Am i being used?

[Godders]

Hiya. Basically i feel like im being used. Well something along the lines of that. I have been waiting for this girl for ages, iv never met her before, she lives ages away and shes got a hold on me. I turn down offers at college and when i go out i dont let things get too heavy ie.if i dance with a girl it doesnt go further, apart from 1 mistake. Shes got a hold on me and iv never had that with a girl.
Well i just feel like she doesnt feel the same way. she says she does. But she doesnt show it. We have periods of a few weeks where we always talk on msn, text and all that. And then sometimes she like rejects me. And at the moment is one of those times. And iv text her loadsa times, and emailed her. But she has just ignored me. :(

Shall i just let it go and TRY and move on?

[ruby_soho]

Do you have any plans to meet up sometime soon in the near future? Relationships can only really develop and move foward if you take them into the 'real world'

[Godders]

Do you have any plans to meet up sometime soon in the near future? Relationships can only really develop and move foward if you take them into the 'real world'

Thats the thing. When we have these periods of talkin all the time, we start arranging things. then she like ignores me blaming it on no credit or her internet broke.

[ruby_soho]

Thats the thing. When we have these periods of talkin all the time, we start arranging things. then she like ignores me blaming it on no credit or her internet broke.

Hmm that does seem like she is giving you a bit of a brush off, but then again there is two sides to every story an she might have valid excuses for doing so.
My advice would be to have it out with her ask what she really wants/to meet up etc give it one more go and let this make it or break it, because there is no point waiting around forever for something that may not even happen.

[spongebobsgirl]

sorry hun but it sounds like this girl is using you. she could very well be seeing somebody already and just like the fact that you are hanging on and waiting for her, and compromising your life!
maybe send her an email telling her you're sick of being made to wait, and you're going to move on and get on with your life, then get on out there+meet new girls, ones that you can talk to face to face and not via a pc!
SBG

[Cuddilicious]

Unfortunately huni, it sounds like she is just using you and you just can't see that at the moment cause you're not willing to give up on her just yet.

I think it's time to wake up and move on. If she decides to be friendly with you again on PC. Let her, but you need to stop putting your life on hold for this girl, as she obviously aint doing it for you.

I'm sorry things haven't worked out. **HUGZ**

Xxxx

[Capacity]

Just on a side note, if this girl is TiNk I'm going to kick you right in the sack.

[Godders]

Just on a side note, if this girl is TiNk I'm going to kick you right in the sack.


Are you being sarcastic? If not, why would you?

[Makoto]

If she lives ages away then your better of getting with a bird who's near to you tbh.

[Capacity]

Several reasons.

Hellfire does this. Starts threads about how he has had problems with some 'girl' who is really a member of TheSite. Nobody knows she's a member of course, so they all trot along trying to be helpful. Why? He just wants to make a point to that person, and wastes everybody elses time who is trying to help by doing so. This pisses me off. Why not just a) grow some balls or b) get a grip of reality. Let me apply a) and b) to your situation, assuming that it is infact tInK that this thread is based upon.

a) Grow some balls.

Stop with the pissy 'shall I try to move on' as if you have any intention other than trying to 'scare' her away. Like that'll work. If you want something out of this, you ring her/visit her/email her and say what you want to say. If she doesn't reply how you want, or even at all, bye-bye-fucker.

b) Get a grip on reality

You're new. Have you met her yet? If no, why the obession? If yes, refer to 'if no'. Honestly. You're not going to move across the country, move in together, live happily ever after. That's even more Hellfire mentality. Eradicate it from your head. Sure, you may think she's the ultimate one and only one, but I can tell you for sure that she isn't. How do I know? Because I do. I don't need a reason. If I do, just look what she said about me in my sig; the fact that she even believes I need a reason to be horrible to people shows how deluded she is.

I imagine you'll both be flapping that the girl in question isn't TInk to me, but I've made up my mind.

[Godders]

You are right it is TINK and yes im trying to make a point. Because shes ignoring me. Iv tried ringing her etc so i have got some balls. And this is the final way to try and get her to talk to me.

And yes i would like to get a grip in reality but you cant help the way you feel...can you?!

[Makoto]

IF some bird don't wanna talk to you then don't bother wit her man.

[Capacity]

Damn. I'm good.

