Rocks
17-01-2005, 05:23 PM
OK after a very disastrous 2004 in terms of love life, I came into this year with quite a bit of a distrust of girls and their motives in general, and feeling for the first time in about three years that I was happy with singleness for a while. I've simplified my life in many areas, and I'm the happiest and most stress-free I've been for ages... then...
I went down to the bar last week for a quiet drink, and bumped into a mate who was going out, and he persuaded me to join them (not that I need much persuading!). On the bus he introduced me to some girls, and I got chatting to the two nearest me, and we got off and one of their friends started walking with me, and we then talked a bit up to the club and kinda clicked instantly. Once inside, she stuck with me on one floor whilst the others went elsewhere, probably because of our similar interest in music and, to be honest, right from meeting her I was like :heart: . Usually I start *linking* a girl after knowing her for a month or two, this is the first time ever I've felt anything immediately. Then soon after arriving, my two best mates arrived, and we just had a rocking night. One of them reminded me we had some spare tickets to a gig we were going to, so I asked her and she said she'd love to come. Three times people tried to pull her during the night, and usually a girl with me buggers off with them, but she kept coming back to us. A couple of times her friends came to find her but each time she stayed - I thought girls on a night out with their friends always stuck together? I wasn't going to try to make a move or anything as I'm not like that, and she just seemed so nice I didn't want to ruin that. Anyway at the end of the night she left, giving us all a hug and a kiss, and glanced at me as she left, and that was that.
I went back to my mate's place, buzzing and getting really excited. The next morning, I was still in that mood. I texted her (as she asked me to e-mail her a couple of songs, so I just told her I'd done it) and she gave a cheery one back, saying she had a fun night, etc. but couldn't meet up for a drink in the evening as she had revision to do, but would do later in the week. So nothing wrong there.
Then I bumped into one of her friends who I met initially, and we had a long chat and she asked me if I'd like to go out with them again on Friday and gave me her number - she seemed really enthusiastic about me going with them, but it couldn't have been for her benefit as I'd only spoken to her for five minutes previously.
Anyway, enough of my waffling. Basically, am I reading too much into things and the girl doesn't feel the same about me in any way, or might I have a chance? And what should I do on Friday and at the gig next Friday? Don't want to do anything obvious as I've only just met them all and they're a really nice bunch, and I don't want to be labelled as the 'typical bloke' by them as they seem to trust me already. I just haven't been able to get my mind off her for days! :love: (as I said, this immediate 'feeling' hasn't happened to me before, I could just detect a lot of chemistry the other night).
Oh God been at this game for over a couple of years now and am STILL posting on message boards for advice :crying: I hate this dating lark! (hence why I was happy without it!)
I went down to the bar last week for a quiet drink, and bumped into a mate who was going out, and he persuaded me to join them (not that I need much persuading!). On the bus he introduced me to some girls, and I got chatting to the two nearest me, and we got off and one of their friends started walking with me, and we then talked a bit up to the club and kinda clicked instantly. Once inside, she stuck with me on one floor whilst the others went elsewhere, probably because of our similar interest in music and, to be honest, right from meeting her I was like :heart: . Usually I start *linking* a girl after knowing her for a month or two, this is the first time ever I've felt anything immediately. Then soon after arriving, my two best mates arrived, and we just had a rocking night. One of them reminded me we had some spare tickets to a gig we were going to, so I asked her and she said she'd love to come. Three times people tried to pull her during the night, and usually a girl with me buggers off with them, but she kept coming back to us. A couple of times her friends came to find her but each time she stayed - I thought girls on a night out with their friends always stuck together? I wasn't going to try to make a move or anything as I'm not like that, and she just seemed so nice I didn't want to ruin that. Anyway at the end of the night she left, giving us all a hug and a kiss, and glanced at me as she left, and that was that.
I went back to my mate's place, buzzing and getting really excited. The next morning, I was still in that mood. I texted her (as she asked me to e-mail her a couple of songs, so I just told her I'd done it) and she gave a cheery one back, saying she had a fun night, etc. but couldn't meet up for a drink in the evening as she had revision to do, but would do later in the week. So nothing wrong there.
Then I bumped into one of her friends who I met initially, and we had a long chat and she asked me if I'd like to go out with them again on Friday and gave me her number - she seemed really enthusiastic about me going with them, but it couldn't have been for her benefit as I'd only spoken to her for five minutes previously.
Anyway, enough of my waffling. Basically, am I reading too much into things and the girl doesn't feel the same about me in any way, or might I have a chance? And what should I do on Friday and at the gig next Friday? Don't want to do anything obvious as I've only just met them all and they're a really nice bunch, and I don't want to be labelled as the 'typical bloke' by them as they seem to trust me already. I just haven't been able to get my mind off her for days! :love: (as I said, this immediate 'feeling' hasn't happened to me before, I could just detect a lot of chemistry the other night).
Oh God been at this game for over a couple of years now and am STILL posting on message boards for advice :crying: I hate this dating lark! (hence why I was happy without it!)