relationships for the sake of not being lonely

[twisted_trinity]

i hate being single for more than 6 months, yeah great being single is brilliant sometimes you can do so much, but after a while it gets tedious and i get severly lonely.

i've now been single for 9 months, and i'm lonely as shite and hate it.

i've got to the point now where i'm even thinking about getting back with my ex, who i know will cheat on me and treat me crap just for the sake of not being lonely.

i really don't want to do this but i'm getting dragged into it. and i don't know what to do anymore.

please help! :(

[wheresmyplacebo]

personally i wouldnt do it, better off in no relationship than a shitty one in my opinion

[Maladjusted]

i'm the same as you, but just rememebr everytime you start to give in about how shit and miserable your ex made you, and about the good times you've had since then.

you're still young, something will come along.

[twisted_trinity]

Originally posted by wheresmyplacebo
personally i wouldnt do it, better off in no relationship than a shitty one in my opinion

i know, Chris, i know but i can't handle with feeling so lonely all the time. i feel like someone has left me on a desert island for dead with no way of getting off it.

[tombola]

I've been single for ages now, like over a year, but I don't mind. I guess I've got used to it! Although a girlfriend would be nice, I'm not going out on the pull every night.

[twisted_trinity]

Originally posted by Maladjusted
you're still young, something will come along.

you know what. i'm seriously starting to doubt that.

it really hurts to see all these guys falling over themselves for my best friend, really nice, genuine, lovely guys, and the only guy who would want to be within 10 feet of me treats me like shit. all they guys i've ever gone out with have just used me and abused me. but i can't stand being this lonely anymore. i'd rather just not be.

[paperBprincess]

i really just dont understand anyone anymore.

you'd rather be with some who treats you like crap and who is going to cause you way much more upset and depression and distress just because you feel a bit lonely?

hello. you're a teenager, no matter what guy you meet at the minute, the chances are you aren't going to be with him very long anyways.

the liklihood is that not having a guy isnt what makes you lonely. some of my friends are in great relationships but they still feel lonely as hell, you need to learn to treat yourself right and start to love yourself before thinking, in that oh so pop culture bridget jonesesque way, that a guy is going to solve all your problems.


sorry for the rant, loads of my friends are kinda in the same situation at the moment. but seriously, a guy wont solve all your problems and if you're feeling low anyways probably won't make you feel that much better either.

[katylou]

Being single can get mega lonley sometimes. Sometimes I feel like I just want to go to sleep and not wake up but whats the going to solve? Its pointless sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. Get off your arse and do something, get a new hobby or somthing. You really dont need a boy to make you happy. Getting back with an ex that treats you like shite is not the way to go.

[Kermit]

Originally posted by twisted_trinity
i feel like someone has left me on a desert island for dead with no way of getting off it.

And you'll feel that whether you're with your twat of an ex or not.

People don't save you. The sooner you learn that the better.

[StupidGirl]

I was thinking about this just about ten minutes ago while driving home. I recently broke up with a guy and although I'm glad not to be with him (because he is an ARSE!!! And a liar! But that's not the point) I really miss the companionship...having someone to sit under a duvet with and watch a DVD, etc etc. However, there's no way in hell I'd consider going back to someone I knew wasn't right for me, who had treated me badly, just for the sake of having that again. For one thing, I'd know it wasn't real...why would you want to do all that couply stuff with someone you know is mean and not worthy of you? Sure, I get lonely, particularly as the majority of my friends are in long-term relationships (including my housemate which truly sucks as they are in the "honeymoon" stage where they are all loved-up and snuggly - bleurgh). But I know it is only temporary and for the most part I'm just concentrating on getting back to me - doing my own thing, having fun and getting on with my life. It's a cliche, but relationships really do come along when you least expect them and you are at your most attractive when you are being yourself and comfortable and happy with who you are. Please don't think it will last forever...it won't. I'm sure I will find someone else, someone much better and you will too - but it's not the be all and end all. You only get one life, so live it - don't waste it on some arse who doesn't deserve one more minute of your time.

[twisted_trinity]

thanks guys.....

right now, i'm having a attack of conscience, and i'm rethinking everything.

and yeah, i'm trying to learn to be self suffucient and to love myself. i've been been living in a hole for 6 years, and i think now is a time to get myself out of it.

i'm 15, i've got the whole world at my feet, and probably one of the big reasons that people don't like me is because i don't like myself. if i did then they would possibly more. possitive only attracts the same and vice versa right?

:)