[Kermit]

Damn. I'm good.
*applauds*

Be a man and tell her where to shove it. After all, lots of other people appear to have shoved it in her.

[Fiend_85]

Harsh Kermit. Really this was a cuntish thing to do. It's not like it's the easiest thing in the world she's dealing with right now. I applaud you capacity.

[Kermit]

Harsh Kermit. Really this was a cuntish thing to do. It's not like it's the easiest thing in the world she's dealing with right now.

I don't think I'm being especially harsh. I have my reasons, ones that a significant number of people agree with, but there you go.

[Fiend_85]

Personally I don't think it's necessary or helpful to attribute whatever it is she's deciding to do right now to her sexual habits. Plenty of people do worse, she was unlucky. And that's exactly what it is before you protest. She's not the only teenager that has sex.

I don't know why I feel compelled to defend her, but I'm aware of how hard it must be for her to be so young and in such a difficult situation. It's not going to be helped by a bunch of male twats faffing about on an internet message board.

[Kermit]

Personally I don't think it's necessary or helpful to attribute whatever it is she's deciding to do right now to her sexual habits.

I never mentioned her pregnancy, but if godders thinks he's got something romantic with someone who goes off and sleeps around a bit then he's being seriously delusional.

Though, for the record, accidence does happen. Just more often to some than to others *shrug*

[Fiend_85]

indeed. now bugger off.

[Godders]

I never mentioned her pregnancy, but if godders thinks he's got something romantic with someone who goes off and sleeps around a bit then he's being seriously delusional.

Though, for the record, accidence does happen. Just more often to some than to others *shrug*

I have to agree with this point. I do find it weird that shes being pregnant x amount of times (how many is it) and every single one has been a miscarriage. Also i gathered that she was on the pill every time??? :eek2: strange.....

I think im persuading myself to tell her where to go.

[Fiend_85]

Really, STFU up.

[Capacity]

Really, STFU up.

So many people are so close to giving you the ridiculing of a lifetime, and judging on every slightly heated post you've ever made and how much your internet profile means to you, they'll succeed.

curiouslad: Forget about her, if you can get any girl who actually lives near you that you've seen before then you've already done better.

[Fiend_85]

You are labouring under the delusion that I care what you think Capacity.

[lucifer devil]

I think im persuading myself to tell her where to go.

Tink seems like a lovely girl, so no disrespect to her when I say this but I think you should do just that.

I know what it's like when someone has a 'hold' over you, and it's not nice. However, you have to admit that you're being a little naive in thinking it's worth waiting for her - fair do, long distance relationships work but it doesn't seem as though this one would and I think it's time you got out and had yourself some fun.

[Capacity]

You are labouring under the delusion that I care what you think Capacity.

Not everyone can realise when someone is just so much better and much more worth listening to than themselves. For that, I totally forgive you. Go back to being the shy and obedient speck that you were when you joined up, rather than keep pursuing recognition for your skills of dismissal - "indeed, now bugger off" indeed. ;<

I have nothing further to add, apart from that practically everyone is getting sick of you and your girl-power shit.

[VinylVicky]

haha i dont know if i love or hate this place

[ruby_soho]

haha i dont know if i love or hate this place

Well there is never a dull day, thats for sure.

[Doofay]

Capacity wins ;o

[*TiNK*]

I never mentioned her pregnancy, but if godders thinks he's got something romantic with someone who goes off and sleeps around a bit then he's being seriously delusional.


I honestly dont know what to say to you here, but how dare you say that i sleep around? Do you know me? No. Im not starting an argumet because its pathetic, just saying this. People have thier own oppinions of me, but dont say ive slept around when you dont know me.

Matt, you can say what you want about me, and a few people have told you im sortin my head out atm, but no, u come and make a pointless thread. After your wonderful comment previously, you know where you can go.

[girl with sharp teeth]

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[*TiNK*]

Honey, I'm not actually trying to be nasty to you here, but we don't need to say that you sleep around - you do it for us. We don't need to point out that this is your umpteenth pregnancy before your 16th birthday because again, you do it for us. You cannot pick and choose when people are allowed to discuss your life and when they're not.

Yeah but at what point did i say that every time its happened its been with a different person? I didnt.

