House Husband

[Orioninaspin]

Ive been ill for quite a while with stomach problems, concentration and memory probs but during this ive met a lovely woman and we got engaged a few months ago. She has bought a house and we are planning to move in together and ive said that i will do all the house work, ironing, cleaning and cooking etc as well as give her £120 a month (all i can afford) and take her to work and pick her up. Is this enough with bills of around 500 per month between us? Also are there any house husbands out there and how do you cope, does the role reversal mean that your partner respects you less as a man or does she value you more because your willing to do all those jobs that arent traditionally male?

[Replicant]

if £120 a month is all you can afford, then it is more than enough
especially with her working, means that she will be the one bringing in the money, and paying the bills.
I'm sure that's the way it is with many couples - one at home and one working brining in money for the bills etc.
and with you doing all those things, I doubt there is any risk of her thinking you're leeching off her, in fact she's probably very happy with the situation you two are in :yes:

especially to have bought a house and to be moving in together...
you both just need to make sure that neither of you ever ever take what the other one does for granted :)
good luck with it all, i'm sure it'll work out great :thumb:

[lucifer devil]

Ive been ill for quite a while with stomach problems, concentration and memory probs but during this ive met a lovely woman and we got engaged a few months ago. She has bought a house and we are planning to move in together and ive said that i will do all the house work, ironing, cleaning and cooking etc as well as give her £120 a month (all i can afford) and take her to work and pick her up. Is this enough with bills of around 500 per month between us? Also are there any house husbands out there and how do you cope, does the role reversal mean that your partner respects you less as a man or does she value you more because your willing to do all those jobs that arent traditionally male?

well if she's ok with it then try not to worry. will you be unable to return to work for the forseeable future?

[Orioninaspin]

Well the next hospital appt isnt for a while yet but the test results might be a little quicker so there is hope but at the moment ive no idea unfortunately... :banghead:

[Kermit]

I'm in temporary employment at the minute, so when I don't have a placement I do the housework, the cooking, etc etc. Don't see a problem with it, except the washing-up is knackering my hands:(

If you're not earning you can't pay half. No doubt in the future she'll be the one being supported by you, relationships have this sometimes.

[Makoto]

I think a lot of blokes do it these days. I know if I had a house with a girl I'd deffinatly do a lot round the house. Also I'm sure the 120 quid is fine, spose if you have doubts then just ask her, she'll probably be glad you can talk to her about stuff that is worrying you, it's partly what having a partner is about, being able to talk and get stuff off your chest.

Get betta soon tho :thumb:

[Olive]

if you can't work, you can't work. it works both ways. maybe in the future you'll need to support her.

the only thing i would be worried about is her struggling to pay all the bills. but it depends how much she earns, and you should really chat about that with her.