Am I in the wrong?

[peterc]

I have been with my GF for about 10 months.

We get on really well and bounce off each other.

I am 24, she is 18.

Recently, we seem to have drifted apart a bit.

I think that she needs to treat me a bit better, she always wants presents off me and stuff. But she does treat me very well in other areas.

One thing which annoys me loads is she doesn't like me going out with my mates of a weekend of weekdays even. But thinks it is OK for her to go out. I have no probs with her goin out... and I think I trust her! It's just the principle of one rule for her and another for me!

I spoke to her last night about it... I would really like for both of us to go out together more. We go out now, shopping and for meals and stuff. But not to a club or pubs or bars. She told me that she doesn't like goin out with me as she will get bored/be boring. But she says she wants to go out with her mates so she can dance and enjoy herself.

This winds me up so much... as I see my mates out with their girlfriends... but mine won't go out with me.

All other areas of the relationship are fantastic... am I just being jealous of other people...??

Or something like that??

Or is this common?

[x .beepbeep.]

Doesnt sound like you are in the wrong at all to me man. I think she should really want to include you more in her life, even if its just going out.

Why cant she dance and have fun with you? i dont want to worry you but maybe she likes to dance with other guys when she goes out hence not wanting you to be around, thats just my train of thought though.

I go out with my friends and party away and i love going out when my girls there too. Its just as fun, if not more, i love sharing good times with her. I think you should talk to her properly and tell her your concern, have you? Going out together also means you both know what eachother is doing :thumb: hehe

It is unfair that she doesnt like you going out but she does, tell her that..because that isnt right, i know that one for sure.

Robb. :angel:

[nicebutdim23]

compromise isimportant in a relationship, she should make an effort to go out with u and ur mates

[Indrid Cold]

No offense, and I'm not speaking from experience, but if you two weren't already in a relationship it would have sounded like you asked her out and she refused... If she thinks you're boring why does she date you?

[MrG]

younger man?

[peterc]

compromise isimportant in a relationship, she should make an effort to go out with u and ur mates

I think that is spot on!

I mean it is not as though she goes out all the time, just once in a while.

So I know for a fact she is seeing no one else.

She just doesn't want to go out with me etc.

Maybe if one of her mates hooked up with someone and we all went out, it would be ok.

Just not sure.

[mandy69]

i think she should make more off an affort i know how u feel has my bf wont go to clus,bars and that we in the same boat m8

[spongebobsgirl]

i may be wrong here, so i apologise if i am, but perhaps the age difference has something to do with this? Maybe because she's 18, and you're 24, she's not as mature as you -she certainly doesnt sound like it.
To be honest you've got to ask yourself:
* why are you with her if she wont associate with you in public (could she perhaps be embaressed off u??), and wants presents all the time (which is selfish).
* Why wont she go to the pub/club with you?? i agreed with beepbeep about younger guys - just because she doesnt go out very often doesnt mean that she isnt cheating! Sorry to say this, but she could go out and get off with lots of guys whilst you aren't there.

relationships must be based on trust, and you only think you trust her, you dont know for sure, and to be honest id feel the same in your position.

This girl needs to tell you why she's acting like this, so ask her outright if she's embaressed of you or cheating. If she denies these, which she probably will, then just ask "well, why the hell cant we go out the clubs together then?? what is it??"

Good luck :thumb:
SBG

[Olive]

tell her it upsets you when she refuses to go out with you and her double standards are not on.

if she cares about you, she will compromise.

if she doesn't, you might want to re-think your relationship.