Other woman...

[blue84]

ok perhaps its just me being paranoid but i'll set the scene and see what you think..

I started seeing a guy about 6 weeks ago, and all has gone really well so far. He is new to the area so hasn't got many mates here and no exes to speak of here.

This last week i've not seen much of him as i've had a lot to do for uni, but not a problem as still spoke a lot.

I was with him yesterday when he got a call on his mobile. He looked to see who was calling, sighed and then turned the phone to silent. Next thing the house phone starts ringing, but he seems puzzled as he says not many people have that number. Anyway it stopped ringing before he got to it and we just presumed that it was either for his flatmate or wrong number.

An hour or so later it rings and his flatmate's boyfriend answers, then calls my boyf and says its for him..again he looks puzzled, but goes to take the call in the lounge. Not wanting to seem rude i stay in his room whilst he takes the call (in the company of his flatmate and her bf).

My bf was gone about 20 mins but upon return says it was "A friend i used to go out with, keeps calling me, won't leave me alone". And that was that nothing more said.

I wasn't sure how to react but aside from that there hasnt been any other noticable changes in my boyfriend.

should i be worried? :confused:

any suggestions or help would be much appreciated guys
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[blue84]

Please guys id really appreciate some advice on this?

[Kelly]

Since, you haven't noticed any change in his behaviour, I think you don't have to worry about it. The only thing that would make me upset is why he was talking to her for 20 min. if she was bothering him...

[malteser monkay]

Maybe she's an awkward ex whose tracked his number down and is difficult to shake off. The type that if you don't hear out to the end, or if you put the phone down...they call...over and over and over...I would trust him, even speak to him about it. A bloke I used to see has been calling and texting me all the time recently, I also turn the phone to silent. It get's you down and I know I needed understanding from my bloke, cause after falling a number of times due to this bloke, we realised he was getting between us, and we talked about it and I've attempted to deal with it as best as I could have. Speak to him, even if you've only been with him a while, ask him if he's ok, whether she was meant to have his number and sympathise with him. Trust him though, don't come over all over protective or really sad about someone who might be hounding him, it's not his fault!

Malt xxx