 'real life', it's all or nothing.

[otter]

I wasn't "looking for love" online but I found it
thats different then isn't it. no that does not make you sad. you wern't online just to LOOK for love/ lust. you just got lucky! :)

[littlemissy]

thats different then isn't it. no that does not make you sad. you wern't online just to LOOK for love/ lust. you just got lucky! :)

But I still don't think it is any sadder to look for love online than in a club.

[Yerascrote]

online relaitonships are balls because there is no personalisation...no inital chemistry...an unlimited amount of possible lies...fuck it doesn't work now and it'll never work...

[Yerascrote]

But I still don't think it is any sadder to look for love online than in a club.

do you not think the net is quite a seedy unreliable place in terms of relationships and "who's who"

[Replicant]

you can make very good freinds online, I made good freinds with this one irish girl, we became very close, being able to talk to each other about anything & everything. I've lost contact with her though, which is a pity :(

As for love, well, love and relationships require physical contact - what's love without hugs and holding hands?

of course, should you make good freinds, there's no reason that good freinds cannot become lovers, should you meet up :)

[otter]

may be not? but in a club you're at least face to face with another person/ potential partner. and there are many more dynamics to it, than there are online.
online you cannot see the other person, you cannot hear them, there is no chemisty going on and they might be hundeds of miles away... i guess what i'm saying is it's not the ideal place to start a relationship... because by its very nature its missing so many different aspects which would be there if you were face to face with someone.

- thats just my opinion. but, i'm happy for you that it has worked out for you.

[Mist]

do you not think the net is quite a seedy unreliable place in terms of relationships and "who's who"


Seedier than some dank meat-market?

People's perception of the net as seedy is basically fueled by mass-media reports of peadophiles and such "tricking" children. However the reality is that that represents only a very small percentage of the total people online. Most people could quite easily look for love without getting involved in anything seedy, so long as they are not stupid about it.

For example, a "this morning" thing a while ago was talking about a girl who supposedly had been duped by a net paedophile. But as the facts of the story came about, yes, he had pretended to be younger than he was, but, when they met, she met him in a visable place, could clearly see that he was an older man but STILL chose to get into his car with him and go back to his house. In fact it was only after a number of meetings that he started to act sexually towards her. I mean, to me, that's nothing really to do with the net. Yeah, she met that guy online but she must have had a screw or two loose not to think that him being a good ten or more years older than he was saying shouldn't have set off warning bells.

The point being that the net gets a lot of bad press.

[Yerascrote]

i think it's safer, too, cause you can give away as much as you feel comfortable with, but no more. in 'real life', it's all or nothing.

:confused: you're trying to tell me you either have to tell someone everything or nothing in a nite club...or anywhere else for that matter...i've got close friends who still don't know me fully never mind a fling or a partner....

[Mist]

online you cannot see the other person, you cannot hear them, there is no chemisty going on and they might be hundeds of miles away... i guess what i'm saying is it's not the ideal place to start a relationship...

I disagree. You might not get physical chemisty but you can still develop a bond with someone. And I don't think many people would ignore the fact that you need to meet up anyway to develop things.

But to me it seems that you may as well meet on the net. At least there you can have a conversation, which is all but impossible in a lot of pubs and clubs these days.

[Yerascrote]

Seedier than some dank meat-market?

People's perception of the net as seedy is basically fueled by mass-media reports of peadophiles and such "tricking" children. However the reality is that that represents only a very small percentage of the total people online. Most people could quite easily look for love without getting involved in anything seedy, so long as they are not stupid about it.

For example, a "this morning" thing a while ago was talking about a girl who supposedly had been duped by a net paedophile. But as the facts of the story came about, yes, he had pretended to be younger than he was, but, when they met, she met him in a visable place, could clearly see that he was an older man but STILL chose to get into his car with him and go back to his house. In fact it was only after a number of meetings that he started to act sexually towards her. I mean, to me, that's nothing really to do with the net. Yeah, she met that guy online but she must have had a screw or two loose not to think that him being a good ten or more years older than he was saying shouldn't have set off warning bells.

