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miss-behaving
22-01-2005, 10:52 PM
Hi everyone,

I've been in a 4 year relationship with my bf - I'm 34, he's 27 and we're very happy together. However, his first crush/gf is coming to work for a year in the same company he's in - and she's also a distant relative and he'll have to take her to and from work for God only knows how long (till she gets her bearings here - she's coming from another country). I'm sure there will also be family visits at his place and might have to take her out once or twice.

I'm not very thrilled about this whole thing, he tells me not to worry - that it was a childhood crush/relationship thingie and it's been over for years - I don't think most ppl get over their first love - what do you all think? I really need opinions and advice on this please? My mind is working overtime to imagine terrible scenarios of them falling back in love - or the cliche of men and women thrown into the workplace and falling in love/lust. Help!! :(
Kermit
23-01-2005, 03:11 AM
People always have a soft spot for their first love, that much is true. I know I do.

But I wouldn't go back to her even if she came to me wearing nothing but a cute smile. It's the past, it's over, and, guess what, I'm glad that it is. I'm with a far superior person, so why regress?
Franki
23-01-2005, 06:11 PM
People always have a soft spot for their first love, that much is true. I know I do.

But I wouldn't go back to her even if she came to me wearing nothing but a cute smile. It's the past, it's over, and, guess what, I'm glad that it is. I'm with a far superior person, so why regress?

What he said. To the letter.
**grunge gurl**
23-01-2005, 06:14 PM
What he said. To the letter.

Precisely. (sp??)
lexijb
25-01-2005, 04:55 PM
People change...maybe she wont b the same as before!!
And the situation is different.
Hes with you! So you must trust him. And maybe talk to him, dont argue just show your insecurity, maybe he will be able to reassure you. Dont keep it to yourself tho, or you'll prob make things alot worse in your head i kno i wud lol
Hope everything goes ok...
If she doesnt know alot of people...why not try and make friends? And if you dont like her, u kno wat they say "keep ur friends close, but ur enemies closer" !
miss-behaving
05-02-2005, 11:29 PM
Thanks everyone who posted a reply here. I really appreciate it!
I'll just have to keep my fingers crossed and see what happens, anyway I'm trying to prepare myself for the worst - a mental protective barrier thingie. He's sweeter than ever though so I hope it all turns out well in the end. Thanks again everyone :thumb:
Silverberg
06-02-2005, 05:29 AM
A distant relative of you or him? If it's him then that's a bit weird...
It's like me fancying my sister, only not, because it's different and she doesn't exist.