Getting on

[edn1]

I know this might sound, well mad or something but i think im starting to feel like i'm ready to meet a girl and settle down with her. Its kinda mad to me because i havent actually ever had a real relationship with a girl yet now i have started to feel this way. I havent felt like this before though. Its just kinda hitting me that im 23 this year ( yes i know im still young ) and i havent really achieved anything in life really, let alone have a proper relationship.

I dunno, im just kinda thinking out loud i guess.

Is this normal to feel like this at such a youg age ?

Any adice at all guys & girls? Thank you

:)

[Yerascrote]

I know this might sound, well mad or something but i think im starting to feel like i'm ready to meet a girl and settle down with her. Its kinda mad to me because i havent actually ever had a real relationship with a girl yet now i have started to feel this way. I havent felt like this before though. Its just kinda hitting me that im 23 this year ( yes i know im still young ) and i havent really achieved anything in life really, let alone have a proper relationship.

I dunno, im just kinda thinking out loud i guess.

Is this normal to feel like this at such a youg age ?

Any adice at all guys & girls? Thank you

:)

i know what you feel like even though i'm younger, i've never had a girlfriend in my life, had plenty of girls just no girlfriends, becoming to feel really insecure now and feel that i want to settle down with someone i like and there is this girl i love but it's just one of those things where we both want each other but no one is doing anything about it, i hate it.

[morrocan roll]

perfectly normal.
don't worry about it ...hold on to your hair and money a little while longer.

[Bri-namite]

It's normal to feel like that, a lot of my mates are in long term relationships now and it sort of freaks me out, because I'm nowhere near ready to settle down.

I sort of feel like I've still a lot of wild nights out on the town ahead of me, and a proper relationship would just fuck that up.

TThe only thing in your situation is that if you haven't had a real relationship yet that it might make it harder to go straight from that to settling down, if you see what I mean?

Go for it though :thumb:

[*milky way*]

I'm going to be 23 this year too and its hitting me how much stuff I want to do/achieve in my twenties. I've always wanted to have kids when I was 24/25 but haven't found the right man. My BF is lovely but I can't see us settling down together or having kids. My housemate brought a wedding magazine and we were all looking through it so it got me onto that. Its all far too much to plan. Also I'm probably not gonna get onto my teaching course this year so will have to wait another year for that, which leaves me at 25 before I even start earning money/having a career.

Although when I'm being sensible I know I'm only young and that everyone has plenty of time to settle down and I would say its probably not the norm anymore to settle down in your twenties, but more like in your thirties and thats ages away! I'm sure the feelings your having is just a moment of panic, don't worry we all get them. Even the people I know who have been in 3 or 4 year relationships panic about who and where they are going to end up with.

[rachie004]

mail order bride? :p

(just kidding, I love ya really)

[edn1]

mail order bride? :p

(just kidding, I love ya really)

:heart: ;)

Hm i recall a website a certain someone once showed me :p .. yes ;p

I havent given this much thought today coz im been far too busy at work, and right now im almost raedy to fall asleep. But its deffinetly how im starting to kinda feel ... Hmm... As things are going good fo rme atm a g/f should be the next are i should have luck with ;)

[Makoto]

www.bride.ru - their not after a passport, honest.

I've felt like that, not really the settling down thing tho. I'd say at some stange in our lives we all feel this way tbh.

[briggi]

To be honest I agree with what everyone else has said. Everyone feels this way from time to time, and it's exacerbated when you aren't in that relationship you see as ideal. The thing is, you probably idealise the illusion of "coupledom" even more because you've never been in a proper relationship before. I'm not going to insult your intelligence by saying "oh you aren't missing out on anything" because the right relationship can be fantastic. It's important not to actively seek a girlfriend though, because that's precisely when things don't work out and will end up disappointing you.

It's a bit hard to articulate, but in my opinion you shouldn't be reaching a point in life where you think "right, now I need a proper relationship". While obviously everyone reaches a point where they're ready for that level of commitment and have matured sufficiently, I think those thoughts of "settling down" should come after the relationship has begun, not before. If you do it the other way round, you might start dating someone who isn't worth their salt, or who isn't as mature as you are, but you'll pin your hopes on a relationship with them and then one of both of you might end up getting hurt.

I know it's easy to say, but it's best to let these things grow organically (not to sound like a farmer :p ) , don't force it and don't settle for second best. Just chill, enjoy your work and your life and take things as they come. It's more likely to provide you with the things you want, in the long run :)