Two girls after my body...

[Bri-namite]

...well maybe :razz:

Basically, there's two girls on the scene at the moment, and neither situation is exactly ideal.

First girl is a girl at my work. Have sort of sown the seed by giving her a loan of my Home Alone 2 DVD, and we've been sort of flirting (even though she does that annoying thing that girls do of giving out mixed signals and playing it cool). She's gorgeous, got no baggage and is lovely. Only thing is that the general manager at work doesn't like staff having relationships, and if she finds out then one of us would have to get a transfer to the other Mecca in the town.

Second girl is a girl I met on the town a few weeks ago. She seems a lot keener and stuff, and I really like her too. Thing is, she's not even 17 yet (she looks older) and I'm 21. In theory it wouldn't be that much of an issue because we click and I'm also never pushy about the physical side of a relationship. But in practice, it's a bit tricky (sure you can imagine). But like I say, I think she's slightly more interested than the first girl.

So I'm pretty confused. To be honest, I've had about a years worth of not having a relationship, and I'm still a bit unsure because of the shit I got last time out.

It's also hard to decide. because I genuinely do like them both, but in different ways. I also in no way assume that they both totally would go for me, it's just a matter of deciding things. Which I' needing a bit of help with.

Any ideas would be wicked :thumb:

[eseses]

Well working with the same woman/guy people find it annoying.
but i was going to say about the 17 year old her parents might be strict and not let her go to your house or say in and have to do certain things depending on the parents they might have a little dislike to you as you begin in your twentys and shes not a adult yet.
Also if you go out to club/ pub who are strict about Id issues she will have no Id and you have just wasted a night what will annoy you and she might be to acted stupid or do things what you would not dream of now ? you may think she is mature but she might change when you get to know her more
but my friend is 17 going out with a 26 year and they seem to get on well been together for more then 2 years now

[aimz]

i'd say the keener one too, although she is a bit young and might not be on the same emotional level as you are in life as you have been through more, but then again some people surprise you... so try the keener one and if it dont work then dont worry about it and flirt with the other one, you can never have too many contacts in that area :naughty:

good luck x

[lucifer devil]

the younger one may help you to feel young again. :yes: :p

ignoring whether you work with her or how old she is, the question is which one do you like more and which one's company do you enjoy the most?

[Cuddilicious]

Might as well go for it with the one that is keen in ya. No harm in seeing how things kick off. If all goes well... Great!! You got yourself a relationship. If not, well then, if this other girl at work is really worth it, then ask her out and see how that goes.

[briggi]

To be honest, I'd have to disagree with the majority here and say the girl at work sounds like a better bet...obviously without actually knowing her, or you, or anything about the situation really :p

I met my fella at work and we had that flirty, slightly awkward relationship at first. We were always bantering and got on fine, but I always held back a bit (which probably seemed to him to be "blowing hot and cold") mainly because of the fact we were at work, and there's always that worry in the back of your mind about things going pear-shaped. The real ice breaker for us was his lending me a CD, so quite similar to your DVD thing, and then we started talking about music, went out for a drink and the rest is history. I'd guess that if you're getting 'vibes' that she likes you, she actually does, and is just concerned with the working together issue. Alternatively, she might just not like you that much ;) It's your call, depending on what shifts you work together and what time you finish, it wouldn't be hard to ask her out for a drink afterwards - either spontaneously, or for the next day/night you're in work together.

As for the other lass, it's obviously more encouraging since she's very apparently interested. If you think she's mature and all that, then there's no reason to let something as insignifigant as age stop you. She's legally old enough to have a sexual relationship, and you can't put age confines on the emotional stuff...she's either a mature 16, or not. Clearly, that hasn't been much help, heh. All in all I'd say just follow your instincts, I'm sure you know which you like better anyway...but don't just automatically go for the one who likes you best. Never a good foundation for a relationship :)

[malteser monkay]

I'll agree with briggi, cause although I met my bloke in college and we work at the same place too. I like having him there, some people might think 'God give me space' but he works upstairs so I only see him if I go for a wander around the store and...personally find it a lot of fun. Mind you, (people are gonna think I date everyone in the workplace) when I first got my job, my bf of the time decided to apply and got a job downstairs. I found that really frustrating cause he's so mature and finds everything so easy and it was like I didn't want him to be apart of that then so I could do something indendently and splitting up with him and him still being around was really hard and awkward and upsetting cause we couldn't talk properly and every now and again catch each others eyes unintentionally...upsetting!! Did have a lil trial thing with a bloke on my floor, still good mates and it doesn't affect our 'working relationship', we still have a laugh and place it in the 'past' pile. Just the top floor home department to cover now... :razz:

The younger may not be on the same wavelength as you, although distanced from you in the close working proxemics sense!...still only working off my experience and not really knowing the girl, she may well be someone you're easy with and have a great time getting to know, it's just if you're comfortable with the quite small age gap, then you'll be fine...

I'm useless, I think the work bird...!!

Malt xxx :D

[Bri-namite]

Cheers guys.

It's actually really bizarre because I honestly do like them both but in different ways, and I usually cringe at cliches like that.

I'm sort of scared about the younger girl, because even my first serious relationship almost four years ago was with a 16 year old, and it's just weird that it might be happening again. I know everybodys different and there's nothing wrong with it as such, it's just I know I've changed so much since I was 16 and is it really fair to start a relationship with someone that's maybe a lot more naive and less experienced than me?

