Please I Need Your Advice!

[Fish_food]

Hi, this may take a while but please just bare with me!

ok, well i really really REALLY fancy this guy (Jack) and have done for about 4months. All my mates (girl and boy mates)know i do, so do some other people, Jack's friend (Mark - he kinda assumed), and Jack (i told him over yahoo messenger).

Mark had already said things around school about me fancying him and made it obvious for Jack to hear (this was before id told Jack).

Jack was great about it when i told him. He said he thought i was fit and the kinda girl hed go out with but he didnt want a gf right now but maybe in the future. He also said he wouldn't tell anyone.

Jack and i rarely talk at school mainly over yahoo messenger and we end convos with loadsa xxx's. The other day on yahoo Mark said to me that if i went to so and so place at so and so time on Saturday Jack would be there. I told Jack what mark said but he didnt say anything else after id told him.

Yesterday at school JAck wasnt there but when i was waiting to go into a lesson Mark and his friend (Paul) were there. Paul (who i dont really know) started saying Jack Longstead, Jack Longstead (his name) so i turned around and then MArk and Paul smiled and awwed at me. I was on my own so i didnt really know what to do.

Im also starting to thing that my friend has started to fancy Jack. She often says hes cute(but she says that about alot of people) and asked me what would i do if Lucy (our friend) went out with Jack.

Jack is starting not to talk as much to me on yahoo. I can find it quite hard to keep a conversation going however still ends convos with xxx's. I also asked him if he was going to the place in Saturday but he said no. I said i wasn't planning to go anyway. (i actually wasn't)

Do you think my friend fancies him? is there any more advice you can give me? I really do like him but i don't want him to think i'm becoming obsessed. please help. thank you v.much.

btw im 14 and have never had a bf. Jack is 15 and in my year at school. He is in one of my lessons 2 times a week. We are also both going on an Italian Exchange near the end of march.

[BumbleBee]

To start with, it sounds like these boys are just being silly by saying his name when you're around. They're most likely winding you up.

Jack is probably playing it cool because he either doesn't want to lead you into thinking he wants to go out with you, or he does want to go out with you and something is holding him back (his mates perhaps?).

As for your friend fancying him, you haven't really provided enough information. Perhaps you should casually mention that you'd never forgive someone who went after the lad you fancy.

If I were you I'd wait for this Italian exchange and see what happens. :)

[Fish_food]

I really do want this Italian Exchange. I'm going with my mate aswell so I have someone to keep me company so i won't look like a fool around him! haha.

I kinda like it when i talk about how much i like him. I'm not sure why though. When his friends say that i kinda like it because they are noticing it. i'm just worried that Jack is starting to get a bit to wary of me and beginning to dislike me.

[Franki]

I kinda like it when i talk about how much i like him. I'm not sure why though.

I know what you mean ha...I get like that a lot...and I never shut up about him...hehe. Just makes me get a funny feeling in me stomach :blush:

But yeh, I'd suggest waiting for that Italian Exchange. With the conversation thing - I've found that before, don't worry about it. You'll find stuff to talk about sooner or later!!

[Fish_food]

funny feeling in me stomach :blush:

I get that too... Whenever i see him around school. It;s really bad though because at school i feel kinda awkward cos we both don't really say much to eachother at school.

[nicebutdim23]

boys can sometimes get a bit uncomfortable round girls they know like them,spesh if mates are teasing them

[Fish_food]

back from school... Mark today saw me on the stairs and was with 2 other friends... he pointed at me saying she fancies Jack Longstead... he then added you have bad taste... im not sure why as isnt this an insult 2 jack?

We also had a meeting for the italian exchange so i got to say hello and show him my photo... he showed me his and asked to see mine...

anything else you can tell me now?

[Fish_food]

aaahh... i just spoke to jack on yahoo... i said i was gonna go and put bye with xxx's but then he just replied back as bi... no xxx's!!! oh no

[nicebutdim23]

u should just give him up - if he doesnt want a girlfriend ur better off trying to play it cool, he knows how u feel, and he's getting stick from his mate (who just for the record , i think is jealous) so try and make it easier on him and dont be so obvious

[Fish_food]

[QUOTE]u should just give him up[QUOTE] I really would but i like him too much... i can't stop thinking about him and it's kindve annoying but i just like him too much.

He said he didnt want one at the mo... but i dunno... aaahh i really like him and it kinda depresses me when he doesnt talk much on yahoo.

[spongebobsgirl]

to be honest, i think that jack's immature mates may be affecting how he acts around people, i.e. you!
If his mates aren't going on this italian exchange, then maybe that will give you the chance to get to know him more. Dont get your hopes up tho, as he's already said he doesnt want a g.f at the mo, just be friendly, but not really heavy!
Id also mention to your friend about how much you'd hate a mate to do that to you, as bumblebee said!
good luck
SBG

[briggi]

His friends sound like immature losers, but that's a pretty common personality trait for 14/15 year olds :p

He's pretty obviously being led by his mates, and even if he does like you he's probably not willing to put up with their comments and jokes in order to go out with you.

It's already been said, but I'd advise you to wait until this exchange...where you might get the chance to chat properly face-to-face, and also without his 'mates' around. In the meantime, give it a bit of breathing space..you've already laid your cards on the table (by telling him you like him!) so it's up to him to make the effort now.

Hope it works out for you, but if it doesn't then he probably isn't worth it anyway. You might even meet some Italian hunk on this exchange :flirt: :naughty:

[Fish_food]

Mark said ages ago like would you go out with jack etc and kept pestering me but jack had gone round the back of this building... maybe to hide from mark?

i knew i didnt want to say yes to Mark because he had just assumed i like Jack but that day i told Jack.

I think i will wait until the exchange to properly get to know him... but i just really want to speak to him etc

[BumbleBee]

fish_food, a good plan of action would be to cut down on talking to him on yahoo. You don't have to strike up a conversation every time you're both online, even the best of friends don't do that.

As has already been said it sounds like he is getting stick of his mates which will make him wary of you. No matter how hard it is just play it cool and stop being so desperate. Also, stop reading so much into the little things like the lack of kisses at the end of an instant messaging conversation.

[Fish_food]

thanks bumblebee... I will try hard tomorrow to speak to him at school... but if he is late for the lesson we are both in then i doubt i will be able to.

next time hes on yahoo ill only say hi if he does?

o god i just cant stop thinking about him!!!

[nicebutdim23]

u dont even need to say hi - he will know u r there. he obviously needs u to back off a bit...if ur waiting til the exchange just play it a bit cooler til then, blokes really REALLY hate over keen girls, and u dont want to blow everything

[Franki]

fish_food, a good plan of action would be to cut down on talking to him on yahoo. You don't have to strike up a conversation every time you're both online, even the best of friends don't do that.

As has already been said it sounds like he is getting stick of his mates which will make him wary of you. No matter how hard it is just play it cool and stop being so desperate. Also, stop reading so much into the little things like the lack of kisses at the end of an instant messaging conversation.

Agreed. Especially about the first part and the last sentence.

There are so many people on MSN that I talk to really rarely, but I consider to be some of my best friends. Of course, when I do talk to them it tends to be REALLY long conversations, but sometimes conversation just stops, and it's not like I'm particularly bothered.

The the kisses thing...don't read too much into it. A few little x's after good bye means nothing in the long run.

[Fish_food]

okydoke... just sometimes he would put like 30 x's... and then i liked it lol i s'pose its cos ive never had a boyfriend... hmmm....