The point being that the net gets a lot of bad press.

i'm not on about paedophiles...i'm on aboiut people presenting themselves as something they're not...there's absolutely no way or someone hundreds of miles away proving i don't have a condo in new york, play tennis regulalry etc etc...in real life you get an impression of someone immediately, youy either like them or don't, if you get into a relationship they'll find out the real you...don't say you've never lied to someone on the net just to impress them, i've lied to people in real life but they always find out and thats why real life relationships are genuine and internet one's (while having potential) are fake and balls.

[Mist]

thats why real life relationships are genuine and internet one's (while having potential) are fake and balls.


Well then that's you're opinion of it. Fairly cynical if you ask me. You could equally meet someone in a club and judge them on first impressions that are completely wrong.

If someone lies to you over the internet then, fine, obviously that person isn't going to have a relationship with you, but I could, if I wanted, lie equally convincingly in a club than over the net. Neither lie will be exposed until later, so the point is fairly null.

[Yerascrote]

Well then that's you're opinion of it. Fairly cynical if you ask me. You could equally meet someone in a club and judge them on first impressions that are completely wrong.

If someone lies to you over the internet then, fine, obviously that person isn't going to have a relationship with you, but I could, if I wanted, lie equally convincingly in a club than over the net. Neither lie will be exposed until later, so the point is fairly null.

there's chemistry though in real life...if you meet someone in a niteclub you'll think..this person has potential...i could trust this person...maybe ring them some time to have a coffee...you meet...you're face to face...it's real...internet...you're typing onto a screen...there is a lot of potential and i've made many friends on the net but relationships simply don't work...love is more than words...it's a conneciton and i think you know that too....

[Mist]

there's chemistry though in real life...if you meet someone in a niteclub you'll think..this person has potential...i could trust this person...maybe ring them some time to have a coffee...you meet...you're face to face...it's real...internet...you're typing onto a screen...there is a lot of potential and i've made many friends on the net but relationships simply don't work...love is more than words...it's a conneciton and i think you know that too....

I wouldn't argue that you can have a relationship online, because you can't, but what I'm saying is that there's no reason not to meet someone online. I don't think that meeting someone in a club is any better. Plus your scope for meeting people online is far bigger than it is in any club. You're more likely to meet people from a completely different background, or whatever.

[Scarlet]

I'd go as far as saying the Internet is one of the best ways to meet people. You get to judge them more on their personality than their looks, which can mean you find a deeper bond than the usual eyeing people up in clubs etc.

But a relationship that's purely online can obviously not work - it needs to be taken into real life.

[Cuddilicious]

there's chemistry though in real life...if you meet someone in a niteclub you'll think..this person has potential...i could trust this person...maybe ring them some time to have a coffee...you meet...you're face to face...it's real...internet...you're typing onto a screen...there is a lot of potential and i've made many friends on the net but relationships simply don't work...love is more than words...it's a conneciton and i think you know that too....

I don't think Mist was defending you could hold a loving relationship strictly just over the internet. Just that it is possible to meet someone you could care for over the internet, were you can take it further by meeting that person. Just like when you meet someone for the first time in a nightclub. Then take it further by going on a proper date.

[littlemissy]

I don't think Mist was defending you could hold a loving relationship strictly just over the internet. Just that it is possible to meet someone you could care for over the internet, were you can take it further by meeting that person. Just like when you meet someone for the first time in a nightclub. Then take it further by going on a proper date.

Exactly.

I think that the internet is as valid a place as any to meet people. Obviously you cannot sustain a relationship without meeting them, contact etc. Nobody is denying that and nobody would be stupid enough to think that you can have "love" on the internet without the real life stuff.

[Yerascrote]

I don't think Mist was defending you could hold a loving relationship strictly just over the internet. Just that it is possible to meet someone you could care for over the internet, were you can take it further by meeting that person. Just like when you meet someone for the first time in a nightclub. Then take it further by going on a proper date.

i don't deny that either...the thread is called relationships online...therefore i've said what i think about relationships online...the thread has moved on from that...i was talking strictly in relation to the topic :)

[Cuddilicious]

i don't deny that either...the thread is called relationships online...therefore i've said what i think about relationships online...the thread has moved on from that...i was talking strictly in relation to the topic :)

But from what I picked up in what Mist was trying to explain; was that it can be possible to meet someone from the internet and gain a relationship, knowing you will meet eventually.

