Argh, this is driving me insane. It really is.

[mystifymysoul]

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[Mist]

There is no real thing as "proof" that someone likes you, you just have to judge it on how they behave around you, and from what you say I think he likes you and you will need to make the first move.

[Mist]

So I think if I were you I would just start asking him to go to more places and events with me and just let your friendship naturally develop.

[otter]

So I think if I were you I would just start asking him to go to more places and events with me and just let your friendship naturally develop.
:yes: but if you want to take it further, like Mist said, you'll probably have to be the one to make the first move...

[AverageJoe87]

So I think if I were you I would just start asking him to go to more places and events with me and just let your friendship naturally develop.Personally, I'd say this is a bad move. Just as Josh and Tiffany's relationship in Road Trip was unrealistic, if you become too close as friends, the chance to be together as a couple will slowly disappear. Stay AWAY from "The Friend Zone"...

So, mystifymysoul... Let's look at the facts, and what makes it obvious (to me, anyway) that he wants to be with you.

*The bodily contact -"He offers to give me a shoulder massage/wanted me to slap his butt/arm wrestled with me/leant on my shoulder" - textbook stuff. When I fancy a girl, I tend to get physically rough with them, and hide their things, and more often than not it leads to arguments - which is why I'm single :thumb: So don't have a punchup or anything, just rest your arm on his, straighten his hair out, etc.

*I assume (you didn't say otherwise) that he doesn't object to your colleagues poking fun about you both being together, or that you should be. He wants you to be together.

*He wants to see more of you - "He suggested we go again sometime." - and I assume that he didn't propose for there to be a big crowd of friends with you both, as well?Alone-time is good.

*You fancy him - "I can't get him out of my mind, no matter how hard I try!"

Very likely that he's not going to freak out, because it seems pretty clear to me that he wants more to happen.
But you shouldn't let him know you like him without saying it - ie don't just give him signs to interpret himself, because it'll confuse him. Trust me - men are crap at this. The most effective way to get your intentions out in the open is face-to-face, in a straight-up, cut-the-bollocks conversation. Put the boy on the bloody spot! None of this MSN crap, no telephone dating. It's impersonal, cowardly, and shit. Also, step up the flirting. Make a point of touching him without reason to. Make it blindingly, face-slappingly obvious, dear.

Best of luck, it sounds like something pretty special could be gestating :yes: