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w3lsh_princ3ss
20-01-2005, 10:27 PM
Right ok, basically me and my fella have been together for 2 & a half years. the past year or so has seen us grow extremely close, and we've been happier than ever.

But we are also both growing more and more protective of each other... We spend 6 nights of the week together, and we are constantly in touch when we are in work etc through phone calls and texting, we always know what the other one is doing, where they are, and who they are with.

the problem is that in 2 weeks he's going to be starting a new job which involves travelling far, and workin shifts that are totally opposite to mine. these shifts will last for 4 weeks at a time, which means that in those 4 weeks we will be lucky to see each other just once. Now deep down im sure that i wont be able to cope with this, i'll get paranoid and possessive and think the worst (eg that he'll meet someone else). i'm a very insecure person and i'm sooo used to seeing him all the time and having him all to myself, and i really think this extreme change will only harm our relationship.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Or if anyone has any thoughts or opinions on the situation it would be much appreciated.

Thanks in advance guys xxxxx

morrocan roll
20-01-2005, 10:54 PM
tell him.
talk to him. be honest and open about how you feel and what you fear.
for starters like.

MutantSquirrel
20-01-2005, 10:55 PM
When me and my current gf were first goin out we were both really paranoid of what the other might do.

Its understandable but also - normally - totally irrational. Try letting him do something that ur a little paranoid about to build up trust. Worked for me (tried not to get paranoid when she went to this guys house who she used to obsess over).