[girl with sharp teeth]

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[*TiNK*]

I don't think anyone else did either. My personal definition of sleeping around a bit includes random sex when not in a commited relationship with that person.

Thats your oppinion, and i didnt post to start an argument.

[girl with sharp teeth]

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[Godders]

Matt, you can say what you want about me, and a few people have told you im sortin my head out atm, but no, u come and make a pointless thread. After your wonderful comment previously, you know where you can go.

You dont like to talk do you? Why didnt you tell me that? i would of understood. But instead you ignore me and expect me to come running back to you. I would of chatted to you about it. But you are too immature to do that. :wave:

[Cuddilicious]

Kids these days :banghead:

[Capacity]

Matt, you can say what you want about me, and a few people have told you im sortin my head out atm, but no, u come and make a pointless thread. After your wonderful comment previously, you know where you can go.

Wow. You've really got him wrapped haven't you? What a disgrace to men all over the world. ;<

[Rainbow Phoenix]

Can we chill guys?

its not nice airing dirty washing in public

Phoenix

[Fish_food]

Instead of texting why not ring her phone? this way she can't blame it on credit.

[lucifer devil]

Instead of texting why not ring her phone? this way she can't blame it on credit.

yes but she might not answer the phone.

but anyway, look's like that's the end of that.

[Fish_food]

yes but she might not answer the phone.

but anyway, look's like that's the end of that.


ha ha! i'm thinking i should of read ALL the pages to this post rather than just half of the first before answering this! :blush:

[Jon_UK]

I really think this should have all been kept to pm!

Seriously godders i don't want to be rude but have you got no self respect? If you like a girl and she's not showing interest or starts fucking about with you then you've got to just forget it - it may be hard but have a little will power!

For the future don't do a thread on a public message board that she reads/posts on either because its just slightly cringing.

Now go phone one of the girls that you turned down, take her for a drink and work some charm!!!!

And :thumb: to capacity for making this thread entertaining

[ClaireBear]

A few have already said it, but as you all know, this board is NOT here for you to air your dirty laundry. And, shockingly enough, we don't take too kindly to you slagging other users off either. Please take note, if this sort of thing happens again I won't think twice about using my toaster.

CB

[Monserrat]

Barnstaple is a nice place. I've been there a few times! However, it's going to be a bit far from Middlesbrough where Helen (Tink) originates!

At age 17 Godders, I would concentrate on your A Levels. I had a girlfriends during A Levels. It wasn't quite long-distanced (Shropshire-Birmingham), but was still a commitment to make at such an early stage in life.

Also, Helen is 19, so she is probably thinking about uni. The best case scenario would be for her to come and visit Barnstaple at weekends.

[ruby_soho]

Barnstaple is a nice place. I've been there a few times! However, it's going to be a bit far from Middlesbrough where Helen (Tink) originates!

At age 17 Godders, I would concentrate on your A Levels. I had a girlfriends during A Levels. It wasn't quite long-distanced (Shropshire-Birmingham), but was still a commitment to make at such an early stage in life.

Also, Helen is 19, so she is probably thinking about uni. The best case scenario would be for her to come and visit Barnstaple at weekends.


Ummm a) I thought her name was Lian
b) I thought she was 16
c) I thought she lived near manchester?

So quite what you are talking about i am unsure :confused:

[Fiend_85]

Personally, I'm scared of CB's toaster, I suggest the rest of you suddenly become so, just incase this starts to get unpleasant again.

[Monserrat]

Ummm a) I thought her name was Lian
b) I thought she was 16
c) I thought she lived near manchester?

So quite what you are talking about i am unsure :confused:

Dude, I just ran a search on Tink to find one of her original messages. As follows:

hiya im Helen, 19 from Middlesbrough uk:yes:
hope ure ok :):cool:

[JsT]

Personally, I'm scared of CB's toaster, I suggest the rest of you suddenly become so, just incase this starts to get unpleasant again.
It's a very scary toaster.

[Fiend_85]

Dude, I just ran a search on Tink to find one of her original messages. As follows:
More than one tink.

[*TiNK*]

Dude, I just ran a search on Tink to find one of her original messages. As follows:

There's more than one tink, note how im *TiNk*

[pinkslippers]

wasnt that the one who we all shouted at for using the the name Tink?