I don't think anyone was saying it is possible to keep a relationship strictly just over the internet.

[Shogun]

Go on msn

[Yerascrote]

But from what I picked up in what Mist was trying to explain; was that it can be possible to meet someone from the internet and gain a relationship, knowing you will meet eventually.

I don't think anyone was saying it is possible to keep a relationship strictly just over the internet.

i know but the thread topic didn't suggest otherwise so......SAVE THE TREES! :eek2:

[Cuddilicious]

i know but the thread topic didn't suggest otherwise so......SAVE THE TREES! :eek2:

You know now? Ah great. Least we got that one cleared up. :)

[Olive]

:confused: you're trying to tell me you either have to tell someone everything or nothing in a nite club...or anywhere else for that matter...i've got close friends who still don't know me fully never mind a fling or a partner....

if you meet someone in a club, and you want to see them again, you have to get their name and phone number, yes?

if you meet someone online, you don't. depending on the circumsances, you don't have to tell them anything, and they'll still know where to find you. you let them know what you want when you're ready.

i can count on one finger how many people i know who've had a bad experience with meeting someone on the net. one. but she was sensible, and legged it sharpish, before owt could happen.

i couldn't count on all my digits how many people i know who've had bad experiences with people they've met in clubs. there are so many stories.

[Cuddilicious]

i couldn't count on all my digits how many people i know who've had bad experiences with people they've met in clubs. there are so many stories.

Can include me on that list :-/
Not all bad, but enough to realise it's nearly impossible, (at least from my experience) to meet someone from a night out in a club that could lead into a long term relationship.

[Yerascrote]

if you meet someone in a club, and you want to see them again, you have to get their name and phone number, yes?

if you meet someone online, you don't. depending on the circumsances, you don't have to tell them anything, and they'll still know where to find you. you let them know what you want when you're ready.

i can count on one finger how many people i know who've had a bad experience with meeting someone on the net. one. but she was sensible, and legged it sharpish, before owt could happen.

i couldn't count on all my digits how many people i know who've had bad experiences with people they've met in clubs. there are so many stories.

you'd have to be pretty stupid/drunk or a slut to let some guy be with you alone after a niteclub and you barely knowing him tbh...i suppose there's benefits and disadvantages with both but i'd much rather go to a club...meet a girl and get to know her that way than talk to someone online...get close...then meet and it's just not there, just not right if you know what i mean...

[Samzi]

I met my boyfrined online in 2003, i wasnt looking for love...we just got talking and things progressed. Split up at the end of 2003 for a year but now we're back together. Looking back i didnt think all the feelings that i have for him now, would happen...funny how certain things change your life. Wouldnt be without him now and im so glad i met him :)

[sopho]

a girl in my class at college started chatting to her bf online and she lived in scotland and they started 'online dating' he invited her down here and they got together properly...when she went back up to scotland they were both really down without each other. so 2 years ago she packed up and moved down here to live with him and his parents and 2 brothers and sister! she was only 16 when she did this, which i thought was crazy! they're still together now!

[melodie]

I personally would never ever meet someone online, I know a few that have. My current bf for one. The girl sent false pics and sounded really nice, but turned out to be an awful person and he caught an s.t.i off her......... nasty. I'm not saying all are like that but personally, I wouldn't risk it! I would rather gat to know a person face to face and if I felt that I could have a relationship with them, I do what I always do, both go to a clinic, get tested and then the relationship can be taken further, sorry, I know that sounds mad, but I really don't wanna catch anything, yes condoms protect but what if it splits?

[littlemissy]

if I felt that I could have a relationship with them, I do what I always do, both go to a clinic, get tested and then the relationship can be taken further, sorry, I know that sounds mad, but I really don't wanna catch anything, yes condoms protect but what if it splits?

Surely that logic should apply to all relationships, not just one's from online?

[Olive]

I personally would never ever meet someone online, I know a few that have. My current bf for one. The girl sent false pics and sounded really nice, but turned out to be an awful person and he caught an s.t.i off her......... nasty.

my ex-housemate met a girl at uni who seemed really nice, and turned out to be a fucking psycho who gave him an STI, and tried to burn down our house.

i'm still not seeing the difference between meeting someone online and meeting someone any other way.

