Confused and Annoyed

[GoodFella]

Sorry if all this has been said before just need to get it all out.

Well its in the girls department where one, im gettin annoyed and two, im confused.

Ok well i was out last nite, was an average nite. Had a laugh with my mates but didnt get too wasted. Anyway wots annoying me is my inability to chat to girls i dnt know. I mean i got a few glances frm girls in bars and clubs but i know i have to make the first move which i never take. Then i get home and rue all the chances i've missed because i was too shy to go up and ask em. I was chattin to a few girls frm my college who i get on well with but i just cudnt go up and chat up any girls :banghead: .

Anyway secondly i posted a while back about a girl i really liked who i thought also liked me but she has a bf. Well she was out and about last night. She didnt come up to me or nething but there were just sum weird but nice signals coming from her. Like i was chattin to my mates, i look around to see who's about, see her talking to her friends and then she does that little quick glance into my eyes. But even wierder was wen she was hugging one of her friends both our eyes connected again as she was looking over her friends shoulder, i dunno, just felt like we clicked. Cud just be me but it felt rite, a connection there somewhere.

Its coming to the end of my A -Levels and i've really been thinking of telling her how i feel as i cud never see her again. Which i dnt want.

Sorry for repeating stuff and for the longish read, just need to tell sum people. :)

[creeees]

I have to say, that those weird signals are a pretty damn good sign that she's into you. Personally I'd say go for it, but I know thats probably not the answer you'll get off most people. I say this out of experience, I was in the same situation, and I still think about that girl despite the fact I haven't seen her in two years. I REALLY wish I'd said something, and I dare say you will feel the same. Disregard the boyfriend, if she is looking at you and not him then something must be up with their realtionship.

[spongebobsgirl]

hi there
i think next time you're out (and maybe if you've had a few drinks to give you more confidence) just got up to one of these girls who looks at you. maybe smile back at her first and judge her reaction, but think of it this way - it doesnt matter too much if she says no or whatever, as you'll probably never see her again.
As for things with this second girl, id stay back if she has a boyfriend already, and just stay mates with her, you never know what will happen in the future!
SBG

[katchika]

If a girl smiles at you in a bar, she WANTS you to talk to her. Just go and say hi. I know it's hard, I'm glad I am not a guy as I would never have the confidence to approach people.

[creeees]

Trust me, I will cry if you don't do anything about this girl. When it comes summertime, and the only girls you can pick up are the harlots that hang around in bars, you will be kicking yourself, you will long for those stares from this girl that felt so right. No matter whether anything comes of asking her out, you'll know you tried, and you'll know that you've done more than most guys would do. Once she's gone, she's gone, and you will eat yourself up over whether it could have been. Whether she has a boyfriend or not isn't an issue as far as I'm concerned, if she's giving you these glances then there's almost definitely something going on there.

[GoodFella]

Yeh u think? I've been thinking bout it all day. Maybe i cud stay friends with her but i want more if u get me, i just dunno what to do and if i were to tell her i'd have to decide where and when to tell her. We have like an end of year do at sum bar sumwhere, pretty much saying our goodbyes to people before our exams, maybe that cud be the place to tell her. Just cant stop thinking of her.

Thanks though guys and girls, nice to hear advice on it.

[creeees]

maybe i'm sounding a bit forceful, but the number of times I've heard similar situations, it just really annoys me. I seriously think you should try to at least get to know her better, and maybe BEFORE the year end do. I've missed any chance I may have had with a girl not once, but twice. I was going to ask this girl out at my GCSE prom, but I chickened out in the end because its so much easier than applying yourself and asking someone out. And then the girl at sixth form college. Both times it felt like the biggest mistake in my life, and I would give anything to go back and have another go.

[creeees]

YES! What he said (you've been reading up haven't you, matt?). The most important thing is to make an effort, make us men proud.

[GoodFella]

Cheers Matt thats some gud stuff for me to think about. I know there are plenty of fish in the sea, i mean last nite there were sum other girls i cud maybe go for, but i dunno i've liked this particular girl for ages now and for that period she just seems different to the rest. Wen i do see her on her own i do try and make an effort to say hi and just ask general stuff its just goin that step further that i wud like to take, but she has a bf.
So thats where it has to stop, i dnt wanna ruin anyone's relationship just cause i really like this girl. I'll let u know though how it all goes, if anything happens that is.