The Pill

[cookiedough]

Hi.
I'm 14 years old and I have a boyfriend who is 18. He'll be coming to stay with me in the summer, by which time I'll be 15. I love him, and I want to have sex with him when we comes, but I don't want to worry about getting pregnant, and I don't want to have to rely on condoms. I'm not a virgin and my mum knows, but I don't feel I can talk to her about going on the pill. I've asked my friend to come with me to the Family Planning clinic in order to ask them if I can go on the pill. But I don't know if they will let me as I'm 14. Should I lie and pretend it's for other reasons than sex? Or should I tell the truth?
Thanks.

[Scarlet]

1. Please remember sex at 15 is illegal. But if you're not a virgin, then I suppose that seems less of a big deal to you.

2. If your Mum knows you're not a virgin, I don't see why she would have a problem with you going on the Pill. Surely it would give her peace of mind? Or maybe you could tell her that you want to take it for period pains or something like that. Either way, it's advisable to tell her, just in case.

3. Don't lie about your age. It may affect whatever pill the FPA put you on. And I wouldn't lie to the FPA about what you want the Pill for, as most people would go to the doctor if they wanted it for period pains etc.

4. Make sure you still use a condom.

[otter]

But I don't know if they will let me as I'm 14. Should I lie and pretend it's for other reasons than sex? Or should I tell the truth?
don't lie...tell the truth... that way they'll be best able to help sort you out with some form of contraception... don't worry about telling them your age... they have head stories like yours a thousand times over... and they will help you, so just be honest.
personally though, i'd say if you are thinking of relying on the pill, it would be a good idea to use condoms as well... remember the pill will not protect you from any STDs.
also, sex at 14 is illegal, as i'm sure you know... it's important you keep the consequences in mind; and make sure it is what you really do want to do... and you are not doing it for the wrong reasons, even if you do love your partner. :)

[sexylilthug]

Im 15 and on the pill, went to the family planning clinic and told then why i wanted to go on it, if they reckon your mature enough to know what your doing and the risks like getting pregnant are then there should be no problem getting it if your under 16.

[Thompsg2]

dont they have to give you the pill as if they dont theres a risk you can get pregnant and i becomes partly their fault i know every time ive gone with my mate we are both 18 ive always had condoms shoved into my arms with the occasional lube so there should be no problem getting them

[nicebutdim23]

fpc arent there to judge, neither are brook even if you are underage they are there to help. they are there to make sure you know what you are doing and to help you. there is no need to lie, they will have seen it all before lots of times. just be honest and re-think the condoms thing until you have both had sti tests would be my advice - u cant see sti's and many have no symptoms.

also, read your pill leaflet carefully when you get it :yes:

[Decode]

Your boyfriend is technically a Paedophile!

Hes gonna get into sum trouble when hes older, ha ha :nervous:

[spanner]

Your boyfriend is technically a Paedophile!

Hes gonna get into sum trouble when hes older, ha ha :nervous:

Yeah that was really useful, thanks :rolleyes:

The point is that you boyfriend could get into trouble if you or anyone else ever tried to to turn on him. Having sex with someone under the age of 16 is illegal - read this article to find out more. (http://www.thesite.org/homelawandmoney/law/yourrights/sexandthelaw)

Of course, this won't necessarily mean that you will wait until you're 16, so it's quite righjt to be thinking about contraception. The laws have recently changed about how GPs can advise under 16s about contraception (http://vbulletin.thesite.org.uk/showthread.php?t=76026) and it's in your favour. Don't be afraid of telling the doctor your real age - it shouldn't make any difference. Remember that as well as pregnancy, STIs are also a risk (http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/safersex/sexualhealth), so even if you do go on the pill you should still use a condoms to help protect against these.

:)

[HannahG]

Go to your docs and they will put you on the pill .... they cannot tell you mum.

Please remember that if the police were to find out you bf could land in jail regardless of whether or not you wanted to or not.

[k@tie]

Your boyfriend is technically a Paedophile!

Hes gonna get into sum trouble when hes older, ha ha :nervous:

He's not a paedophile. As far as I know, a paedophile is a man over the age of 18 who likes girls aged 13 and under.

[nicebutdim23]

some people are muppets. :rolleyes:

it doesnt make him a paedo, it is worth remembering that if your mum doesnt know already what your plans are and finds out she can have him charged with rape - whether you are consenting or not if you are under 16