[Mist]

turned out to be an awful person and he caught an s.t.i off her.........

Hmm. Awful person yet he still had sex with her :chin:

Bit of post-relationship anger there maybe?

Still no different to meeting that same person outside of the net, either way.

[JsT]

I personally would never ever meet someone online, I know a few that have. My current bf for one. The girl sent false pics and sounded really nice, but turned out to be an awful person and he caught an s.t.i off her......... nasty. I'm not saying all are like that but personally, I wouldn't risk it! I would rather gat to know a person face to face and if I felt that I could have a relationship with them, I do what I always do, both go to a clinic, get tested and then the relationship can be taken further, sorry, I know that sounds mad, but I really don't wanna catch anything, yes condoms protect but what if it splits?
I wouldn't worry about it, judging by your attitude I doubt anyone with an ounce of sense would want to be in a relationship with you.

[Cuddilicious]

I wouldn't worry about it, judging by your attitude I doubt anyone with an ounce of sense would want to be in a relationship with you.

That was a bit harsh now. And really cheap tactic to try and insult her. She was only voicing her opinion.

[JsT]

That was a bit harsh now. And really cheap tactic to try and insult her. She was only voicing her opinion.
It wasn't harsh.

[Cuddilicious]

It wasn't harsh.

Quickly edited that, eh?

[Senor Miguel]

i would say you can meet someone online, but it can't really go very far unless you meet them in real life can it?.........to me the internet is a cop-out, there's no real attachment or commitment, it's just very convenient and you can say things you don't mean, you can never know how the other person is really feeling, hell what they even look like...........usually for people that are too scared to take the first step in person, and think they are in a relationship and in love when they are in fact staring into a monitor.........trust me i chatted to a girl from my school online way back, when i started talking to her in person i realised how messed up the whole thing was, by that time i already felt like i knew her but obviously i didn't..............what's wrong with doing it in real life?........

[JsT]

Quickly edited that, eh?
Not too quickly for you obviously my darling.

[Franki]

I personally would never ever meet someone online, I know a few that have. My current bf for one. The girl sent false pics and sounded really nice, but turned out to be an awful person and he caught an s.t.i off her......... nasty.

I met my ex psycho bastard online (on this very site, in fact)...my mate met hers in real life.

Both were bastards. Both deserve to have their balls chopped off. Both were cheating twats who had sex with underage girls. But I met mine on the net, she met hers in real life. Hers was worse, actually. He took her virginity when she was 13 and hit her round the face when they broke up. I always hated him...

He's the only absolutely cuntish person I've met online, and I've met a LOT of people from the Internet.

By the way, Mist, could you tell that story about that girl on This Morning to my mother :p? She seems to think all people on the 'net are paedophiles because of the papers and things (although she should know better). I think that may help my case...

[Cuddilicious]

Not too quickly for you obviously my darling.

Darling?? *cringes*

[JsT]

Darling?? *cringes*
Sweetheart, life of my life.

:(

[mystifymysoul]

I guess its possible, provided both parties are honest from the word go. Yet for a proper long term relationship to develop a meeting should eventually occur.

[Cuddilicious]

Sweetheart, life of my life.

:(

hehe... aye that will do I suppose :heart:

[JsT]

hehe... aye that will do I suppose :heart:
You really are gorgeous, marry me. ;)

[melodie]

That was a bit harsh now. And really cheap tactic to try and insult her. She was only voicing her opinion.

Thank you, and yes I know theres no difference between online/offline but with online they could be peadophiles or anything. And actually, lots of people fancy me jst, because people like my personality......... And my bf is always told how lucky he is to be with me! Yes you may think your insulting me, but I am a strong person and I don't know you. People are aloud to voice their opinions and thats all I was doing.

[nicebutdim23]

i met someone online. very successful too.

[Mist]

Thank you, and yes I know theres no difference between online/offline but with online they could be peadophiles or anything.


:banghead:

Well done for completely ignoring what I posted earlier in the thread and continuing to propagate a grossly uneducated view of the internet.

