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Indrid Cold
22-01-2005, 06:46 PM
My dad doesn't live in Athens. My brother lives in London, and came here for just a few weeks. Today is something like his birthday (it would take long to explain). My dad has come here for a few days just to see him, which he rarely does anymore due to both of them not living here.
Today, my dad was supposed to go back home, after 3 days without meeting. He called twice to remind my bro to go and see him. Apparently he just called and didn't go there.
Now my dad called me, crying and saying that my brother went there crying and saying that he hates himself and such, and then left. I don't know what really has happened, but I know that it's somehow connected to an incident about 1.5 year ago, where my bro started crying and telling my dad the same things, because dad was always like "this isn't the right way to do <whatever>, this is" and some other stuff. It took hours to resolve this, and apparently it didn't.

I don't know what to do now, I've been calling my bro on the phone but he won't answer (possibly because it'd cost too much since it's registered to a different country). I told my dad to calm down, first he told me to go there to see him and then he said to stay here in case my brother comes, but he might just go out with his friends and not come until late, and I don't know since he won't answer the phone, I don't know what to do!

Indrid Cold
22-01-2005, 07:00 PM
I just spoke to my brother, he seems to be fine. He sounds fine, as always, but I'm starting to thing he never is... My dad still sounds bad, again saying that my brother blames him for his problems, which he does, but I don't know who's right and I don't know the whole story...

Indrid Cold
22-01-2005, 07:58 PM
"I'm as fine as always, you shouldn't have been caught in the middle of this, it began before you were born".
I'm sick of that kind of thing! People are always hiding things from me, making me believe I'm living in some kind of fucking utopia. "These things are too bad for his ears; don't let him know." I didn't even know what the real world is like before I found this place. I was suddenly hit with the realization that bad things don't only happen to people I don't know, that there are bigger problems in like than I ever knew.
I'm sick of being sheltered...

Tweety
22-01-2005, 08:38 PM
Perhaps hes not ready to talk about it? Perhaps hes not allowed?
Perhaps is it best you don't know? I found something out AFTER my dad had killed himself that i never knew & had i known it would have devistated me even more then i think.
Give it time, he will talk if/when hes ready, jsut make sure he knows you are there if need be.

Indrid Cold
22-01-2005, 08:45 PM
Perhaps hes not ready to talk about it? Perhaps hes not allowed?
Perhaps is it best you don't know? I found something out AFTER my dad had killed himself that i never knew & had i known it would have devistated me even more then i think.
Give it time, he will talk if/when hes ready, jsut make sure he knows you are there if need be.
Things seem to be back to normal now actually... I just question how much "normal" is what I thought it was. All that remains is to see how my dad is, and I'll have to wait till tomorrow.
He probably will act like he forgot the whole thing too, like my brother is now and like I did last time... I guess it's in our genes.

Tweety
22-01-2005, 08:48 PM
Yeah that all sounds familiar. Just try not to think too much into it as you can't force people to talk.

Indrid Cold
22-01-2005, 08:52 PM
Yeah that all sounds familiar. Just try not to think too much into it as you can't force people to talk.
Thank you, really... :) When I said to check here, I wasn't asking you to hurry and tell me something...

Tweety
22-01-2005, 08:53 PM
Thank you, really... :) When I said to check here, I wasn't asking you to hurry and tell me something...

Thats ok, i wouldn't have if i didn't want to.