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Rainbow Phoenix
13-11-2004, 01:39 PM
Hi

I'm a little confused about my relationship with my work colleagues. At work there is a lot of backstabbing and bitching going on which I don't like and try to keep out of. As a result I dont really feel like I fit in and tend to spend lunch and break on my own.

Of late Ive been getting on better at work with people but this past week I've been struggling with the group I'm running and Ive asked for help from my senior and not really been given any. Also she seems to glare at me at lot.

What really upset me that on Thursday my manager asked me why I was only coughing a lot at break and lunch and I explained that I took my asthma medication then and as it opened my airways it made m e cough. She then started saying that I let my asthma rule my life and that my parents treat m e like a child with it. She was saying that what I see as an asthma attack is to her just part and parcel of the condition. What really upset me was that my senior and work partner joined in.

On Thursday night I had a bad asthma attack and my boyfriend said it seemed to turn into a panic too because I was gett8ing upsewt and hyper ventilating. I was still up for going to work but my boyfriend said he didnt think I was well enough and rung my manager who told him to tell me to not be so silly for worrying.

I'm scared of Monday and snide comments I think I might end up getting and I'm dreading going in.

What I dont get though is why it makes me feel so shitty :( and why I dont get on with them. In my last job I got on with colleages fine and m still in touch

Its really getting me down

Rainbow

girl with sharp teeth
13-11-2004, 03:06 PM
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Rainbow Phoenix
13-11-2004, 08:55 PM
unfortunately there are only 10 people in my office and my manager is the highest port of call

SuzyCreamcheese
13-11-2004, 08:59 PM
some managers are like that and its bad management. They pretend to be your friend so you feel like youre letting them down when really youre just looking after yourself.
I think shes wearing down your self esteem.

Kermit
13-11-2004, 08:59 PM
If it's a small business you might have to think about putting up or quitting.

But if it isn't, there are higher ports of call. Your manager has a manager, etc. It's normally in a company's best interests to listen to claims of bullying, not least because tribunals are exepsnive.