Someone you meet in a club could be a rapist or a murderer and you wouldn't know. The argument that you shouldn't meet someone from the net because it's "full of peadophiles" is ridiculous.

[thatspecialgirl]

Yes, you can find 'love' on the net.

I sometimes have much more faith in couples formed over the internet than in real life, where people often come together because of circumstance [living close together/chance meeting etc.]. Whereas people who form relationships online go by the criteria that matter - shared interests, a personal connection - there's not so much emphasis on physical appearance.

The difficulty with online relationships is geography and distance. Maybe you only get to see each other every few months, or a few times a year [but if so, doesn't that make the time you do spend together more special, and more valued?]. Maybe it breaks your heart when your partner is upset and you can't physically be with them. Maybe you don't have the money to see them as often as you'd like...I think some of those factors form stronger more meaningful relationships.

I don't buy the 'you never know who you're speaking to!' argument. Numerous photographs. Webcams. Telephones. If they can't supply that then why are you thinking of getting attached to them?

I view the net as a great tool for meeting people. I've probably met 20+ people from the Internet. In that time I've witnessed many online relationships flourish, and I've met some of my best friends and some of the coolest people I'll ever know online.

[stargalaxy]

I think the power of the Internet in bringing people together can be signified by the fact there's a meet happening in Manchester later this month, and one in London next month.

[XxXSexychick15XxX]

I met my boyfriend online and if he was just out for sex then he has wasted the past 6 months.

We meet up regularly which works well. Though he struggles to understand I have a life away from the computer and phone!

You do have to be careful though because you cant tell if the person is genuine in what they are saying or just sweet talking you.

[benny85]

personally I met my gf on the internet, a random msg off faceparty. I think littlemissy summed it up, u can meet someone over the internet but u can only further things by actually meeting the person and spending time in the real world. theres too many... barriers in the online world and things u cant appreciate about someone unless ur actually there with them
as far as im concerned its posible to find love over the internet. Im not normally the sort of guy who would tell someone he loves them for fear of getting their hopes up and letting them down. i make an exception this time cos I really feel I do love her. i think the internet managed to bring us 2 like minded people together, but we prefer spending time together irl then online. but that should kinda go without saying really

[benny85]

Someone you meet in a club could be a rapist or a murderer and you wouldn't know. The argument that you shouldn't meet someone from the net because it's "full of peadophiles" is ridiculous

a very good point there, people never seem to take that into consideration

[Janjan]

Hehehe, I agree with littlemissy and benny85 (who might i add is such a ickle sweetie) Met my bf online, faceparty as it happens :eek: what a coincidence eh? Anyway, we met on faceparty, finally met after a week of pretty much constant talkin daily n agreed to see each other n try make it as much as twice a month cus thers a 4hr distance.. didnt last long tho, we see each other every 4 days else we pine for each other (even whilst talkin online its not the same). Movin in togethere soon. Think this proves that love can be found over the net. Gives you more of an opportunity to get to know someone before you meet them really. Tho as a few people say u dont know whether its the truth but i guess u goda giv them the benefit of believin um n takin that risk if u think its worth it. :)

[Janjan]

oopsie, didnt actually state that i love my boyfriend :) (aka benny85 yaaay \o/)

[benny85]

apologies for spamming but, love u too :P

[Olive]

You do have to be careful though because you cant tell if the person is genuine in what they are saying or just sweet talking you.

i'm not picking on you, cause a lot of people have said it, but why is there this idea that people don't lie in 'real life' situtions?

i've been spun some utter bullshit in clubs and bars, and even from people i met at uni and stuff. if someone's a liar, they're a liar. it doesn't just suddenly transform them when they log on.

[Blah]

i met my boyfriend on faceparty, talked on msn and the phone for a week then met.
this was 2 years ago and still together

but i dont think you can be in a relationship with somebody purely online without meeting them. You cant get physical affection etc. What would be the point?
But i do think that you can make good friends online, and you can definately fancy someone online without meeting them. I have a friend online who i have not met, but we have been talking for about 4 years.

