strange urges

[Rainbow Phoenix]

Hi

I keep gettingg strange urges to contact me ex (who stopped contacting me in April) but I don't know why. Thing is he treat me really bad towards the end and eveb cheated on me (well I'm 99% sure he did as are all my mates). I don't have any romantic feelings left at all my emotions vary from pity (that he could stoop so low) to anger (how dare he). Also whilst I loved him its noithing compared to what I feel for my current bloke who is my everything. So why the urge to contact him?

Phoenix

[malteser monkay]

Are there are problems in your current relationship - reptitiveness, a bit 'dull'? Just feeling a bit nostalgic and odd - this may pass? Maybe you feel like you wanna see if he's treating the next person better - I used to get that with one of my ex's. I find out he's treating his next woman like a goddess and it just me really angry and wanting to attack him for hurting me like he did.

Malt xx

Not really sure, sorry for being useless!!

[Rainbow Phoenix]

hmm I'd say no. I guess the only frustrating things are we are in a LDR (soon to change woopie) and he has a lot health problems which get us both down but we fight through them together. He treats me so much better too and is so much more loving, doesn't put his pc first

[RudeBwoy]

Maybe your just curious on how hes treating another girl (if he is seeing someone that is) and maybe you wanna compare your current relationship to the one he has now in the hope your one is sooooooo much better (which i guess it is).

If he cheated on you for no reason then hes an arsehole, sorry but point made.

Personally i never wanna speak to my ex again, but thats me...

[malteser monkay]

See I like yapping to my previous ex, he was bestest bud and I missed just have that really close person to talk. I mean, I used to really want to be in his life when we split and even seeing other people I found myself more interested in how his relationships were going and felt hurt and cheated when he got with someone new. Then I got with my current bf, and I couldn't care less about my ex's going ons and am only too happy for him to be getting on with someone else, mainly cause I know he was doing his rounds with my lady friends when I was with him "I won't be with Malt much longer...your my next though right?" and also can I feel have something better that him and am with someone who I'm incredibly happy with...so to me it indicates that the other relationships weren't up to that lovey dovey amazing standard to make me feel like I'd found something better...I had found someone who would do for the time being but had no real 'umpth' that made me go "Wow...you're amazing...you're the best thing ever"...if ya see what I mean??!

Malt xx :D