Then I think the other girl might be a better idea, it'd be piss easy to ask her out (we lock up together on Tuesday nights when I'm working and we're together quite a bit) and I think we're maybe on a closer emotional level. But then we'd probably spend the rest of the time keeping it quiet, and I'm just dreadingthe thought of getting busted by management and one of us gets the boot, especially when it's sometimes hard to help feelings.

So confusing. I'm not even that bothered about having a relationship, but it sometimes just all builds up and I get in a tizz :(

[Char_Baby]

go for the girl at work, you wouldnt be able to take the younger one at and she could be a bit immature for what your into. and your boss need never know

anyway i dont see how he has the right to split you up anyway

[Makoto]

Both, keep them both so you have a fall back plan ;). Stay friendly with one your not so keen on and if anything goes wrong with the one you are keen on, you've always got the other girl which you can get more... friendly with. Sorted.

[briggi]

Then I think the other girl might be a better idea, it'd be piss easy to ask her out (we lock up together on Tuesday nights when I'm working and we're together quite a bit) and I think we're maybe on a closer emotional level. But then we'd probably spend the rest of the time keeping it quiet, and I'm just dreadingthe thought of getting busted by management and one of us gets the boot, especially when it's sometimes hard to help feelings.

Is there actually some stipulation in your work handbook (if you ever got one of those elusive things) or have you ever indeed been told that it's not allowed to get involved with a colleague. Because I know it was frowned upon at my work (despite many couples I know having met there), but not actually officially "not allowed". Maybe it's one of those things you could just keep on the down-low, were a relationship to develop, or something you could just go about normally without making an issue out of it at work. If the relationship doesn't affect your work standards or anything like that then it's hard to see how this manager could make an issue, or indeed sack one of you because of it. That said, we all know what arses management can be, and I've known the odd one that probably would make good on that kind of threat. I suppose you've already assessed all this in your head anyway :)

As for close-down/lock up shifts, I've always found they can be fantastic for one's love life...provided you're not on with some 80 year old stick-in-the-mud - unless that's your kind of thing :p

What you've said about the 16 year old just there, is what I was trying to articulate...or at least what I was thinking when I posted before. While it's possibility she could be on exactly the same wavelength as you, and an ideal girlfriend, it's equally possible that she's still out for a daft laugh. Not to say you aren't, but obviously you want a bit more than that if you're going to throw yourself into a relationship again...since you seem to have been through the mill in your last one. Ah, I'll shut up now :D

[Bri-namite]

go for the girl at work, you wouldnt be able to take the younger one at and she could be a bit immature for what your into. and your boss need never know

anyway i dont see how he has the right to split you up anyway

Gossip has a funny way of spreading round my workplace.

Take today when I was in town, I bumped into someone I work with. Then about 5 seconds after I left her, I bumped into someone else from my work. That tends to happen a lot. I think it's pretty inevitable that if I was with that girl, then it'd have filtered up to management somehow.

And the general manager is an old battleaxe.

Sadly :(

Is there actually some stipulation in your work handbook (if you ever got one of those elusive things) or have you ever indeed been told that it's not allowed to get involved with a colleague. Because I know it was frowned upon at my work (despite many couples I know having met there), but not actually officially "not allowed". Maybe it's one of those things you could just keep on the down-low, were a relationship to develop, or something you could just go about normally without making an issue out of it at work.

There's a track record of it, I'm afraid.

One girl I work with is engaged to a manager that didn't work there anymore. He came back, so she had to go. Even worse, this lady who'd worked there for years had her grandson start woking there, and when the GM found out about it, he had to leave too.

Pretty pathetic really, I've also got zero discreetness, so I'd more than likely end up giving the game away, even at the formative stages of a relationship.

Maybe it's just a case of crossing bridges when I come to them, I dunno.

[malteser monkay]

Management know about me and my bloke...they're pretty good about it. Like when I go up to tell him when I'm having lunch before the store is open, they might make a joke about it, I've cashed up early before now and they've talked about him to me and we have lunch together in the canteen they might make a joke, but apart from that, as long as you're not all over each other, really affectionate etc...cause I'm always quite professional, just respectful really as my job isn't to faff with me bloke, it's to work, which I do do and work hard.

Keep it outside of work, have the fun of resisting temptation...!

Malt xxx :D

[morrocan roll]

Both, keep them both so you have a fall back plan ;). Stay friendly with one your not so keen on and if anything goes wrong with the one you are keen on, you've always got the other girl which you can get more... friendly with. Sorted.
sounds more like real life to me.

[pinkslippers]

Isn't it not unfair dismissal if they laid one of you off? Unless it has been stated in your work handbook, or on your latest contract then there has been no agreement made. I know that don't date people at work rule normally only applies for management and staff.

[morrocan roll]

only applies for management and staff.
well obviously not for the bleedin customers!

[pinkslippers]

removed

[Bri-namite]

Going for a drink with the girl from work tomorrow night.

Not heard from the younger one for a few days.

Hmm.

[*Groovaybaby*]

Ah well good luck Bri, Hope all goes well x

[briggi]

Going for a drink with the girl from work tomorrow night.

Not heard from the younger one for a few days.

Hmm.

Even though it's got bugger all to do with me, I'm glad it's worked out that you're going out with the girl from work. Don't know why, I'm just weird and it's late :p

Have fun!