[sweet thing07]

i dont think you kind find a "soulmate" online i meen some people cant even find the right one offline so why bother with onlie dating i meen you can find freinds but how do you know that the person your talkin 2 isnt a serial killer or somthin i meen its just stupid 2 even believe in love online. :grump:

[littlemissy]

i dont think you kind find a "soulmate" online i meen some people cant even find the right one offline so why bother with onlie dating i meen you can find freinds but how do you know that the person your talkin 2 isnt a serial killer or somthin i meen its just stupid 2 even believe in love online. :grump:

I found my "soulmate" on line. We chatted for a couple of months and then took the plunge and decided to meet. We are getting married in July. *shrugs*

So yes, I don't really agree with what you are saying. How do you know that the random you meet in a coffee shop/club isn't a serial killer? But this argument was made about 3 pages back.

Lastly, no-one is suggesting that you can sustain a relationship purely online either. If you are going to have a relationship with someone then you need to meet. That simple.

[twisted_trinity]

I met my current guy on here (who i am very happy with) and it's become a reasonably good relationship considering the distance between us and the difficulties with comunicating at distance, but i think it's going well. the fact that we started talking to each other was some what of a coinsedence(sp), but i don't really think that so much "searching" for a lover on the net is a good idea, the best things happen when you least expect them too, and i've seen relationships that have started from dating sites, and they haven't lasted long and have gone very sour. Love is something you have to wait to find you not to go looking for.

[ShyBoy]

But I still don't think it is any sadder to look for love online than in a club.

Go to any singles board and chatroom and you'll see what he means :/ it really is sad. Most of the people don't have any life IRL and just go on about how badly off they are, then go on about how they're 'totally in love' with people they've never met.

[Olive]

i dont think you kind find a "soulmate" online i meen some people cant even find the right one offline so why bother with onlie dating i meen you can find freinds but how do you know that the person your talkin 2 isnt a serial killer or somthin i meen its just stupid 2 even believe in love online. :grump:

:lol:

how many people do you think you meet every year, on a day to day basis? a few thousand maybe? out of those, how many would you be in any position to start a relationship with? maybe ten, if that?

how many people are on the internet every day? millions, if not billions.

where do you think there's the greater chance of meeting your 'soul mate'?

[stargalaxy]

i dont think you kind find a "soulmate" online i meen some people cant even find the right one offline so why bother with onlie dating i meen you can find freinds but how do you know that the person your talkin 2 isnt a serial killer or somthin i meen its just stupid 2 even believe in love online. :grump: I've met some interesting people online, even met some of them offline. A few I remain good friends with, others went out of my life very quickly.

[ShyBoy]

One thing I don't like about online, is its completely open to everyone. By and large I would only meet people who gave off the right 'signals' (this can be friends too not just girlfriends) - you just start talking to some guy about some random thing, like food, you can instantly tell in the tone of his voice whether you think he's cool or not. First impressions on the internet though are completely based upon what they're saying, not who's saying it... it's kind of like that advert with that guy talking in a child's voice, except not so extreme.

Like, if someone was mouthing off and just generally loud, I'd be put off, because they're probably a very outgoing person and I find that intimidating. Online you just don't know...

[Mist]

Like, if someone was mouthing off and just generally loud, I'd be put off, because they're probably a very outgoing person and I find that intimidating. Online you just don't know.

Again, I have to say that you don't *know* from a first impression offline either. Only later on would you find out and that is true in both online and offline situations.

Big deal, someone could pretend to be someone they are not. That lasts for what, two minutes, until you find out who the person really is.

No sane person is going to meet someone that they haven't spoken to on the phone with anyway, which is a kinda big clue to whether the person is like 50 years older than they were saying. These days a whole load of people have webcams anyway so there's not much excuse not to show a live picture, either.

If they have pretended to be someone else then that's their loss, and, frankly, unless people are stupid they wont meet up with someone that doesn't check out, and even if you were to meet up then you could do so in a public place anyway.

So, again, it comes back to there being no real valid reason not to find someone online.

[Captain]

I do think it is possible.
My mums friend met her husband through the internet. However, she never told him her age, and when they came to meet, she got her daughter to tell him she was dead because she was way older than him. Haha. But..then they got married. They are still together though.

Therefore, I think it is possible to find love or the internet, or at least a strong friendship. You just have to think about the consequences and who they are in real life, if and when you decide to meet, I guess.