I really like this guy

[NothingGoldCanStay]

That doesnt seem like too big of a problm does it.. just wait it gets worse. Im in a realationship.. and i really like my bf, but i REALLY like his best friend. His best friend keeps telling me he wants to hook up, and i kinda want to , also. Ive only ever been with this one person, and im kind of curious what it would feel like to just go out with someone else, just like on one date. Would it be wrong to go out with this other guy just once, to see if theres anything there, before i break up w/ my current boyfriend for him. Id hate to leave what i have and end up with nothing. Im i totally horrible? :banghead:

[nmrmak]

That doesnt seem like too big of a problm does it.. just wait it gets worse. Im in a realationship.. and i really like my bf, but i REALLY like his best friend. His best friend keeps telling me he wants to hook up, and i kinda want to , also. Ive only ever been with this one person, and im kind of curious what it would feel like to just go out with someone else, just like on one date. Would it be wrong to go out with this other guy just once, to see if theres anything there, before i break up w/ my current boyfriend for him. Id hate to leave what i have and end up with nothing. Im i totally horrible? :banghead:
You are horrible, but not totally, since you stopped to think about it. :)
Who is more important to you? You bf or his friend? How long have you been with your bf? Do you really love him?

[NothingGoldCanStay]

See thats the problem.. Ive been with my bf for 2 years and it seems like more and more we just fight and make each other angry. There have been times when i wanted to break up with him, but i didnt want to hurt him, and i think i was afraid of being alone.. i still am.
Its not like i want to go out and have sex with this other guy, not in the least. I just want to get to know him better before I make my decision..so thats wrong?

[NothingGoldCanStay]

im sooo confused this is not fun

[spongebobsgirl]

hiya there
Ok first thing i thought when i read your post?? why the hell does she want to go on a date with this knob? he calls himself your b.f's best mate, but he's asking you out!!!! i personally wouldnt waste my time with him, and if you do anything id only get to know him more as a friend, not privately on a date or alone!
you need to discuss all the rows with your b.f. be honest, and tell him you aren't happy!
i think that the only reasons you are feeling attracted to this other guy are:
a) Things with your b,f arent so great
b) You're curious as to what its like to date other people - this is natural.
c) this guy is paying you attention, and that i naturally very flattering.
Forget about him, at least for the time being, and sort out your relationship with your boyfriend.
SBG

[nicebutdim23]

the fancying someone else is a symptom of something wrong with the relationship, not the cause of it. you obviously are confused. if you dont want to spend the rest of your life just being with your bf, its a sign you need to get out of it. you can take a break to think if its him you want...or not. DO NOT get involved with someone else first, then dump him...it will only lead to you getting more confused. if you decide to end it, take some time to get to know yourself without a boyfriend,before trying a few other frogs.

[g_angel]

I don't get this...

Me and all my friends (and almost all the blokes i've ever known) live by the unwritten rule that you don't doink (or anything else) your mate's ex's... Never mind thinking about it when you're still together. A lot of the girls I knew/know don't seem to see there being a problem with this situation though... Strange.

Being honest - I reckon this would also break up their "best friendship". Steer clear, I reckon - it may be more hassle than it's worth.

Take some time out and be single - just enjoy yourself. Just steer clear of his mate!

My tuppence.

G.

[nmrmak]

See thats the problem.. Ive been with my bf for 2 years and it seems like more and more we just fight and make each other angry. There have been times when i wanted to break up with him, but i didnt want to hurt him, and i think i was afraid of being alone.. i still am.
Its not like i want to go out and have sex with this other guy, not in the least. I just want to get to know him better before I make my decision..so thats wrong?
My opinion is that you shouldn't rush anything. I don't have enough info about your relationship, but if you feel that way, it seems it would be the best thng to break up with your bf. I mean, if you are with him only out of fright that you will hurt him, then he's not the guy for you.

But please, whatever you do, don't be with two guys at the same time, that's very nasty. Either break up with your bf and go out with the other guy, or stay with your bf and cool the other guy off.