Getting over them....

[JellyBabe123]

Hey
Not sure if this is the write catogory for this but i dunno :confused: ok..so the brilliant relationship went really wrong, Is it possible to stay friends?? Should you just cut yourself off from them completely?? What are we all thinkin about this?

Thanks
Amy :yeees:
xxxxxx

[JellyBabe123]

TBH i feel sick, my stomach turns over nd i catch my breath... :blush: Thing is he did really hurt me, he was honast but he really messed me around and i just cant move on, all my friends hate him becasue they saw what a mess he left me in, ive taken him back before but thing is i no its corny but 'wen its good its SO SO SO gud!' kinda makes it all worth while :chin: deep down i know its time to move on though and let go but i realy cant!!

HELP!! hehe, please??? :(

[Franki]

You sound like me :|

I'd so love to say "yeh, it can all work out ok, you can be friends"...buttttttt from past experiences it doesn't usually work like that unless that's all both of you want. Especially if you've been hurt and he's messed you up. I've been there, it's not fun, so *hugs*.

[melodie]

It is really hard to stay friends with someone you love and want to be with..... but, if you still want him in your life, you should'nt walk away, you may regret it.... is there any chance you could get back 2getha? and if not, he is obviously gonna move on and get another girlfriend and that would make it harder to stay friends, a) the new gf would be jealous b) it would hurt like hell........... be careful, I got in a situation like this years ago, i'm back with the guy now but it took about 3 painful years. I never got over him, and so I found out, he never got over me!

[JellyBabe123]

Thing is we never really got together 100% if this makes sence!! He had a g/f who he told me 3 times that he was gonna leave her for me and then didnt on important days so i was really down (christmas eve, my birthday and the day b4 i went on holiday) :( , we had this great connection and whilst all we did was hug nd talk about 'eveything' he sed he felt it too but it fustrates me to fuck that he wont even try properly!! he says he's not happy with his g/f (theyv been 2getha about 11 months) nd then a couple of days later he's telling me he is and he's not worth it!!!! :banghead: - seriously, i just need eitha a way to wake him up or jst a way to move on....any ideas?? :crying: because i know how pathetic this is but it is taking up so much time and effort as someone said before :crying:
Help!

[squishter]

Is it possible to stay friends??
I thought it was i split from my X back in the beginning of feb, we were together 11 months and although we had our ups n downs it was fantastic!
Thing is i was hoping tht i could move on and i did, i started seeing this other lad, my X asked me one night over the net what i had been up 2 lately so i was honest with him and told him about my 'friend' he went sick at me! Started bringing out all this nonsence about us waiting till i had finished college and consider moving in with him.
I made me feel bad but at the end of the day he would have been likely to find someone and done the same thing to me, im afraid i couldnt wait 2 years to MAYBE get back with him.
My advice is to keep quiet about any new relationship or friendship u build with another lad and just tlk general stuff.
It can work but eventually you'll move on and ur friendship is likely to fizzle out.

[Franki]

(i don't mean to sound a bitch but read what you've written and ask yourself if your friend had written that, what advice would you give them?)

Aye..I agree with that. Always the best thing to do.

[JellyBabe123]

I guess i know all this but hearing it from you all helped!!!! i just feel like theres some reason inside of me thats not letting me let go for a reason :chin: hope maby...i dont know really, letting go has always been a problem for me but this time it feels so strong! :crying: i think i just gotta cut myself off completely! see if thats gets me any further :banghead:

Thanks a lot :D :chin:

[iloveshoes]

omg i think maybe you know how i feel...have just come out of the same kind of relationship,, cant see that this guy is not perfect for me after all and its driving me crazy...maybe being a nun is the answer? guys just seem to mess us around :S